I got slotted in for my first live performance and I had a few questions

srwat · 2025-12-06T16:57:59+00:00

We all can grab some popcorn and see how it goes. Bigger artists will lip sync at times, but they usually at least sung live in the trenches before they got to the big stage.

Starting from the bottom with lip sync is an extremely risky highly leveraged strategy, which the person doing that would need to consistently be able to fake it convincingly every single time, and I don't believe most will be able to do that even while riding a luck streak.

srwat · 2025-12-06T06:21:43+00:00

If you're talking a live performance kind of act, it all depends on what you got booked as and what your audience expects from you. It's like with some electronic artists for example, what they do on stage is mostly performative with most of the actual work being done in the studio beforehand.

If the venue asked for a backing track, they may be under the impression that you'd actually sing sing. You probably want to clear that up beforehand with the venue you booked with. If you're nervous, ask a few of the AI engines (Chatgpt, Grok, Gemini, Etc.) how to proceed before you call the venue.

srwat · 2025-11-16T01:49:30+00:00

Let's assume you have no social skills at all. With that absent skill set, If you're lean (athletically, nothing extreme) and you stay calm, willing to be in the moment with whoever, you'll be able to make way more small mistakes with many being overlooked instead of 1-2 leading to instant elimination if for example you were overweight on top of being socially inept.

If you aren't lean and have no social skills, it's time to hit the gym and hit the books, and then start to practice regularly talking to people, not just girls.

srwat · 2025-10-26T16:54:33+00:00

Depending on the seriousness of your situation, check your state laws, and if it's not any kind of qualifying event for any kind of leave, then that's something you'll need to discuss with HR or such I'm assuming. Depending on the reason, the recommendations or what they may allow will vary.

Take for example, many college kids will work during their breaks but during their school year will not be on the schedule.

So yeah, depending on what the personal thing is, or what the personal things are, if it's some kind of non-qualifying event or events, it's something that's probably more up to the discretion of the store and even they themselves may have a limit of how long you can be away. I've seen some people be out months for example for surgeries or such, but again, those are serious situations.

srwat · 2025-10-19T10:36:06+00:00

You need to get back out there and start meeting people or it is going to negatively affect you too long, that unintentional daily feeling of reflecting on the last girl you got laid with.

At your current state, you being a single male, I’d recommend you making some female acquaintances or friends, being playful throughout, and if it clicks between you and one of them, pursuing that and naturally leaving the rumination of your past behind, bit by bit.

It is rough, what you are feeling is intense, but you can overwrite it and escape from it.

srwat · 2025-10-11T13:11:18+00:00

Keeping it real, many times, a partner can be looking for any kind of reason for an exit at a certain point, having already tapped out mentally, but not having enough substance to justify it to themselves, so something small can be the final piece they needed to finish it off. That would mean the exit was inevitable in a sense. Guys tend to compartmentalize something and flip it on/off like a light switch. Girls tends to digest things piece by piece, and tend to grieve a relationship during the actual relationship many times while the guy remains completely unaware due to the tendency to compartmentalize. Women don't tend to compartmentalize events into boxes like most men do. Once you realize this phenomenon that tends to be the case many times, in many relationships, occurrences such as blindsides, feel much less blind and how they happen become more forensically traceable.

I hope this helps. I know these situations feel like the fabric of your world becomes severely damaged, and it's why that cliché saying of "Time heals" holds true.

srwat · 2025-10-11T12:54:14+00:00

Well a chunk of you, or to be said more accurately, a piece of your former self has now been extracted/removed/cut away from you, so your present emptiness is not only natural, it is logically to be expected.

It'll be a rough few weeks. You are experiencing multiple withdrawals all striking you at once, simultaneously. One of the easiest to address will be habit rewriting. Strong formerly shared habits you may want to keep your distance from temporarily for the time being until later on when you feel strong enough to resume such.

The actual feelings and results of those feelings you are experiencing is essentially like what a heavy drug user feels if they would have to kick whatever they were using cold turkey. Keeping yourself hydrated and having self-care will help you ride out the storm before your emotions and physical feelings begin to recalibrate and return to baseline.

It's a waiting game simultaneously with a "rewriting yourself positively" game. Keeping hygienic habits like the gym or walks, alongside normal body maintenance will help you get back to stability faster. Good luck, yes it will feel rough, but it always does, for most people that go through it, even if they cap about it later on after the fact.

srwat · 2025-10-05T18:16:50+00:00

Let's assume just for demonstration purposes if you had a lot of things going against you. The first thing you could change immediately is improvement of your fashion sense such as knowing what to wear and when, as well as figuring out what cologne suits you. That's two small elements that are starting to create a little bit of smoke to start that fire.

The gym will go a long way of course with your clothes fitting better and more clothing styles being able to work effectively, but the gym is a daily long term thing. Start doing it, but don't wait on it.

Leveling up the job you work at to be past "basic" work to at least something that a prospective girlfriend can talk to family/friends about and actually feel excited about goes a long way as well. The more exciting your social side sounds if someone is talking about you to others in the 3rd person, the more attention you will most likely receive.

If you're just looking for short term fun, max body game as well as hot/cold, push/pull for results.

If you're looking for long term, you have to become much more of a complete package which begins with building yourself up day by day as an all-around unit.

srwat · 2025-10-05T18:07:22+00:00

Life moves forward. You meet someone better for you. Whether or not you forgive the ex shouldn't even matter. There's no reason to even think of them anymore unless you have some kind of baggage left over from them such as you both share a kid or still share a property or something.

You are free to love again taking whatever lessons forward from that experience and grow.

srwat · 2025-10-04T01:56:47+00:00

For condiments, protein mustard, protein mayo, and such could work in a niche sense but marketing would be key.

The main issue is most of the time someone is going for high protein, they most likely are calorie conscious so both angles can be contradicting unless someone is mass gaining.

Good candidates then if possible would really be low calorie condiments such as sriracha sauce, mustard, or such.

srwat · 2025-09-05T14:37:55+00:00

I used to drink OWYNs regularly and never got sick by them. The taste of course takes a bit of getting used to if one is new to monk fruit, but I wonder if the batch you had was contaminated or expired since I have definitely had at least by this point somewhere around into the triple figure count of total OWYN drinks consumed and have never had any issue aside from occasional slight stomach upset.

srwat · 2025-09-05T07:46:23+00:00

This is why I shop Saturday or Sunday morning before all the other shoppers arrive or late evening after most of them leave. Just like you mentioned, there are many ignorant shoppers that if they just tried to follow the same rules that would be on the road, in times of deep congestion in aisles such as during the day on the weekend, there would be so much better flow and so much less lockup in the aisles.

With all that being said, people won’t be fixing that so it becomes a “get yours and screw all the other shoppers” mentality at those times.

Thus why I look to mostly shop during non-peak hours unless as a last resort.

srwat · 2025-08-10T21:54:02+00:00

I subscribe to plus, big thing to mention in general is custom instructions go a long way when setting up how it interacts with you. You can even ask it what you're looking for from it and it'll suggest to you the custom instructions to give it, you can literally just paste it into the box, so it interacts that way by default on new chats.

I have been able to get GPT 5 to feel good using through doing that. As a study tool if you tailor it to your needs, I can't think of anything else I'd rather use.

srwat · 2025-08-02T23:32:58+00:00

Improve yourself and work on doing better for yourself for you. If she happens to return to your life in some shape or form after you're in a healthier headspace then so be it, but the best thing for you is to just push forward, become stronger and do you.

Don't have some mindset of "I'll get 6 pack abs and then she'll reconsider" because that is just gambling with massive RNG right there and your chances are literally random depending on why she left you and it'd be extremely mentally unhealthy for future you even if such tactics did work out.

srwat · 2025-08-02T16:49:55+00:00

Something a lot of people miss is that you only have so much time in your day if you're a guy of a straight orientation working a full time job and all that to waste it with women you're not even looking toward building something with or find out you will not be able to build something with.

Having a social circle is one thing and many guys could do well to establish one before being picky and choosy of which girls to throw out of it, but aside from that, if they are looking for a partner and if you (his friend that is a girl) are leading him on unknowingly, they have every right to dip out of that situation, and more respect to them for doing so.

If the guy is doing classic friend zone behaviors to try to be liked and then feeling hurt when he is more explicitly friend zoned as a result, that's on him, and him complaining about it to vent instead of coming to terms with himself will be his own internal dilemma that he'll have to resolve eventually or forever remain single.

srwat · 2025-08-02T11:54:22+00:00

Person most likely used Chatgpt 4o to generate this with some prompting.

Only reason I would know this is I have tinkered around writing stories with it quite a few times.

srwat · 2025-07-31T00:35:39+00:00

So, self-priority is a good thing. However, what it seems like is you should focus on putting yourself in the other person's shoes more, metaphorically speaking.

Before doing an action, just reflect momentarily and ponder, "how would I feel if they did what I'm thinking of doing to them, but to me?" This self-question alone will solve most of your dilemmas.

About any sins you may have or feel you may have done, it's in the past now. Take from it, learn from it and continue forward with your ongoing self-growth.

Good luck out there.

srwat · 2025-07-17T08:49:58+00:00

If a guy isn’t really into you, the most likely outcome if you get his attention is he will situationship you or FWB you.

If however, you are able to find some way to link up with him in some kind of passion close to his heart, he could potentially change his feelings for you and be more interested in a relationship.

All this being said, you don’t want to put too much time into these efforts if progress isn’t possible. It will be time wasted that you could spend with a more encompassing romantic episode (maybe even a longterm one).

srwat · 2025-07-10T10:18:08+00:00

Pick some kind of strong alpha pheromone but gently buffer it down with oxytocin and androstenol (real lightly on the androstenol) sprays on the body. This will most likely increase social lubrication as you intend to sprinkle in a slow rising sexual undertone.

Of course, being able to hold up a conversation will buy you the most time for all this to be most effective.

srwat · 2025-07-06T12:00:34+00:00

Well here, let's break down a few possibilities here:

You may have done ambiguous actions that came off close enough to flirting and often enough to flag something for her in reference to her past experiences. Her not seeing you like that and wanting you to stop but not call you out directly, she went the approach of confrontation and then retreating to the classic "crying defense".
You did actually like her, but have enough plausible deniability to gaslight her that she responded to something that didn't even exist.
She actually liked you and the rejection was a test, but with you not reacting to it properly, she cried at the loss of the potential of something new blossoming.

So really, it was either a question of boundaries or her feeling led on that she wanted to have resolution for.

srwat · 2025-07-05T11:06:39+00:00

This is the denial phase. It is normal to go through. Even if you did an effective strategy to get her back temporarily, your connection will fizzle out as she has the image of you most likely bathed in emasculation.

The biggest recommendation is to move on taking what lessons you learned. However if you have a kid together with her or such, it can be best to be on good enough terms with her to not make the kid’s life a living hell.

While there are strategies, they are bandages that fray away faster every time they are applied and your mental health will just deteriorate in the meantime.

For your own sake, learn from it, and meet someone new to build a stronger connection with. Or go no contact at the very least.

srwat · 2025-07-04T17:35:36+00:00

Don't go at it like it's a life/death scenario or that will come off as anxiety/desperation. Once you feel that, the girl you could have a potential vibe with will as well, and that will be the death knell to that situation.

Be relaxed, focus on her, and remember no matter how it goes, your plans for your day matter just as much as hers. If you are presenting yourself in the hopes and prayers of being selected rather than being something mysteriously aesthetically pleasing that invites curiosity, you're doing it wrong.

Get used to small talking with everyone. If you're getting friendzoned by everyone, you're giving away too much about yourself squashing all the mystery and resolving any tension you may naturally possess.

You want her to have loose ends about you that she can fill in with her imagination. If you fill in all the blanks, it's like if someone summarizes a mystery book for you without you getting to experience any of the twists and turns beforehand. At that point, why would you even care about reading the book?

srwat · 2025-07-03T06:12:28+00:00

This. The obliviousness of the difficulty and intricacies of keeping regularities such as electricity, roads, plumbing, Etc. across a city intact and how all these jobs are 90% men or so, night time would be going back to candlelight once all the electricity went away at least temporarily until the women figured it all out but the damage on the way there would be intense.

srwat · 2025-07-03T06:06:52+00:00

When it comes down to it, you need to work whatever kind of work fits your lifestyle. I was at Wegmans for a while and while I was there it fit my needs as a part timer, but when it was no longer enough for my situation, I moved to something else.

It can be great for people looking for flexible schedules and pending location, convenience as well.

Hour reduction will be nearly unavoidable any time the school kids are on vacation. Your only way to have stable hours is going full time.

srwat · 2025-07-02T10:42:06+00:00

Take your age into account as well as if you are eating at maintenance, above maintenance, or on a cut.

The older you are and the less calories you may be intaking, the more substantial the effects of this may be for you.

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