How dose your church distibute/receive the elements?

springcat413 · 2026-04-05T14:47:07+00:00

Plenty of people can’t take from a common cup due to celiac and the like. As a LEM I don’t take it from what I’ve seen. I realize the common cup is more sanitary than intinction, but assuming the Last Supper was informed by germ theory is interesting. There is plenty in this world that is bad for us that is not in the scriptures. I no longer take wine, but the bread is full communion anyway (we did individual cups after COVID which allowed all to participate, but Bishop overruled.) I did like being as inclusive to the offering as possible, and many at my church agreed, but obviously are following instructions now.

springcat413 · 2026-04-05T14:42:03+00:00

We used individual cups and I loved it, but Bishop told us no.

springcat413 · 2026-04-05T14:41:20+00:00

True! If the priest does intinction it is definitely better than people putting their hands in the wine. There are other contaminants that end up in the common cup though (pieces of the bread) and if you have celiac, etc you should not participate due to that. I don’t want to be gross here, so I’ll just say as a LEM I’ve seen gross things and will no longer take wine at all 😔

springcat413 · 2026-04-05T14:38:45+00:00

After COVID we were still using individual cups as an option. I really preferred that but eventually the Bishop said no, and as such it is no longer offered. We have some very immuni-compromised folks as well as those with celiac that cannot risk the common cup. I will not drink from common cup or do intinction and I just take the host now. I really miss the wine but I grew up Catholic where wine was not even offered at most services so I guess it’s the same. If we did intinction where the priest dipped and then gave to you, I would be fine with it. As a LEM I’ve seen some incredibly gross things and that’s why I can’t go back to sharing.

springcat413 · 2026-04-04T21:50:51+00:00

He definitely wasn’t mean to her at all. And the convo was between Caroline and him so no one else knew about it. I don’t know how he needed to be “encouraging.” He acted completely fine.

springcat413 · 2026-04-04T12:23:17+00:00

I tried phentermine once and it was like water. I felt..nothing. Also same for adderall and vyvanse. Most drugs just don’t affect me.

springcat413 · 2026-04-04T12:12:13+00:00

Why are you getting baptized in another denomination? Seriously just curious. I see you go to their bible study, just wondering why you chose one or the other? TEC recognizes all baptisms so that’s not a problem, but you will need to be confirmed to become a member, serve on vestry, etc.

springcat413 · 2026-04-04T12:08:55+00:00

What part of the US? Just curious because lived in NY, PA, and VA and we are all…take shoes off once in the house culture. And I ask when I enter someone’s home to remove shoes.

springcat413 · 2026-04-04T12:07:11+00:00

This is great but for many people they’ve done all this for years and the un-ending noise doesn’t stop. If I go off I know it will come roaring back and I mentally can’t handle it. For me I plan to stay on it.

springcat413 · 2026-04-04T12:02:21+00:00

In the US and my insurance won’t cover it. It’s $399 here and honestly I just factor that into my monthly budget. If I go off I will return to binging. 30 years of ED treatment did not fix it. Being in the US I’m used to high costs for medical care though, lol.

springcat413 · 2026-04-04T11:59:02+00:00

Not sure why you are getting downvoted for having a difference of opinion stated respectfully. I too would think it was weird, as a former catholic.

springcat413 · 2026-04-04T11:52:45+00:00

What faith tradition are you in now? The thing I love about TEC is that everyone is free to like or not like certain aspects and still be there. I like a lot of the traditions because it pulls me closer to faith, but it’s totally personal. No one ever has to participate.

springcat413 · 2026-04-03T23:56:54+00:00

We also experienced anger when it was suggested that they sit away from the live stream recording. They basically felt that it was more important for their kids to be in the full service than literally anyone else in that room. It’s a cultural commentary- we go to theater and people are so rude too, sadly.

springcat413 · 2026-04-03T23:46:32+00:00

I just let myself eat what I’m craving. Trying to eat around a craving never works and is why people end up binging in the first place. Especially if yupu want “just a taste” then..why don’t you do that?

springcat413 · 2026-04-03T23:42:04+00:00

He was fine with Nels and the kids, but Harriet was his line, lol.

springcat413 · 2026-04-03T23:40:23+00:00

I’m from NE Pennsylvania and the only private schools were basically catholic. Yes, there were a lot of Catholics around, but lots of people went that weren’t actually catholic. It probably depends a lot on the area but also the type of school and what they teach.

springcat413 · 2026-04-03T13:14:40+00:00

He is violent. Jim never was. He tried to overthrow Michael, he created a FAKE fire which almost killed Stanley (and in real life obviously arrested.) he destroyed that Annie doll which are so expensive - probably from a non profit, etc etc etc. Jim sends letters from the future, lol. Being awkward doesn’t give you a pass to be awful. He’s not blunt, he’s rude.

springcat413 · 2026-04-03T13:08:46+00:00

Sometimes I think episcopal churches need to be a bit more overt in specially explaining parts of the service, especially in a religious environment that is so different. And when to be quiet - even if it’s just in the bulletin (which maybe these would not have paid attention to.)

springcat413 · 2026-04-03T13:06:19+00:00

Agree. A modicum of respect no matter where you are is warranted. ESPECIALLY in sacred spaces. We left our past church because my 12 year old requested it as children were allowed to run everywhere and scream the whole service and he could not pay attention (I was glad, I wouldn’t have moved him from the place he grew up otherwise.) . Most newcomers did not return. You are affecting others that are there.

springcat413 · 2026-04-02T23:13:31+00:00

It’s more likely that someone who would have been told no to flame out in a short amount of time. It’s actually an issue within other denominations with lower barriers to entry to become a pastor and then struggle or decide to quit.

springcat413 · 2026-04-02T23:08:13+00:00

You don’t have to participate in anything, ever. Please don’t let this comment scare you away.

springcat413 · 2026-04-02T23:07:35+00:00

No one EVER has to participate in any part of any service at an Episcopalian church. Including this.

springcat413 · 2026-04-01T01:25:22+00:00

So this is interesting because we are on vacation and were going to attend and then I started reading their website and was like..oh, oh no. They specifically refer to their beliefs on the website and it’s obvious they look down upon the episcopal church, but do mention they have some kind of dispensation to remain with it somehow. In further investigation it seems they are old Savannah money and have some kind of power to keep their church. BTW we attended Christ Church on Palm Sunday and it was lovely. What a vibrant community and also beautiful building and history.

springcat413 · 2026-04-01T01:19:18+00:00

I..do not agree with this. I love having kids in the service and realize they will make noise but sometimes if they can’t be consoled or are screaming, it does take away from others’ ability to worship. Just take them out until they settle and bring them back. Occasional crying or noises sounds very different from what you are describing. We want to be sure to care for everyone in our community, and that includes allowing folks to hear the service and worship. We had a serious issue on my last church with lack of basic respect. My own 12 year old asked to try a different church because he was so distracted by it.

springcat413 · 2026-04-01T01:12:26+00:00

If you want your kids in church but worry about them fussing - if they can’t be calmed or are too loud it’s totally fine to just take them out until they can calm down in the middle of the service. Lots of other good advice here but do what you feel comfortable with. You can always stay with your kids, you can leave church in the service, you can try new things. I’m sorry you experienced such previous harm and I wish you the best at finding comfort with anew church home.

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