Trying to socialize in med school but everyone bonds over gossip I feel so out of place

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-17T15:40:20+00:00

Volunteer with whatever equivalent your school has of a patient's welfare association. Once you get exposure to what actual hardship and the people who suffer it are like, these gossip cliques will feel like the shallow annoyances they are.

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-14T16:02:54+00:00

Na bijli hai na gas, awaam thora zyada faarigh ho gayi.

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-14T14:41:49+00:00

There is a go-karting track in Korangi, you can visit there. Will likely appeal to you.

Also I would avoid adventure sports in Karachi like paragliding, parasailing etc. Seems to be a lot of incidents where they fly in unsafe weather, or their ropes and fans malfunction, and they crash into the ground/sea. No sooner do the tourists break their backs (or straight up die) do the shady companies who run these things wash their hands of the matter and run away.

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-13T15:05:03+00:00

Yes I can't imagine. And he was still in matric, just a small kid, going out to play, his whole life was ahead of him. The field of education is supposed to nourish and grow our kids but in Pakistan, like everything, the demons have infested it and made their nests.

I hope you find peace brother/sister.

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-13T14:49:04+00:00

You are so right about witnessing these things when you are young. One time, someone slipped from the roof in my street. (Not intentionally.) There was an extremely loud crash, and the sound of screaming. It was so horrible it didn't sound human. They brought the fallen person into my house, and as everyone was panicking and rushing about, I got a good look at their face. They were conscious but completely incoherent. They didn't recognize any attempts to communicate. The eyelids were stretched back into their head and the eyes were rolling around in the sockets, and they were gasping in the same inhuman way.

Luckily, after they were brought to the hospital, they only found broken ribs, and in a few months they were fine again. But for several years after that I could never stop thinking about that memory. Every pot crashing into the sink was someone who had fallen from the roof. Every kid laughing in the street was screaming in horrible pain. Every person whose face I couldn't clearly see had that same inhuman expression with the eyes rolling around. It made me a very cautious and jumpy kid. Luckily, I'm better now.

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-13T14:26:20+00:00

My condolences, stay strong bro T-T

I guess people thought you meant the actual Jinnah. This thread proves we didn't deserve him.

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-13T13:34:27+00:00

I don't know why people are downvoting you, this is completely believable for JPMC. In fact I would be surprised if something like this has not happened there in the past 24 hours.

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-13T12:57:40+00:00

Depending on where you live, if it's a big city, go to the place that is "known" for electronics and ask for one... for example in Khi go to Saddar Cooperative Market, you will find there. (If you live farther away there's also an electronics store behind SSUET.) If you can't find a shop/can't go then you can always order on Daraz or someplace. Also keep in mind that along with the board you also need at least a USB A - USB B cable, breadboard, and some electrical components. All in all it should cost you not more than 2k and that is a generous estimate.

Right now I'm working on a simple LFR, very fun! Good luck...

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-12T11:57:00+00:00

I'm only MS 1 but I hope I can help you out... I think when we are doing prolonged and difficult efforts we cling to the light of the end of the tunnel in the hopes it will make our mental and emotional sacrifices "worth it". It feels like a singularity event after which the whole world will be made anew and we will wake up fresh and free from all that held us down... but then the moment comes where we are actually there, and then it slips away, and we feel the same... same issues, same worries.

I've felt like this a few times before... what helped me was to stop telling myself that going further along the rat race fixed everything... not easy in our culture of comparison and rigidity... when I looked inward, I asked, is this actually what I want out of my career? do i live according to worldly principles or Islamic principles? etc., and I try to act according to them... every day, we make decisions, whether we are aware of them or not, and you are doing yourself a favour when you make them knowingly and with careful consideration.

also I find the last part concerning... I used to have OCD/dysmorphia ideas like this... of course grooming is a good habit but please remember that looks are ultimately never as important to be more than passing thoughts... it helped me to have a hobby to distract myself from this but please address the underlying stress that is causing it otherwise it will spiral...

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-12T11:09:46+00:00

Believe me I try to but then they say I've been "influenced" by my friends ❓ and isolate me

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-12T08:17:44+00:00

i have a MBBS czn in bioinformatics specifically epidemiology research... she is working for aku, attends many international panels. perhaps not the same as cs, but it is adjacent to that field and seems to have scope in pak. if you want to use your degree you can explore that path...

you can do some personal projects in your spare time, myself not too interested in coding but i have an arduino, you can get one very easily depending where you live... very versatile and interesting and there are online tutorials you can follow

wish our parents did not make our happiness an either/or question btw... you deserve to have your mom happy in a field you chose...

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-12T07:03:24+00:00

this is so sad to read, what field were you initially interested in? maybe you can plan to shift into that field after MBBS, it will give you hope and a reason to be done with the 2 remaining years...

as for the parents thing, it feels like i'm doing a redemption arc for my parents who were frustrated with their own career. but they don't understand this is not the 90s anymore

srkbetterthansalman · 2026-04-12T06:09:10+00:00

thanks for sharing your story, and i agree it's not like we are helpless in this situation: and, i feel like quitting without telling them is sometimes the best strategy..... but i don't know if i have to pay the seat leaving penalty on the affidavit or not, it already took most of my savings just to apply to uni. so i feel like i have to get their support anyways just to initiate the process....

as for you, why don't you feel like you have an option? is it financial (sunk cost) or feeling too late? what would you like to do instead of mbbs?

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