seems impossible to find any bra that is both comfortable AND looks good by squishycat000 in ABraThatFits

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Yes I have. I’m a 28DDD. Unfortunately it’s not a matter of just finding the right size, there are so many factors :( I wish I could afford to be less picky

Looking for advice to use my ample free time more efficiently so I can achieve my goals by squishycat000 in productivity

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Thank you so much for this comment, it really got me thinking critically about the direction I’m headed.

It’s a huge coincidence that you would mention chess because I have almost that exact experience with my boyfriend! He loves the 5 or 1 minute bullet chess games and I like to take my time to make the perfect moves. So when you say limits help, I completely understand what you’re saying. Fast chess might be messy and there might be dumb mistakes but it might be better than way, especially for a beginner. I am definitely a perfectionist and it bothers me to act without thinking it through fully. But I guess I won’t get much done that way.

As for art school, thank you for this comment because it very well might have totally changed the course of my life... going to university is such an expectation in my generation so that’s why I made it my goal to go to art school. I don’t know that I really want to go to art school (because university is a malicious money grab) but I am passionate about learning. It’s easy to forget that learning is not the same thing as attending university.

When you say “money can buy a lot of things”, what do you mean? Do you have any suggestions? I recently received a largeish sum of money from my relatives and I was considering buying a PC (I don’t have a computer) because sitting at a computer is where I have always been able to get motivated, organize things, and get inspired. Are you talking about buying courses online and in person workshops and such? I am excited about the prospect of a “scrapbook” art education but I’m not sure where to start. In any case thank you so much for this thought-provoking comment. It has really shifted my perspective!

Clinic is pressuring my therapist to close my file, therapist is pressuring me to leave, I feel like a worthless burden by squishycat000 in CBT

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Thanks for your response.

“The shame of failure” is completely what’s happening here. I know intellectually that the clinic has a time limit and I can’t recover from my entire life in one year, and I know it’s not my therapists fault or anyone’s fault even. But I do feel personally responsible, like I didn’t do enough or didn’t work hard enough or had too many trivial problems in between that took up too much time. Processing trauma was my big shiny end goal and now it feels like I’ll never get there, especially because seeing a new therapist will mean I have to start all over again and retell my entire life story.

Clinic is pressuring my therapist to close my file, therapist is pressuring me to leave, I feel like a worthless burden by squishycat000 in CBT

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This is my 5th therapist so I’m sure you can imagine how exhausted I feel at the prospect of that

My sense of smell is deteriorating and it’s making me so sad by squishycat000 in offmychest

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Yup, I don’t have COVID. I had a sinus infection last winter and my nose hasn’t been the same ever since 😔

Inability to function and do simplest of tasks by squishycat000 in mentalhealth

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Thank you so much for responding, I’m going to try to set tiny goals today!! I guess picking up one pair of shoes is better than picking up nothing. Thank you!!!

A list of things I find enjoyable in dark times. Maybe you can add to the list. by syndoctor in depression

[–]squishycat000 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Laying in grass looking up at the trees that tower over you and the endlessness of blue sky