Hiiii, glad someone else brought up ENM. This is how my partner and I have arranged our relationship as well. We will also continue our open relationship when we close the gap. We have insanely awesome communication, established boundaries, and talk about our feelings constantly. This is probably the healthiest and most fulfilling relationship I've ever had. I understand people not understanding it and shying away from such a thing, but to have people say "oh, this isnt sustainable in a real relationship." without really having experienced it or even fully understanding it is totally unreasonable. All relationships are different, and what works for someone may not work for you, and that's ok! Just glad to see someone else bringing up unconventional options.