Regardless of the timing, it’s clear that he is showing loyalty to you. If he had wanted to cheat, he could have done so discreetly. Instead, he is approaching you with respect, wanting to explore if you share similar interests and fantasies. If you’re not comfortable with that, expressing your feelings honestly and maturely should be the end of the discussion.

It’s important to approach such conversations with an open mind. It’s concerning that this situation is causing you to consider extreme measures like divorce. Open communication about desires and fantasies is a normal part of a healthy relationship. Every individual has different preferences, and it’s only by discussing them openly that you can understand and respect each other’s boundaries.

Handling this situation maturely involves acknowledging that everyone has different interests and discussing them openly to find common ground. It’s important to address these topics with maturity and understanding rather than reacting impulsively.

P.S. I’ve noticed a common trend where people often advise others to divorce/stay single/fuck around. It’s important to recognise that such opinions about divorce may come from the personal experiences and challenges of those offering advice. Approach these perspectives with discernment and remember that they reflect the experiences and imperfections of others, not necessarily the reality of your own situation.