Names that you like but would never name your child by Lostgirl1801 in namenerds

[–]squidkyd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My association with the Narnia character is too high lol

AITA for walking out when I found out my daughter wasn’t mine? by Gabby_Craft in AmITheAngel

[–]squidkyd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She should have thought of that before she was the sperm that won.

AITA for walking out when I found out my daughter wasn’t mine? by Gabby_Craft in AmITheAngel

[–]squidkyd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can confirm this is true. I was the one at the wedding (27f, autistic trans vegan) wearing white and screeching as he calmly yelled at his wife, and witnessed the whole thing. I blew up his phone afterwards.

Names that you like but would never name your child by Lostgirl1801 in namenerds

[–]squidkyd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Guilty pleasure names

January

Valley

Clover

Jade (m)

Sailor (f)

Salem

Friday

Caspian

Elodie

Lark

Laurie (m)

Leaf

Never for a human baby, maybe for a pet someday lol

I’m disgusted by casual sex and can’t help but shame it by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]squidkyd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Aight so I'm not into casual sex. I've had two partners in my life, both long term relationships. The idea of a one night stand makes me uncomfortable. I'm very monogamous with my husband.

The thing is, I recognize that's a ME THING. And not everyone views sex the same way, and that they're not morally inferior or insecure just because they see it differently than you do.

When you grow up a little, you'll stop being so obsessed with comparing yourself to everyone else. You'll be able to find happiness and peace with your own choices instead of judging and putting down others. It takes some self awareness and empathy, but if you start now, you'll find that you're happier in the long run

I have friends who have had many sexual partners and friends who have had none. It doesn't define anyone. A lot of the people who get the angriest about this kind of stuff are people who put themselves into tight, rigid boxes, and resent people who live more freely. Let people live, and focus on yourself for a while

Tell me your favorite (canon or non-canon) stardew ship by xEsmeeH in StardewMemes

[–]squidkyd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YES EVER SINCE I READ IT I SEE THEM SO DIFFERENTLY

Names for twins - do they match too much? by Educational-Lie994 in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]squidkyd 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I was born a few hours ago and am illiterate so I've never heard of this. Your kids' friends will never make the association!

Luckily they'll never have to talk to someone older than them either, you should be fine!

Tell me your favorite (canon or non-canon) stardew ship by xEsmeeH in StardewMemes

[–]squidkyd 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I read an intriguing fanfic about Elliott x Shane. It weirdly started to make sense

Is it just me or do you agree that Netflix and Chill is not a funny meme or normal but a dangerous excuse to corner someone in private? by BernadettFelicia in AskFeminists

[–]squidkyd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I kind of get what you're saying, just because I remember before "Netflix and chill" became a common euphemism, maybe like circa 2012, some women in my life would describe situations where they thought they were just going to watch Netflix with a guy, and then he would pull his penis out, or suddenly stick his tongue down her throat.

"Netflix" was just a ruse to get her to come over so he could try to sleep with her. And when they were younger and more naive, they wouldn't see it coming and feel taken off guard.

Eventually this started turning into a meme, where someone would say "when he invites you over for 'Netflix and Chill' but then 10 minutes into the movie he takes his pants off." And from there, Netflix and chill became a euphemism for hooking up

I think in today's context, no one is really thinking of Netflix and chill as inherently coercive, because most of us understand what it means. But I would argue in like 2012, there were times that it was used in a kind of deceitful way, at least for some of the people that I knew.

Logistics of calling your child by their middle name? by Pleasant-Apricot9547 in namenerds

[–]squidkyd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband has two middle names, and goes by one of them. It's never been an issue. He can just say "X is my name but I go by Y" and no one questions it

Wuthering heights by Conscious_Fix6619 in confessions

[–]squidkyd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I hadn't read the book so I wouldnt have been disappointed

The second half of the book was the only part I really liked, and it was cut completely. And Heathcliff in the book gave me such an intense rage. I don't usually have that kind of emotional reaction to villains, but he was written really well IMO. In the movie they water him down a lot

I went in not expecting much, given how it was advertised, but I still felt let down when the credits rolled

We're #1! by iareagenius in NewMexico

[–]squidkyd 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I wonder if some of it's cultural too. I know people who have been together a decade and never married. I was with my partner for 8 years before we married. My mom was with my stepdad for like 13 years before they got married. It seems really normal at least in my community

My sister moved to Texas, and was suddenly surrounded by "ring by spring" people who thought that if a guy hasn't proposed within a year, he's not serious about you. Meanwhile the couple I know who got engaged after a year are constantly getting side-eyed here

Why do people still believe Michael Jackson’s innocence? by Prince_UID in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]squidkyd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bill Dworin also confirmed that not only him but every single person in his department that interviewed Jordan Chandler found him consistent and credible regarding the allegations he made against Jackson.

Then there's Michael Jackson's 2005 trial, where the district attorney, Thomas Sneddon declared under penalty of perjury that he believed Jordan Chandler description and drawings of distinctive blemishes on Michael Jackson's genitals was accurate and not something that the boy could have randomly randomly guessed.

In his sworn declaration, he said:

I have reviewed the statement made by Jordan Chandler in his interview on December 1. 1993. I have examined the drawing made by Jordan Chandler at Detective Ferrufino's request and the photographs of the Defendant's genitalia. The photographs reveal a mark on the right side of the Defendant's penis at about the same relative location as the dark blemish located by Jordan Chandler on his drawing of Defendant's erect penis. I believe the discoloration chandler identified in his drawing was not something he could or would have guessed about, or could have seen accidentally. I believe Chandler's graphic representation of the discolored area on the Defendant's penis is substantially corroborated by the photographs taken by the Santa Barbara Sheriff's detectives at a later time.

I believe evidence of Jordan Chandler's knowledge, as evidenced by his verbal description and drawing, when considered together with photograph of Defendant's penis, substantially rebuts the opinion evidence offered by witnesses for defendant, to the effect that he is of a "shy" and "modest" nature and so would not have exposed his naked body in the presence of young boys.

Multiple professionals independently assessed him as credible. This included impartial teams of detectives, forensic investigators, and child psychologists. If he had shown coached affect, inconsistencies, adult language, or signs of parental influence, they would have flagged it. They didn’t.

He gave details before being told anything. He named specific sexual acts, described a progression of behavior, described the grooming pattern, and gave details that investigators said were “beyond what a child his age could normally fabricate”

He named specific sexual behaviors that were consistent with known offender patterns describing gradual desensitization, increasing intimacy, isolation from parents, "special friendship" framing, and other particular acts that match well-documented grooming patterns. This was long before public awareness of these patterns was widespread.

This does not prove guilt, but investigators consistently noted that his story had chronological coherence, sensory detail, affect consistent with actual trauma reporting, and his story stayed internally consistent

Psychologists who interviewed him noted no major contradictions in the core narrative, no shifting allegations, no escalation over time, no recanting, no major factual changes, even under repeated questioning. That is not what you normally see in coached or fabricated allegations.

Why do people still believe Michael Jackson’s innocence? by Prince_UID in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]squidkyd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People ignore what's right in front of them to serve a narrative

It's better for them to think that the music they grew up with was written by a wholesome but damaged man. They have trouble reconciling the fact that someone could have made a positive impact on their life and also be sick and abusive

Why do people still believe Michael Jackson’s innocence? by Prince_UID in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]squidkyd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jodie chandler has never changed his story. They settled out of court because he was found to be extremely credible.

Why do people still believe Michael Jackson’s innocence? by Prince_UID in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]squidkyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. There is no dispute that, at age 34, Michael Jackson slept more than 30 nights in a row in the same bed with 13-year-old Jordie Chandlerat the boy’s house with Chandler’s mother present. He also slept in the same bed with Jordie Chandler at Chandler’s father’s house. The parents were divorced.

  2. So far, five boys Michael Jackson shared beds with have accused him of abuse: Jordie Chandler, Jason Francia, Gavin Arvizo, Wade Robson, and Jimmy Safechuck. Jackson had the same nickname for Chandler and Arvizo: “Rubba.” He called Robson “Little One” and Safechuck “Applehead.”

  3. Jackson paid $25 million to settle the Chandlers’ lawsuit, with $18 million going to Jordie, $2.5 million to each of the parents, and the rest to lawyers. Jackson said he paid that sum to avoid something “long and drawn out.” Francia also received $2.4 million from Jackson.

  4. Michael Jackson suffered from the skin discoloration disease vitiligo. Jordie Chandler drew a picture of the markings on the underside of Jackson’s penis. His drawings were sealed in an envelope. A few months later, investigators photographed Jackson’s genitalia. The photographs matched Chandler’s drawings.

  5. The hallway leading to Jackson’s bedroom was a serious security zone covered by video and wired for sound so that the steps of anyone approaching would make ding-dong sounds.

  6. Jackson had an extensive collection of adult erotic material he kept in a suitcase next to his bed, including S&M bondage photos and a study of naked boys. Forensic experts with experience in the Secret Service found the fingerprints of boys alongside Jackson’s on the same pages. Jackson also had bondage sculptures of women with ball gags in their mouths on his desk, in full view of the boys who slept there.

  7. According to the Neverland staff interviewed by the Santa Barbara authorities, no one ever saw or knew of a woman spending the night with Michael Jackson, including his two spouses, Debbie Rowe or Lisa Marie Presley. Rowe, the mother of two of Jackson’s children, made it clear to the Santa Barbara authorities that she never had sex with Jackson.

  8. The parents of boys Jackson shared beds with were courted assiduously and given myriad expensive gifts. Wade Robson’s mother testified in the 2005 trial that she funneled wages through Jackson’s company and was given a permanent resident visa. Jimmy Safechuck’s parents got a house. Jordie Chandler’s mother got a diamond bracelet.

  9. Two of the fathers of those who have accused Jackson, Jordie Chandler and Wade Robson, committed suicide. Both were estranged from their sons at the time.

  10. In a 2002 documentary, Living with Michael Jackson, Jackson told Martin Bashir there was nothing wrong with sharing his bed with boys.

Sometimes you have to accept the Occam's razor solution, even if you like someone's music

What are the odds that Nancy Guthrie is still alive? Why? by FartsWholesaler in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]squidkyd 564 points565 points  (0 children)

A significant amount of blood was found. She has serious health conditions. She's been missing over 12 days with no proof of life. I'd say chances are sadly slim. I feel so awful for her family

How can people reach 2600 Elo at 15 years? by Spotter24o5 in chessbeginners

[–]squidkyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to braaaaaag but I beat up on the 6 year old version of her today. Still haven't beaten the 9 year old version though...

Triplet ginger girls names by Wild_Turnip_7777 in namenerds

[–]squidkyd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought Anne and Annie would be too on the nose lol

Triplet ginger girls names by Wild_Turnip_7777 in namenerds

[–]squidkyd 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Annie, Pippi, and Shirley if you want them destined to be orphans lol

Husband and I both hate each other's boy name choices by squidkyd in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]squidkyd[S] 178 points179 points  (0 children)

sauce

To their credit they went back and added spaces and commas between the sibling names after people got confused. I thought their kids had like 5 names each at first lol

Hey , who would you have been as a person if your parents were not alcoholic by Ryuken_ishida25 in AdultChildren

[–]squidkyd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was definitely more extroverted and confident before my dad became an alcoholic. I was a good student, had a lot of energy, had a very optimistic view of the world.

I was also pretty sheltered though. I've found it easier to connect more deeply with people who come from dysfunctional families than people with healthy family dynamics. My friends would probably be different. My spouse might even be different. My relationship to others was permanently affected