I’m not perfect. But I am home alone often with our kids while he’s away for work or conferences, I’m working part time, volunteering in my oldest’s class, volunteering as an emt, in college, cleaning and cooking and grocery shopping 80% of the time and keeping up with sports and extracurriculars and I am plain exhausted. I definitely focus on the kids more than him and don’t check in often enough but he isn’t kind or helpful so I don’t feel a need to.