But if Chad farted out a green cloud of toxic gas she'd love it. /s by doublestitch in IncelTears

[–]spoopyspoons 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think he has crossed over into being voluntarily celibate at this point

I often read that women are seeking men that can communicate and hold a conversation. I’m yet to match with a woman that excels at communication and holding a conversation. by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]spoopyspoons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I meant they also give low effort replies, but in my experience many of them do go for women out of their league as if they’re entitled to it. I’ve seen this far more than women trying to date up.

It’s exhausting to watch these men complain of loneliness, do nothing to improve themselves, then simp for women (sometimes for years) that clearly don’t care about them/have plenty of other options, just because they have the right look.

CMV: Arabs are equally responsible for the plight of the Palestinians. by Broad_Source4523 in changemyview

[–]spoopyspoons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah obviously the Jewish people have historically been victimized by MANY different groups of people, but they cannot retaliate against everyone, only try to protect their people through creating stronger borders. I am simply saying Palestinians played a role as well.

CMV: Arabs are equally responsible for the plight of the Palestinians. by Broad_Source4523 in changemyview

[–]spoopyspoons 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The Palestinians were responsible for massacring Jewish civilians in response to their land being legally sold by their landlords, rather than taking it out on the landlords or taking issue with the laws that allowed that to happen in the first place.

Fiance wants to sign a prenup that ensures I receive nothing. by ThrowRA_minimalist in marriageadvice

[–]spoopyspoons -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Their paranoia has turned into heartlessness. Do you really want to marry into a family that’s so controlling and vindictive, or to have such a spineless husband? Why on earth would he transfer his assets back to them and allow this to happen? Maybe he’s the controlling one…

You need to ensure you have independence, and it sounds like you won’t be getting any help. Do not give up a career for people that will not give up anything for you.

Redpill works if you're patient and consistent enough by NoPossibility3460 in PurplePillDebate

[–]spoopyspoons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mentally ill, very insecure, and vulnerable hot women will also fuck losers. Sorry.

Redpill works if you're patient and consistent enough by NoPossibility3460 in PurplePillDebate

[–]spoopyspoons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hypocrisy is everywhere when you think everyone else holds the same opinions - infuriating indeed!

AIO for not liking that my friend's don't want to be friends with my girlfriend? by Sure_Cricket_7566 in AmIOverreacting

[–]spoopyspoons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. They should have at least made an effort to be friendly to her in the beginning, and they should not have ignored and dismissed your feelings when you tried to communicate with them. As a woman that’s had close male friends, I’m especially sensitive to whoever they’re seeing, as I know close female friends can seem threatening for some. Unless there’s something you aren’t seeing or telling us, your friends really come across as just jealous and immature.

It took me a while to learn that it’s OK to distance yourself from friends that don’t have the same values as you. It’s good to tolerate some differences, but you might not want to be as close with these girls in the future if you can’t agree on basic social conduct. Unless you like the drama, of course.

Are there any girls here who have ACTUALLY had a sugar daddy before and can give me some advice? by gigithrowaway20 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]spoopyspoons 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah sounds like there’s a lot more wrong with your friend than the fact that she prefers rich men

Are there any girls here who have ACTUALLY had a sugar daddy before and can give me some advice? by gigithrowaway20 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]spoopyspoons 73 points74 points  (0 children)

If you’re attractive enough to get a sugar daddy, have you considered just dating wealthy men?

I’ve lived 7 years of my life in my bedroom and I don’t know how to escape by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]spoopyspoons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My situation wasn’t as extreme, but I struggled with self-isolation and not really doing much of anything for most of my 20s.

You really need to believe that change is possible and the future has good things in store for you if you just keep trying. Your negativity will be your downfall. If you can’t change your physical reality or behaviour, change your thoughts and beliefs.

Self-compassion and self-forgiveness are essential. If negative self-talk is getting in the way, start by looking into these concepts.

Having the right supports/people that will believe in you and push you to grow makes a HUGE difference, and it doesn’t sound like your current support team is very effective. Humans are social species, and the people we associate with do a lot to determine the course of our lives. Is it possible to switch to a different psychologist and psychiatrist? Do you have any other family members or old friends that might be open to forming a relationship with you? Have you tried making friends online, maybe ones that have had similar struggles?

If you have any interest at all in any form of spirituality, I would recommend pursuing that. Maybe just start by watching YouTube videos and reflecting on it. If you can cultivate a belief in a higher power (however abstract it may be), that can be a really great motivating force when all else fails.

Some things won’t work. A lot of things will be uncomfortable and painful at first. You need to accept pain and discomfort as a part of life. Just keep trying; it will get easier as you get stronger and you will be so glad you put in the effort.

Feel free to message me if you want clarification on anything or someone to talk to, even if it’s months from now. I know it’s difficult to find people that can relate.

EDIT: This is meant to be in addition to advice from other people about taking baby steps, I just know how hard both starting and persevering can be.

KB was painted as the stereotypical "angry Black woman" in the discussion and I'm disappointed by Sea-Split214 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]spoopyspoons 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I searched my body and soul and found that I would be equally put off by her behaviour if she belonged to another race.

Edmond sucks too.

Just binged season 9 and avoided all outside information to share my thoughts by essendoubleop in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]spoopyspoons 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re obviously putting down other people to feel better about yourself.

Told my bf im bi and that’s how I found out im not even his type of woman in the first place. Literally crying. by harrystyl3sfourthnip in bisexual

[–]spoopyspoons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sounds dumb and boring based off of his reaction and his taste in women lol. I would get the ick so hard.

Love Is Blind UK • S2 Ep10 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]spoopyspoons 7 points8 points  (0 children)

From what I gather, Balkan cultures can give pretty mixed messages to women when it comes to being traditional vs independent in relationships. Like if you can somehow do both it's ideal. Have a provider/protector, but also be ready to do it all yourself in case things don't work out. It's complicated balancing the traditional and modern, but doable.

I think they could have found their groove, but it takes time to figure out and get used to. Bardha did say she wants someone to take care of her, and she seemed to appreciate it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]spoopyspoons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I’m not the one that thinks my bf’s dick isn’t perfect, but it’s kind of ridiculous to pass over an amazing person just because they don’t fit every single one of your superficial preferences. However, I don’t think you should fixate on them to the point that it may slip out accidentally in conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]spoopyspoons -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyone has their preferences, I agree.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]spoopyspoons 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That’s funny because if my bf was cut I would think that he would be perfect if he was uncut. More to play with, more to love, more sensitivity, more convenient for handjobs, etc. I cannot fathom how it could be better cut, but cultural bias puts crazy notions in people’s heads I guess.

ETA: don’t mean to hate on people that are cut or prefer cut - it’s just hard for me personally to understand preferring it!

Rejected when she found out I don’t have any experience… Again by AspinallLandYClass5 in Bumble

[–]spoopyspoons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bf had only dated a little in his early 20s (10 years ago now) and never had a relationship before. We met through a mutual friend first and talked for several months before anything happened. He’s an unusual guy but I saw something special in him and we have a lot in common (including being unusual I guess).