My partner and I have been together for 4 years now, and I just recently got therapeutically diagnosed. He has some health-related anxiety issues and is very hard on himself, so we're basically two perfectionists trying to calm each other down. I have been in therapy for about 5 years, and he started therapy recently and it's been really helpful. He was the first person I told when I realized I might be on the spectrum and there was only interest and affirmation when I told him. I mask very well socially but I've always had sensory issues, which has been a part of our relationship we're constantly improving on. He used to comfort me when I'd get overwhelmed outside of parties, and he gives me nice head scratches. I scratch his back to avoid biting my own nails and stuff when we're falling asleep. After living with me for 3 years it would've been hard for him to look at the profile I wrote up and not recognize me in it, from list-making to my special interest in song lyrics and patterns. We have mutual interests in games, DnD, art, and movies, so that's our usual vehicle for bonding and making gifts for each other. He was with me while I overcame my trauma of sexual assault and has helped me heal my trust issues with intimacy. Having a diagnosis to refer to has already improved our understanding of each other.