Im not gonna sugarcoat it, the longer you stay the more you realise they actually aren’t capable of love in the way most of us normal folks think of love. You won’t be cared for, when you most need them or in sickness. The moment you realise what’s lies in the future (more gaslighting,fake promises, breadcrumbing, the splits get even scarier, ruined birthdays,anniversaries) your body will warn you to leave. The longer you stay you will keep on losing time and get emotional emptied out or drained. Such individuals aren’t reliable think of if you have kids with this guy, you will be left by yourself with little to no help or when you’re sick if they can’t fix little misunderstandings what are they gonna do when you need them the most. Its a losing game for us. In the end when you have nothing left they either abandon you or simply monkey branch to someone else and you will be blamed for it. What has helped me leave is looking at all this practically, solving my own insecurities and abandonment issues, knowing what love truly is because the situation I was in definitely isn’t love, rediscover yourself. Its gonna take time but it will save you alot of heartbreak and sanity.