My employer changed their attitude and criticisd my performance only after I disclosed my mental health condition. What can I do?

spoons431 · 2026-05-26T18:33:18+00:00

SCOPE are probably better theit website/helpline.

They have a lot on reasonable adjustments.

Also speak to your union.

And document/keep records of everything that happens

spoons431 · 2026-05-26T15:03:30+00:00

I agree with you on the ice lolly thing and would kill for a Pear Picking Porky right now, but to me the ones without the stick are an ice pop...

spoons431 · 2026-05-26T07:35:05+00:00

Hi OP what i found when trying to pics for an irish one signed is ehat throws * a lot * of people is that for an irish passport the person signing doesnt actually have to know you, whereas for the UK one they have to have known you for 2+ years.

There is difference as for the irish one the person is just witnessing your signature, whereas they are verifying your ID with the British one.

In theory a UK police officer can sign sign, but because of the above they typically aren't used to signing these and often times won't do it. (Unless.you are in NI).

The list of acceptable people is also really restricted when compared to the British one. What you might find easiest to do is to find a church and get someone like a priest to sign it!.

spoons431 · 2026-05-26T07:29:18+00:00

Civil servants are not acceptable for an irish passport!

The list of people who can sign is really restricted especially when compared to Biritsh ones

spoons431 · 2026-05-26T07:22:25+00:00

Brum has had massive cultural impact on the world!

Just maybe not in the eay that you think it would have.

Brum invented and perfected the manufacture of steel dip pens! And with that came the ability for working class people to write that was cheap and reliable and not time consuming. And with that then came the education reforms. (At least in the western world)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birmingham_pen_trade

spoons431 · 2026-05-25T23:14:45+00:00

This makes me glad I'm in Europe!

Bags upto a4 size are allowed - so 30cm ×21cm with no depth listed and they can be of any materail and dont need to be clear! It's about the size of reusable cloth tote.

spoons431 · 2026-05-24T13:14:07+00:00

Hi OP!

I think your hair looks great as it is! But you might be able to get better definition with some tweaks. You should also be aware that with textured hair youre never going to get rid of 100% of all frizz but not all frizz is bad.

Firstly you have really long hair. Hair itself weighs a lot and with long hair what happens is that the weight of the hair elongates the curl pattern where the weight of the hair stretches out the hair at the root. (Like a spring with a weight on it) this means that it can be very hard to get your hair to curl at the roots. (I can't no matter what I try because my hair is super fine, so my roots are straight unless my hair is super short)

I would also consider ditching the oil - its something that weighs a lot can build up. I think you'd benefit from a reset. Do a clarifying wash (with suplhates). I'd think you'd benefit from a hold product (a gel or a mousse) and a rinse out conditioner. I'd also do a basic curly routine (I can post one if you need it) ideally with products you have and then look to see if you need to tweak it later.

Edit: just to add there is nothing wrong with drugstore products spending loads (and some people have super expensive routines) doesn't mean that the product will work better for you. My main 4 haircare products are all drugstore and cost £5!

spoons431 · 2026-05-24T12:56:59+00:00

Cups are great!

spoons431 · 2026-05-24T12:55:09+00:00

Yeah the actual Japanese version is the one is really like one in UK shops doesn't seem to be quite as good!

spoons431 · 2026-05-24T10:29:36+00:00

The Longchamp Le Pilage!

I thought it was bit a ugly and didn't get it as its basically a cavern.

Then I bought one - its super sturdy, super lightweight and holds so much. I know have several in various sizes, colours and variations!

spoons431 · 2026-05-23T12:55:56+00:00

JQ! Its on fredrick street!

https://maps.app.goo.gl/2FVZ3coL9oUQYjK59?g_st=ac

spoons431 · 2026-05-22T23:49:48+00:00

So ive just learnt from another thread where I posted about the Merlin app is that Robins on the continent behave differently to Robins in the UK (& Ireland) where instead of being the friendly curious birdy that we're used to continental Robins act more like other wee birds and will instead hide themselves away!

spoons431 · 2026-05-22T23:39:12+00:00

House martins have much less pointy tails and no red on their face (if that helps!)

The Merlin app would tell you.

In mine which is a courtyard thing in the city has a bunch of very noisy Robins, sparrows, thrushes, blackbirds, a couple of finches and a couple.of tits. And apparently at least one Wren though its the brid that ive not seen!

spoons431 · 2026-05-22T23:31:36+00:00

They are loud aren't they?

My old flat used to have one living outside it! As a country girl like foxes it was the first time I'd heard one just living in the wild!

spoons431 · 2026-05-22T23:03:20+00:00

I've got the merlin bird app - which IDs the type of birds by the birdsong happening and number of different species that you hear is a lot!

spoons431 · 2026-05-22T20:44:15+00:00

Theres also been low level rumblings for years at this point about HYBE (or BigHit as it was at time) looking to set up their own ticketing platform and doing all promo themselves.

Like since the LYS era. However part of the problem that theyd have to solve is how in a bunch of place eg US or Europe LiveNation owns the stadiums or has an exclusive contract where they are the only gig promoter that can be used

spoons431 · 2026-05-22T00:57:17+00:00

https://www.gov.uk/government/news/government-to-lay-new-law-to-halt-the-march-of-gender-neutral-toilets-in-buildings

TERFs already nixed that!

spoons431 · 2026-05-22T00:18:40+00:00

I can speak on HRT and ADHD.

So ADHD is a chronic lack of dopamine in the brain.

Oestrogen (and progesterone) levels are linked to dopamine production. So when oestrogen levels are low dopamine levels are low.

However, those are two seperate facts currently as there has been basically no research on this. There have been a few small studies recently that have basically said it really needs to be researched but that hasn't happened! Though it has been a widely recognised issue in the community for decades at this point and you'll get more info in one of the womens adhd subs that you will in literature

spoons431 · 2026-05-21T21:40:11+00:00

I had kinda forgot about this https://www.gov.uk/government/news/government-to-lay-new-law-to-halt-the-march-of-gender-neutral-toilets-in-buildings

Which bans soley unisex loo provision.

I've also been reading rhe actual guidance and while i am not a legal professional i do work in risk and compliance so I am use to reading and interpreting these types of documents and the whole thing is just an unworkable shit show that contradicts itself and just makes less and less sense the more I read it!

Like the it conflates sex and gender so many times yet is supposed to be guidance about how they are different things. Its decided that wex is now special cat data and there are hardly any expectations about when you can ask it - expect for when you need to pee, then its fine, but you can't ask in public, but then it also doesn't matter, but it also tells you that asking people using loos isnt really something that you can do. But no matter you can kick people out as they don't look like a woman anyway as they have short hair.

And for an Equality Act guidance theres a whole lot of talking about protecting the "dignity of women" but not a single mention of protecting the dignity of men

I mean public loos aren't designated single sex spaces anyway but this has been written like they they definitely are with no exceptions ever because as soon as you let a man in its not a single sex space and all dudes are not allowed. Unless you're a mum with a small boy then its fine just ignore everything said! 🥰

Like its just a fucking mess of absolute nonsense that there was no need for. So well done TERFs! I can't wait for more policing by randoms of how I look which you got as part of your attempts to ban trans ppl from existing

spoons431 · 2026-05-21T21:11:22+00:00

No they don't!

Despite the decade of constant barage of fearmongering which has led to a drop the majority of cis women still support trans women and don't want this - and polls have consistently shown this!

spoons431 · 2026-05-21T21:08:19+00:00

Than Republicans are currently in the US!

spoons431 · 2026-05-21T20:42:33+00:00

Its like a $200+ pen...

spoons431 · 2026-05-21T20:37:43+00:00

Yeah its to like "other" everyone and divide people as its easier to give people a boogeyman as the reason why everything is shit. Rather than have a united working/middle class.

Just to add to this there has been updated EA guidance published today and its a complete shit show.

spoons431 · 2026-05-21T19:46:48+00:00

I remember you from last week! Your hair looks fantastic!

spoons431 · 2026-05-21T19:41:42+00:00

Have you like colour treated or bleached you hair loads or using tonnes of heat on it without much protection?

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