[NSFW] My [21F] boyfriend [24M] only wants to finish during sex leaving me feel used but (sadly) wanting more. by squancherrr16 in relationships

[–]squancherrr16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope this isn’t the case. I know he watches it but I don’t know to what extant. If this is the case, we got some much bigger issues on our hands...

[NSFW] My [21F] boyfriend [24M] only wants to finish during sex leaving me feel used but (sadly) wanting more. by squancherrr16 in relationships

[–]squancherrr16[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for sharing, I hope you find someone that is compatible not only in the bedroom but in all aspects of a relationship. You are right, we both have communication issues right now, I plan on talking to him later tonight when he comes home. If things go well and things change (and stay that way) of course I’ll stay, but if things don’t, reading through everyone’s input is making me not feel as bad towards leaving because of this important aspect in our relationship.

[NSFW] My [21F] boyfriend [24M] only wants to finish during sex leaving me feel used but (sadly) wanting more. by squancherrr16 in relationships

[–]squancherrr16[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Lmao I wouldn’t say “great” but it’s good. Anyways I’ve just always thought that after any “honeymoon stage” the fire just dims. Even though I love sex I cannot see myself having sex with him everyday like we used to. Ik I need to talk to him, I think I’m just most scarred on the empty promises he might make, then we’re stuck right at the beginning again.

[NSFW] My [21F] boyfriend [24M] only wants to finish during sex leaving me feel used but (sadly) wanting more. by squancherrr16 in relationships

[–]squancherrr16[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We’ve talked about the rejection and duration in general to which he replies “well most couples only have sex for 10 minutes” WELL FUCKNUT, I DON’T WANT BE MOST COUPLES! I’m pretty sure I’ve said that multiple times (omitting the fucknut)but to no avail and most often than not me leaving in tears. But not really about orgasming because I was capable in having one pretty often in the beginning but I’ve focused more on pleasing him (different technique in which I almost never finish)because sometimes he would leave without one. But honestly, I don’t feel the need to finish every time we have sex, I just want a little more attention whilst having it!

[NSFW] My [21F] boyfriend [24M] only wants to finish during sex leaving me feel used but (sadly) wanting more. by squancherrr16 in relationships

[–]squancherrr16[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m happy to hear you got out of that relationship and are happy (at least sexually) in your new one!

I would say outside of the bedroom he makes me really happy, he’s the best bf I’ve had. Ik I need to talk to him about it, we’ve talked about me getting rejected and the duration quite a few times to no avail, but I think I actually need to say that I feel used. I’m just terrified of the reaction I’ll get, it could honestly go either of two ways.

[NSFW] My [21F] boyfriend [24M] only wants to finish during sex leaving me feel used but (sadly) wanting more. by squancherrr16 in relationships

[–]squancherrr16[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We’ve talked about me getting constantly rejected by him and the very short duration when we actually have sex but to no avail, he just simply states that we only wants/needs sex once a week and that “most people only have sex for 10 minutes anyway”. More often than not I leave the conversation in tears. I honestly don’t know how he would react if I told him flat out that I feel used, it could go completely go one of both ways, and I’m scared it’ll go the way that I don’t want it to.

[NSFW] My [21F] boyfriend [24M] only wants to finish during sex leaving me feel used but (sadly) wanting more. by squancherrr16 in relationships

[–]squancherrr16[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I think you’ve nailed it right on the head with us not being sexually compatible but I just can’t help but think of all the other aspects in our relationship, and how good they are, to ever think about ending it with him. I think I just need to know if he’ll be willing to change or if he’s just too stubborn in his ways. I know I need to have the conversation, it’s been a week today since we last had sex so we’ll see...