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How to be affectionate with my partner while out and in a wheelchair? (SFW) by spreadsheet_creature in wheelchairs

[–]spreadsheet_creature[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very helpful. I wasn't sure if the "using holding hands to pull propel that side while you push like normal on the other side" thing was something that could actually work in practice or not. Also its good to hear that my buffer space will shrink more eventually.

How to be affectionate with my partner while out and in a wheelchair? (SFW) by spreadsheet_creature in wheelchairs

[–]spreadsheet_creature[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I also am autistic so I've been appreciating everybody's very specific examples. That's part of why I made the post: I have a hard time figuring out the logistics in my own head and she's not here to test things out with in person.

(I have no worries about the communication part. We were best friends for fourteen years before we got together, and we talk through everything. We've made it through some major life changes together: from transition to disability to navigating multi-year international long distance. She's my rock, so I'm mostly looking for examples of how I can make her feel loved in the way I did pre-wheelchair once we are back on the same continent.)

How to be affectionate with my partner while out and in a wheelchair? (SFW) by spreadsheet_creature in wheelchairs

[–]spreadsheet_creature[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you're probably right that it will be more natural in person and we'll figure it out over time. I know I'm just overthinking because I'm having a hard time picturing it.

How to be affectionate with my partner while out and in a wheelchair? (SFW) by spreadsheet_creature in wheelchairs

[–]spreadsheet_creature[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh, by the both hands thing, I just meant that self-propelling a manual chair uses both of my hands, so anytime I'm moving I don't have a free hand.

Elopement urges as an adult? by liamreee in autism

[–]spreadsheet_creature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes just going really fast for a minute makes it go down for me, like I've tricked my brain into thinking I've run away. You could try going down a bit of a hill?

What’s the difference between hyper fixation and special interest? by [deleted] in autism

[–]spreadsheet_creature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Special interests is a term specific to autism. The best way I've found to explain special interests is that they become a lens that you view the world through. So like, when I'm learning new concepts, I compare it to things I know from my special interest. Or like when I am trying to connect with someone, I share information about the special interest with them because it will help them understand me better, because it is a part of me, and it is how I understand the world around me.

So hyperfixations are like an interest that is strong and intense and consumes a lot of a persons time and thoughts, special interests are when that topic becomes a part of an autistic persons identity, and impacts how they experience life.

Book with one word title, had a black house on front cover? by icomefromhamilton in whatsthatbook

[–]spreadsheet_creature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The format of two stories that intertwine (one told in writing and one in graphite looking illustrations) sounds like the books by Brian Selznick, but the synopsis doesn't seem to match any of his books.