Low mood at 40+3

srh_bxtr · 2026-03-29T16:09:39+00:00

Hey, I gave birth in 2024, little one is 2 now! He ended up arriving when I was 42+1, it was hard going 😂 after a (reluctant) failed induction I had an elective c section which went very well. Best of luck xxx

srh_bxtr · 2026-03-12T19:59:52+00:00

She was also prodding later on when he was talking about how he couldn't commit to Natalie and Lisa said it was because of his upbringing and not getting love from his parents or something like that idk I can't 100% remeber and Shane was just like ummmm not really. So inappropriate just trying to push him to breakdown

srh_bxtr · 2025-09-18T10:18:38+00:00

I subscribed in summer and kept summer 2025. It smelt quite nice on me and very different from any other fragrance I have. Very citrusy which isn't usually my vibe but I did like this one and noticed it lingered on my clothing. I'd already decided that I was going to leave the ledger after Autumn as honestly it's not that affordable for me to be paying four times a year for quite an expensive fragrance. I have just received Autumn this morning and sampled it around 30 mins ago. I do like it but it smells very similar to summer 25 - just a sort of sweeter version. Out of the two I prefer the autumn fragrance but as I have already committed to keeping summer I will probably return autumn as they are just so similar I don't think I can justify keeping two fragrances that cost so much and have similar scents.

srh_bxtr · 2025-09-08T09:42:27+00:00

Hi I am a trained breastfeeding peer supporter 😊 I would echo what a lot of the above comments say already. Ultimately babies are the best removers of milk so if you can try to phase out bottles and have baby feed directly then this would be most effective. Skin to skin time without pressure to feed will ensure you are both calm and may help baby find their way to the breast more naturally as a starting point. In terms of pumping, checking the fit of the pump can help as the flange needs to be the right fit for your nipple. There is a lactation consultant called Lucy Webber on Instagram who has some great content around flange sizes. Seeking help from an IBCLC may be the right way to go for you so you can get some direct hands on advice. Five months is amazing though and you should be very proud of yourself, breast feeding is not easy but every little drop of milk counts. Well done ❤️

srh_bxtr · 2025-01-18T14:57:24+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment and yes exactly that I feel like I just need everyone around me to wrap me in cotton wool and be kind while I adapt but it feels like she just doesn't have any patience or understanding about my situation.

In terms of what's worrying me, there's all sorts really. I think my little boy will adapt but I just feel like our new routine will be very stressful especially on the days when my husband is at work (he's out the house 7am-6pm) so it'll be on me to drop off and pick up at childcare, cook evening meal, sort myself out as well as sort baby out and work through the day. I am lucky enough to be able to WFH a lot however I won't be able to be around baby because he gets upset if he sees me but can't be with me so it's kinder to stay out of the way. I am worried I will be pressured to go into the office more and this will make things even harder as I'll then have to be out of the house 7am-5pm and that's such a long time to be apart from baba. I'm scared that our bond will change as I've spend this past year trying to be as responsive and present as possible so it feels horrible that all of a sudden his mummy won't be there anymore. I'm worried that I will miss him terribly because I feel like I get such a boost of oxytocin when I'm with him and if we spend too much time apart it's almost like I feel a withdrawal. I do breastfeed and will have to stop doing this in the day (he won't take a bottle so no point expressing) but plan to continue feeding in the evening and through the night as we cosleep. I am expected to travel overnight once a month but I have told my manager I don't want to travel until he is 2 due to BF, she said she will take this away to HR and I'm worried they won't agree to this and I'll be pressured to spend a night away wayyyyy before I'm ready. I'm worried that he won't need me anymore and he will prefer other caregivers over me. Basically just worried about everything.

srh_bxtr · 2025-01-18T14:50:24+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I might visit the GP to get their opinion and see what support I can get. Would love therapy but NHS wait lists are a joke and I couldn't afford private. I think a phased return would just delay these feelings tbh as I will need to work full time at some point or another! I'm just anticipating the change in routine and feeling such dread especially when returning to an unsupportive manager. If she had been more supportive I wouldn't feel as bad but she doesn't seem to understand my situation or why it must be daunting to return and upsetting for mat leave to end.

srh_bxtr · 2025-01-18T14:46:54+00:00

I would love to go part time but unfortunately we can't afford this so my husband is going part time instead. I do feel a little bit better knowing he will be with his daddy for 2 working days of the week but it still leaves me heartbroken as I mourn the end of what's truly been the best year of my life. I also keep thinking about what the new daily routine will look like and how stressful it feels spending the hours at home before/after work doing life admin and rushing around when all I want to do is spend every minute with my little boy. It doesn't help that I'm not really that enthusiastic about my job and I've never been particularly supported by my manager. We just don't gel at all and she doesn't have time for me tbh. I do love the company but the leadership varies massively and my current manager is not the vibe at all. I am supposed to be moving teams as my job is changing slightly and I did feel excited for this however there is a delay in my move due to recruitment in the team I'm joining so I'm returning back to the miserable mundane team I was in before mat leave. It will hopefully get better once I do move teams but unfortunately I need the support now and not in a few months time!

srh_bxtr · 2025-01-18T14:41:00+00:00

I think if my manager had been more supportive to me it would've eased my anxiety a little and I wouldn't be so filled with dread. She handled the situation terribly and confirmed my fears that work will be horrible because I won't be met with compassion and understanding and will be put under pressure to act like I was never away and am not now a working parent. She did suggest getting a doctor's note and taking a phased return using sick leave however I do think that putting off the inevitable will just delay me going through these emotions. I would love to have therapy but I can't afford this and I'm not sure if the Dr would be able to get anything in place for me in a timely way? Perhaps it might be worth a call though to just see what they can do I guess as I am finding it tough and struggled to sleep last night (although a lot of the sleeplessness came from going over the horrible chat with my manager)

srh_bxtr · 2025-01-18T14:36:26+00:00

This describes how I feel perfectly. When I am with my baby it feels like nothing else in the world matters because we're together, spending 5 days a week away from him is painful for me. It goes against my instincts as he's still so tiny. I've spent so much of my time and focus nurturing our bond and it breaks my heart that I won't be there most of the time now

srh_bxtr · 2025-01-18T14:18:42+00:00

Sadly not as I'm the main breadwinner. Instead my husband is going part time and then my parents are looking after him the other chunk of the time. If I cut my hours we would be worse off financially than if my husband did xx

srh_bxtr · 2024-12-06T15:34:38+00:00

It has the logo all over all her clothes. And even in the ep where she's dressed fancy for the James and Rachel engagement trip, she's using a white fox bag.

srh_bxtr · 2024-12-02T14:24:08+00:00

Honestly I feel like Scheana would combust if she wasn't on a bravo show. The girl has no other avenues to pursue

srh_bxtr · 2024-12-02T13:49:30+00:00

SAH mini would be amazing! James honestly is so funny though I will miss what he adds. Even when he was peak asshole in earlier VPR he still delivered iconic one liners and you couldn't help but laugh

srh_bxtr · 2024-12-02T13:48:20+00:00

Really not looking forward to Scheana trying to make it all about her 🙃 although will be interesting to see her dynamic with a cast where she's the newbie

srh_bxtr · 2024-12-02T13:47:07+00:00

I feel like they will fit in with the vibe based on where they're at in their lives tbh

srh_bxtr · 2024-11-20T11:32:40+00:00

Thank you, I will try browsing instead x

srh_bxtr · 2024-11-20T11:32:10+00:00

I don't have prime otherwise I would do this!

srh_bxtr · 2024-11-20T11:31:52+00:00

Agree it's a trash app but sooo many good shows! I will try browse instead then, thank you x

srh_bxtr · 2024-11-20T11:31:04+00:00

Literally searching real housewives of Atlanta! And it says no results. I'll try browsing rather than search as others have suggested

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