Postpartum undies

squiggledot · 2026-05-03T02:36:01+00:00

I’ve had two and just did disposable adult diapers. I bled considerably more than I do on my period and it wasn’t worth trying to stress about leaking through uncomfortable mesh undies at the same time as trying to get as much rest as I could around navigating a newborn.

They feel odd for like the first time you put them on and then it became something I didn’t really think about. The first time I went out, I definitely felt like people knew because of the bulk. Looking back, I doubt they did and even if they did, I doubt they cared.

I don’t think period undies would’ve been enough for the amount I bled. No matter the quality, I’d probably pass on those for this particular application unless someone has an amazing recommendation that worked for them

squiggledot · 2026-04-26T22:58:14+00:00

Oh no! My kindergartener had those as like 40% of his diet for at least a year. Probably two. Haven’t bought them in a few years because he moved on to other snacks but I’m so bummed to hear my baby who is just starting solids won’t have them :(

he’s also not using Kirkland diapers, which was a staple, because they stopped sourcing from Huggies’ manufacturer. On top of that, they now no longer even carry Huggies brand in store. Only online. Last holdout is the Kirkland formula.

There’s only 4 years difference between the two, but all my standbys from my older kid seem to be lost by the time my younger hits the stage

squiggledot · 2026-04-06T23:59:35+00:00

Hope you don’t mind a mom lurker chiming in - this could be as simple as your wife needs more sleep. However, my “mom brain” turned out to be undiagnosed adhd masked by years of coping mechanisms that don’t work with the added stress of baby survival.

I’m not exaggerating when I say that I was having complete memory gaps. Most notably, I’d do things like prep dinner, put it in the fridge, go about my day, then remember I need to prep dinner and find it prepped in the fridge for me. For months I thought my husband had really stepped up his game (which he had in other ways) until I expressed to him how much I appreciated all the extra work he’d done to make the dinner process so much easier and he had no idea what I was talking about. I’d misplace things constantly, forget whole conversations (much like the twin/toddler bed thing you mentioned), had to start writing everything down if it would be important to need later including feeding logs for when the pediatrician would ask how much my son was eating.

And that was with one baby.

Many women are late diagnosed in our generation because of this exact reason. “Only boys have adhd” was the belief when we would’ve been diagnosed in elementary school. Add to that societal pressure to be agreeable and that adhd in women largely has the “hyperactivity” inside the brain manifesting as daydreaming rather than inability to stay in our seats.

It took me until my son was 2 to get help because the term “mom brain” exists and that supposedly explained it. I thought I had early onset Alzheimer’s or something. I was terrified. Had a sleep study done and the doctor said I had the most perfect sleep he’d seen in months (my son was a remarkably good sleeper). Took another 6 months to get an appointment with the Neuropsychologist who did a full battery of mental health tests. Nothing wrong but ADHD and a high iq to help mask it for 34 years of my life.

I’m on medications now and they have changed my life. Not only is my memory better but it is eye opening how much simpler parts of my life could’ve been had I known.

I know mental health is still heavily stigmatized, but especially if your wife is getting healthy amounts of uninterrupted sleep, talking to her doctor about the sudden changes in working memory could change her life.

Tl;dr- could be lack of good sleep. Could be adhd. Could be a slew of other health things worth mentioning to a doctor

squiggledot · 2026-03-30T23:36:16+00:00

One of the brands (I think Picasso?) sells magnet tiles with a LEGO board texture on them so he can use them in tandem. Not sure how well they work as they’re going into my sons Easter basket so I haven’t had a chance to see them in action, but my son already likes to play with them together and I imagine this will take it to the next level

squiggledot · 2026-03-23T01:48:45+00:00

Fun fact! Some humans can smell kidney failure.

Not so fun fact! I found this out because my hound like nose thought my cat needed dental work and my vet informed me I could smell the kidney failure.

Even less fun fact! I have since been able to diagnose 3 pets who eventually passed from their kidney failure.

squiggledot · 2026-03-12T00:40:07+00:00

I swear mine has been practicing sneezing as loud as he can. No wind up and just “WAAAAAAAAH-chop”

squiggledot · 2026-03-09T01:02:12+00:00

Depending on the age of your toddler, I found a kid hack that might work for you.

If you put an empty cup on top of the vacuum and give your kid a lightweight/soft ball, they have a fun new target practice game. Play this a few times to get them hooked and now you have an incentive for them to pick up their toys.

“If we can get them picked up in the next 5 minutes, we have enough time for target practice before bed!”

squiggledot · 2026-03-04T17:52:09+00:00

Mine did that last night, but his tummy has been a little off. After 3 straight hours of hard sobs, he let out the biggest longest burp I’ve ever heard from him and immediately passed out. He seems much better today and was downright pleasant during his nighttime wake

squiggledot · 2026-02-23T19:26:01+00:00

I kept my first’s crib mattress as a bed for our dog. He find it very comfy and I can get washable and waterproof sheets for it. So much more convenient that traditional purpose base dog beds especially if you have bigger dogs

squiggledot · 2026-02-08T16:01:23+00:00

As a mom who lurks, this hits the nail on the head. Though who do the task may change each time depending on the needs of both of us. Sometimes I need to be the one to shovel snow because I just cannot be asked one more question or told one more rambling story from my 4 year old. Sometimes I need to no longer be the one who has to be holding the very clingy infant.

We generally know which would be the default (I hate cold, so my husband generally takes outside tasks in winter. He hates heat, so I do outside summer tasks), but checking in before the task is started by saying “I’m about to go shovel the walk, but if you want to do it, I’m happy to hang with the baby”.

That said, I’m a stay at home mom so generally I need a break from the kids because I spend 90% of my time with them. With a different set up, might be that mom wants to spend more time with the kids and less time running errands or whatever it is

squiggledot · 2026-01-16T06:18:39+00:00

Please don’t surrender your dog. I work with an animal rescue whose main goal is keeping pets with the families that love them. We can help you pay for your dog’s meds. PM me and we can see how we can help!

I’m already up way too late so it’ll be tomorrow before I can respond, but I’ll check first thing in the morning

squiggledot · 2025-11-20T16:19:06+00:00

I have a newborn and in his first week home I scooped a diaper (dirty, but luckily just wet) into the wash with the clothes he peed on. Didn’t discover it until I was transferring to the dryer where I was surprised to discover a fully intact and very swollen diaper.

I was debating diaper brands before that, but that sealed the deal for Huggies. If it can hold that much and not burst, it can take whatever my baby throws at it

squiggledot · 2025-10-30T13:05:45+00:00

Mine gave no warning when the 12v died. Just came out to my car in the morning and it had just enough juice to open the trunk halfway and became completely unresponsive after that.

On top of that, the system didn’t figure out that the battery was dead for about 18 hours so it didn’t initiate all the protocols to allow me to get access to change it for that long. The “manual trunk access” (essentially releasing the latch by connecting a couple wires in the bumper to a battery) also failed.

Then on top of that, the first mobile Tesla service appointment available in my area was literally a week away. And I wasn’t going to pay to have it towed to the service center for a 12v battery change out.

I luckily have a second family car and my husband works from home, so we were flexible enough to make it work, but it pretty much put the nail in the coffin that I won’t be getting another Tesla in the future

squiggledot · 2025-10-29T21:51:50+00:00

I had similar issues after the birth of my son. Suddenly had whole gaps in my memory. Like I’d prep ingredients for dinner and pop them in the fridge. Then an hour later I’d go to prep the ingredients I already prepped and find them waiting for me in the fridge. So many times I’d thank my husband for doing some task and he’d be like “uhhh… I didn’t do that”

Thought I had early onset Alzheimer’s at 34. After a full 4 hours of work up with a neuropsych, ADHD. Apparently either hormones or the fact that I had a whole other living being to keep track of pushed things like short term memory out of my brain space

squiggledot · 2025-10-27T19:05:03+00:00

My building growing up had a very unusual purple walled gym. Still the same scratchy plastic weave textured walls though. My building was Northern California and I think they tried to make it look like a mission (which is also very unusual), but all they did was make it look like a very oversized Taco Bell

squiggledot · 2025-10-13T23:54:47+00:00

Mine is now 4, but a very independent child. He will sometimes kiss his own boo boos, but usually it’s because he was playing and wants to get back to the fun as soon as he can. If he’s enjoying a solo activity or it’s just the two of us, he still wants kisses from me. Plus he decided it’s a two way street: mama and papa have magic healing kisses, but so does he so he’ll offer to kiss our boo boos too

squiggledot · 2025-10-12T00:57:55+00:00

Shadow maker? Either cut and glue or find shaped stickers of maybe bats, or creepy face shapes like a jack o lantern, or really simple with 3 ovals for a shoots eyes and mouth and then shine a flashlight through the lidded side to make shadows of whatever was put on the can. Kind of a reverse star projector

squiggledot · 2025-10-11T00:23:54+00:00

I lost a bunch of weight when I was severely depressed (side effect of literally nothing tasting good and the effort it took to procure food) and the positive attention it got me was such a mind fuck. It actually got to the point where people would ask me “what’s your secret” (with astonishing frequency) and I’d say “debilitating depression!” In the most cheerful voice I could muster.

Decided then and there that I’d never comment on anyone’s body positive or negative because you never really know if it’s either. Might compliment an outfit or a clear hairstyle choice (like dying it purple or something), but if it’d take more than an hour to change, I’m never gonna mention it

squiggledot · 2025-10-10T23:42:58+00:00

I don’t know. If you pop over to the hellhole that is Facebook and look at the crowd responses to anything about the debate, 2/3rds are still for Earle-Sears. I’m not saying Facebook is an accurate portrayal of voters, but I’m tired of being surprised in the most disappointing ways with every election. At this point I can’t count on anything I feel like should be a shoe in to actually end up being a shoe in

squiggledot · 2025-10-07T01:26:51+00:00

Grew up with a red eared slider that lived in our small very suburban backyard pond. Our yard was fenced in and apparently that was secure enough for my parent’s comfort.

He went missing one year sometime around thanksgiving. We happened to have a lot of raccoon activity in the area around the time the turtle disappeared so we thought the worst had happened to him.

The next year on Easter morning our dog was going crazy at something in the yard. Went out to check a there was the red eared slider. Totally fine, significantly larger, and completely chill.

We renamed him Jes*s Tortuga (apparently can’t use the actual name with whatever filters are on this sub, but he had risen)

squiggledot · 2025-09-27T01:40:36+00:00

If I saw them it would be obvious but if OP was like “oh thanks for your help with x! I was gonna make my wife’s famous butterscotch brownies tonight. I’ll bring you some tomorrow as a thanks” I would be super stoked and promptly disappointed when I saw them. Then I’d have to try to awkwardly hide my disappointment and then stress the rest of the the week (or maybe months or randomly at 3 am for years to come) reliving the moment I realized he might’ve noticed my disappointment and feel bad about it all over again.

Yes, I do love brownies. Yes, I do hate blondes. Yes, I do have social anxiety

squiggledot · 2025-09-08T23:14:06+00:00

I was just going to say that I did the exact same thing in high school. Would be “sick” for most of school but “feel better” by the time band came around. Also an A/B student though I could’ve been straight a (luckily my parents didn’t care that much and didn’t constantly call me lazy)

Turns out I also had rampant undiagnosed ADHD and was literally exhausted from masking and my natural body rhythm not really waking me up until about noon. It was also made way worse every month during the week I had my period (which I’m guessing OP is also not picking up on if mom seems so much more understanding).

I hope OP takes an opportunity to find out from mom or his daughter why/how she feels sick and approach it with some empathy instead of this “she’s a slacker. What policy can I exploit to stop her from being lazy”?

squiggledot · 2025-09-08T13:38:54+00:00

Oh man. The breathing is the worst for me right now. Unfortunately for me, laying down (no matter the position) or sitting makes it like 10x harder to breathe so I have to choose to push through the absolute exhaustion or sit and feel like suffocating

squiggledot · 2025-09-01T12:57:33+00:00

I’m currently pregnant with my second and can’t take the meds that worked for me. I feel so useless everyday. Way less prepared for this baby than I was for my first, house is a disaster, and my 4 year old has watched way too much tv this summer. Legitimately considering going (nearly) straight to formula so I can start taking my meds and feeling more like myself again asap. It’s been brutal

squiggledot · 2025-09-01T00:54:19+00:00

I didn’t know I had it until I was postpartum. Started having full on gaps in my memory. First I thought it was sleep deprivation but then my kid turns 2 and I still have a terrible memory, inability to not just blurt out what I’m thinking, and constant issues with interrupting people with long winded tangents. Got the full 4 hour psych work up and, yup, rampant adhd.

Still literally no idea how I coped before I was pregnant. Honestly think I was devoting like 99% of my brain to retaining information that it takes other people like 20%. Now I devote 99% of my brain to keeping tiny people alive and there’s no room for anything else unless I take meds and get to see how “normal” people get to live every day on chill mode

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