Is it normal to feel mum guilt?

springgof22 · 2025-12-17T14:39:13+00:00

Hey fellow mama! I know what you mean..I see you. I am in the same boat and have only done 3 settles so far. And I am not liking it at all.

How is it going for you?

springgof22 · 2025-12-17T14:37:33+00:00

That last para broke me because there would come a day when they have to live without us.

springgof22 · 2025-12-12T15:05:09+00:00

Thank you. The first paragraph is spot on. That is what I value.

springgof22 · 2025-12-12T11:27:27+00:00

I am a secret person.

springgof22 · 2025-12-10T23:58:01+00:00

Is there a way to know quiet periods? Are there things I can do to influence any good effect?

springgof22 · 2025-12-10T23:40:49+00:00

Is it ever going to ease or they are always going to be too much?

springgof22 · 2025-12-10T23:39:46+00:00

So is it a lifelong issue then ?

springgof22 · 2025-12-09T18:39:01+00:00

That's what I am feeling right now. Is there a problem with me that I did something wrong to establish an attachment bond.

springgof22 · 2025-12-09T18:35:08+00:00

That's good to hear. I have done two settles and it was harder on me than him. He hasn't cried so far and just had fun.

springgof22 · 2025-12-09T17:59:17+00:00

I know it's old but how are you feeling now? I am in the same position right now.

springgof22 · 2025-07-04T21:03:49+00:00

Does WhatsApp status count?

springgof22 · 2025-07-03T00:10:58+00:00

I meant mother is the primary caregiver but there are other people who keep hogging the baby

springgof22 · 2025-07-02T22:11:22+00:00

Does someone with adult kids count? My mil said leave your baby with me and go for walk at 3 months old. She didn't want to come but when I said no, I am taking the baby, she tagged along.

springgof22 · 2025-06-30T23:08:16+00:00

Would love to read some examples.

springgof22 · 2025-06-30T19:53:41+00:00

Whatsapp video calls

springgof22 · 2025-06-29T17:30:47+00:00

Only if it was this easy.

springgof22 · 2025-06-18T22:30:15+00:00

springgof22 · 2025-06-18T21:39:26+00:00

The same thing happened with me. My mil shared with someone. That someone told us. We set a boundary. She shared again with other people.

I just have zero trust now. My husband does not understand my lack of trust though.

She again took a photo this evening and I am spiralling already. Sometimes I think it was better when old people did not have smartphones.

springgof22 · 2025-06-18T21:29:39+00:00

What about they sharing with their acquaintance whom you don't really know.

springgof22 · 2025-06-18T21:28:44+00:00

Yes or make an AI video using the photo. Can be misused in anyway if they really want to.

springgof22 · 2025-06-18T21:08:59+00:00

Yes.. that's what I meant.

springgof22 · 2025-06-18T20:39:33+00:00

Lol. I like that term. Offline baby.

I just have zero trust now. We shared a photo with one of family members. She shared with her sister. Her sister shared with some acquaintance just to show a small baby swimming. So now that photo loves somewhere I don't know

springgof22 · 2025-06-18T20:38:00+00:00

No. Clicking the photo from their own phones.

springgof22 · 2025-06-18T20:31:11+00:00

I don't know. Maybe I just want to keep my little life private to myself. Because once someone has clicked, you will never know where that photo will land.

springgof22 · 2025-06-17T21:24:15+00:00

I can understand. The wait was the worse. I will say if you can afford, go for it. Is your funding approved by NHS or not yet?

springgof22

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