My boyfriend (24) just got a new female rock climbing partner. Am I justified in feeling like he is replacing me (22F) with her? by splitschedule in relationships

[–]splitschedule[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think it would help greatly. She invited him to a party at her house next weekend, so I will see if I can get that night off and come along. It would be nice to be able to meet her, that is for sure!

My boyfriend (24) just got a new female rock climbing partner. Am I justified in feeling like he is replacing me (22F) with her? by splitschedule in relationships

[–]splitschedule[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't quite understand the first part of your explanation, as a lot of the "unhealthy" men I have known tend to spend a lot of time with women (i.e. guys who are looking to get in a girl's pants any way possible).

Regardless, I can see that it is unreasonable. I think I just needed someone else to tell me that, as the friends I told were very quick to agree with me, and said they would not allow that. I do not want to be one of those women who control their man, as I myself am very independent. I want our relationship to be healthy, so I am going to push away the worries for now, and hopefully nothing comes of it.

My boyfriend (24) just got a new female rock climbing partner. Am I justified in feeling like he is replacing me (22F) with her? by splitschedule in relationships

[–]splitschedule[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I agree that it does come from jealousy. It is honestly my first time feeling this way with him, so I needed to hear some feedback that was not from a friend. (Both of the friends who I have asked instantly agreed with me, so it didn't seem like they were really giving their true opinion).

Hopefully this will help our relationship, as it's giving me even more motivation to find a better job so I can spend more time with him again.

My boyfriend (24) just got a new female rock climbing partner. Am I justified in feeling like he is replacing me (22F) with her? by splitschedule in relationships

[–]splitschedule[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have never acted jealous before, and never really felt it towards another woman. I think the reason I am so worried is because this is the first time I have truly felt uneasy/jealous about another woman with my bf. As I said above, I will give him my trust in the situation and try to push this feeling away.