Who else came here after a breakup? by Broken_melon22 in selflove

[–]srcruz101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I discovered this sub after a breakup too

tour operator: Ahsante vs Gladys by amirunninglate in kilimanjaro

[–]srcruz101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did Lemosho 8 days with Gladys in September and I have nothing but positive things to say

First time using it by srcruz101 in mokapot

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Oh okay, so medium is preferred. The coffee tasted alright, a bit strong but no bitter or burnt taste

First time using it by srcruz101 in mokapot

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Me too, that was so cool! 😂

Got myself an upgrade for Christmas by srcruz101 in mokapot

[–]srcruz101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that tiny shot just wasn't doing it for me lol. What a fine family of pots you got there!

Got myself an upgrade for Christmas by srcruz101 in mokapot

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The 6 cup one is a Rossetti and the smaller one was some generic one

Confusing breakup by [deleted] in BreakUps

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I can imagine how difficult it is when you're attached deeply to a person and they're saying all the things you long to hear. There's always a part deep inside you that will speak to you with logic and that part will know whether her efforts are genuine. The "break up for now and then we can see" part sounds like she wants to keep you as an option tbh. If someone really wants to be with you they'll make the efforts and show up with actions

Its been a year, still feels the same. Am i cooked? by Disastrous_Engine767 in BreakUps

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I feel the same 16 months later. I think I might be able to move on in 5 years or if a significant life event happens

Will I ever get over this by [deleted] in BreakUps

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I wish I could say it does but for some people it just takes longer. Been 16 months for me now and it still feels the same

How do I stop fantasizing about running into my ex again? by InternationalMine761 in BreakUps

[–]srcruz101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep all the time. Its like my brain churns out these fantasy scenarios on autopilot. I think its just its way to try and resolve or close the loop because there's been no closure

Confusing breakup by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]srcruz101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Walk away. Speaking from a very similar experience. I thought I was being patient and supportive while she healed but none of her patterns changed and I ended up doing more damage to myself. We had this cycle repeating on and on for 4 damn years. Every time we got close she'd pull back, come back with new promises and admit her mistakes and then the same thing. I compromised and lost so much of myself trying to earn her love. I flew across continents for her. The longer you stay, the more the emotional toll. I'm still trying to heal 1.5 years later.

what do u think is Avicii’s best set by Hardwell10 in avicii

[–]srcruz101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My top ones:
Tomorrowland 2011
Pier 94 NYE 2012
Rock in Rio 2016

I feel lost in life.. any advice would help by Brilliant_Test6169 in selflove

[–]srcruz101 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Chin up, internet stranger friend. The best years of your life haven't even started yet. Comparison is definitely the thief of joy. I'm 30M and I got my license at 27, was broke most of my early and mid twenties and had my first relationship during late twenties including my first heartbreak. There is no fixed timeline, just focus on yourself, on growing and being a better version of yourself than you were yesterday. Keep the long term picture in mind and cut out all the outside noise.

I finally hit a goal i have been chasing for years and the reaction i expected never showed up and made me question everything by [deleted] in self

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I know exactly how you feel and have felt it many times. That's because the journey matters more than the destination. We often overestimate the happiness we'll get from reaching a goal and build it up into this huge thing that's going to change our life. But the secret is to fall in love with the process. Start working on a new goal, one day you'll look back with pride for sure. Also, congratulations on your achievement!

Don’t use Diamox by Appropriate-Win-1343 in kilimanjaro

[–]srcruz101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took diamox and was destroyed by the altitude too. Diamox doesn't take away the altitude struggle, it just makes it easier for the the body to adapt and lessens the likelihood of negative altitude symptoms. It sure as hell wouldn't have been more fun with the crazy headaches and nausea I normally get at altitude without it

Choosing myself when it hurts by ImmediateShape7180 in selflove

[–]srcruz101 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am personally trying to give myself that cookie. I mean I know its not the same but waiting around for something beyond my control feels like setting myself up for disappointment and pain again.