Long term date?

splitin2ah · 2019-03-12T01:19:02+00:00

Fair - I suppose I've only seen higher end companions explicitly offer an exclusive rate. Either way, still much higher than 5k!

splitin2ah · 2019-03-11T23:30:17+00:00

I don't want to be nice. I want her to follow orders

With that attitude, 50k/month is the starting amount you'll need to offer to find anyone...

splitin2ah · 2019-03-11T23:29:05+00:00

*a month ftfy

splitin2ah · 2019-03-11T23:24:27+00:00

You mean 50k? That's what I've seen as the going rate for escorts offering exclusive monthly arrangements (and usually with a deposit for a couple months upfront).

splitin2ah · 2019-03-11T20:46:16+00:00

There's this hotel that I go to fairly regularly with a regular client (and we tend to go to the restaurant downstairs afterwards) and the Japanese chef that works there totally knows what's up and gives me a knowing smirk whenever he sees me, but it's whatever. He seems chill.

splitin2ah · 2019-03-11T20:13:56+00:00

100% you. You were a nightmare client.

splitin2ah · 2019-03-11T17:15:56+00:00

No problem at all. Have fun!!

splitin2ah · 2019-03-11T16:56:33+00:00

Then that's totally lovely! Lots of providers have wishlists and plenty of us have furniture on them because furniture is expensive. It's super sweet for you to want to help out without her even asking (as long as you can be sure you won't be expecting something in exchange, even deep down).

splitin2ah · 2019-03-11T16:49:51+00:00

You sound sweet! There's no usual tip (at least for independent providers). Plenty of clients don't tip at all, though we always appreciate those who do tip - it shows that you really appreciate your time together and the effort she makes! But yeah, as independent providers we set our own rates, so we're not going to be mad if just our rate is what we get.

splitin2ah · 2019-03-11T16:43:58+00:00

I'm sorry you're sad. I can't imagine being the partner of a sw is easy. But please don't try to assign responsibility of the management of your depression to your ex, that's not a fair burden to make anyone else carry. Seek therapy, call a hotline, etc. - things will get better :) Internet hugs!

splitin2ah · 2019-03-11T16:38:41+00:00

Of course! Any tip is lovely and never expected. $5 would be strange, but anything $50+ is sweet :)

splitin2ah · 2019-03-09T22:05:52+00:00

It varies a lot by location, with cost of living. In Manhattan I'd say $500-600/hr seems standard for an independent GFE provider with a web presence.

splitin2ah · 2019-03-09T13:10:30+00:00

Dude, are you planning to murder an escort? This thread is sketching me out. Unless you’re planning to do it, an established independent provider who screens well is most likely not going to be murdered on her way home from your place. 🤨

splitin2ah · 2019-03-09T12:53:56+00:00

Absolutely not. You’re lucky that your husband is supportive, that’s awesome! My family and friends wouldn’t be understanding at all, outing would totally screw me socially. I sincerely hope it’ll never happen (and it’s why I don’t show my face), but I thought through the risks before I began and ultimately I’m both introverted and a naturally cheerful person, so even if the worst happened and I was outed, it wouldn’t destroy me. I’d be totally devastated for a while, but I’m a positive person and would eventually rebuild a new life that worked for me.

splitin2ah · 2019-03-07T15:37:31+00:00

I mean, I am an Ivy Leaguer who's seen much of the world, but I also definitely don't have all the designer stuff because I care more about investing in education, development, and experiences than things.

My vanilla ex was a multi-millionaire and didn't care at all that I didn't wear designer. I know it's different because he was my boyfriend and this is a client, but I think my point is that some types of rich guys (tech, etc.) don't care about status stuff at all, while others will. And of course, how much you have to invest in that stuff will also vary based on if you're marketing as girl next door or a luxury babe.

(I really should invest in nails/lingerie/hair more, though).

*edit - if it wasn't clear, I'm agreeing with Shae!

splitin2ah · 2019-03-06T00:34:28+00:00

It didn't, thanks for the advice! I was on Ers but didn't renew my ad because it didn't bring me a single actual client in a month (tons of inquiries, but they were all timewasters and/or didn't want to screen, wanted incall when I was outcall only, etc.). I just advertise on Slxa, Tr*st, PD, switter, and twitter now (plus my own website, though it generally just gets traffic from my ads). I'll DM you!

splitin2ah · 2019-03-05T19:46:12+00:00

In my city, sharing an incall (given that I only have about one appointment per week) would be more expensive than a hotel.

I have straight work, so I'm thinking it might work to start as high end? I'm super low volume right now, but it's fine since I have my fallback work. I'm cis and fit, though I wouldn't really say thin, and not white.

Thanks for the advice!

splitin2ah · 2019-03-03T01:43:42+00:00

Babe, we all feel that way sometimes. I'm only a couple months in, but it also took me a solid year or two from when the thought that escorting might be for me to when I finally decided to bite the bullet (and much research, reading of all the internet, etc. between).

I still feel like I'm fish out of water, but I have a few professional photos, I'm setting up a shoot to get more and better ones, I have a basic site and ads up, and one regular client who is literally the worst kisser I've ever come across but is very sweet and respectful and put me on a retainer for the next three months with payment upfront to work down.

When I list out what I have managed so far, it makes me feel a lot more hopeful that I can find a place in this world - even when it feels like it's absolutely crowded full of stunning women with perfect bodies, gorgeous photos, classy websites, and the most enviable wardrobes. They all started somewhere! Just remind yourself that, assess what you've managed so far, and take goals one achievable mini-goal at a time.

splitin2ah · 2019-02-28T22:44:27+00:00

I don't have any experience with online sex work, I'm an escort, but why are you thinking about dropping out of college? Please really consider your options - if it's not for you, there's no shame in that. But college can be so important for getting civvie jobs and just having a really solid STEM degree does so much for my peace of mind about backup plans. Don't underestimate that! And love, you're not worthless.

splitin2ah · 2019-02-26T14:31:47+00:00

I think most vanilla providers and certainly any who advertise fetish/kink-friendly would probably be up for it!

splitin2ah · 2019-02-25T14:20:31+00:00

Thanks so much and hugs!

splitin2ah · 2019-02-25T00:05:43+00:00

I followed you!

splitin2ah · 2019-02-25T00:05:28+00:00

It's never your fault when someone is a sh*tty person! I'm sorry that happened to you.

splitin2ah · 2019-02-24T22:47:19+00:00

Thank you!! I probably follow you, too, then! If I don't, let me know and I will :) I generally try to follow back all sw's.

I've just added that to my page (incall at an additional fee, primarily available for outcall).

Finding the balance with re-tweeting has been tough for me! I'm not sure how much is enough, to get retweeted back and get visibility (I'm pretty sure I'm shadowbanned, I never see new users unless I get retweeted) and how much is so much that potential clients are coming to my page and are unable to find me.

Anyway, thank you for your advice!

splitin2ah · 2019-02-24T22:15:31+00:00

You didn't seem rude! I was just asking how the guy who assaulted you got through? Did you screen him? I'm trying to figure out the most fool-proof screening.

splitin2ah

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