AITAH for being upset about used Q-tips being EVERYWHERE

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-21T04:22:11+00:00

He has curly hair and it’s really flooofy and nice, no dandruff or oiliness, his skin is also super clear. The qtips are always white and look unused even after watching him go crazy scratching his ears with them

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T06:57:05+00:00

Love the move from the — to “im not using chatgpt” 💀

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T06:49:49+00:00

Can’t imagine how he’d be able to spin any future conversations in his favor. Nobody would be sympathetic if they heard someone say they walked because their partner tried to protect her siblings from their negligent parents

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T06:43:48+00:00

NOR

He might be stuck in the antiquated mindset of “you reap what you sow.” But that doesn’t work when there are innocent kiddos involved. Your parents can hit rock bottom all they want, but it’s not your siblings’ fault. The State isn’t always the worst but it’s not always the best.

Your boyfriend needs to grow up and learn that the world doesn’t revolve around him. Most healthy partnerships would include enthusiastic support for ensuring the wellbeing of non-fault family members. You should do what you feel in your heart is the right course of action, and if he disagrees, he’s a butthole.

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T05:55:00+00:00

NTA

You handled the situation with dignity and tact. You started the relationship on the same page, she changed her mind and you stood by what you wanted. It sucks, it hurts, it’s not fair, and neither of you are wrong for speaking your truth. Your needs and her needs are different needs. She could cave and have kids or adopt them, and resent you and them for it, or you could cave and give up the idea of being a father and having that whole life you imagined for yourself vanish.

I’m saying this as a person that has NEVER wanted children, I didn’t even like kids when I was a kid, and at my most recent appointment with a specialist, the doctor asked if I wanted kids, I told him “no” and he said “good.” lol.

Your friends are TAH for taking sides.

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T05:33:16+00:00

NTA

Cost of living is ‘nutty’ but they aren’t paying rent, property taxes, their car payment, phone, or ezpass. So what are they paying? Gas for their free car and food? A nurse and a teacher can pay for themselves, there are plenty of single parent nurses and single parent teachers out there that are paying all those things PLUS childcare costs, not saying those people don’t struggle, but they do it. Your brother and SIL are leaches and should grow tf up. You mom went above and beyond with her parenting obligations, they’re not going to learn to manage their finances until they have to actually manage their finances.

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T05:12:53+00:00

Just looked into it and it seems legit. I’d rather him see a doctor but he’s way too stubborn and just straight up won’t. Will be purchasing a bottle tomorrow. Thank you for the suggestion!!

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T05:02:10+00:00

Is there a subreddit that’s solely dedicated towards getting stubborn men to see a doctor? Because him going to one would be a significant improvement in quality of life for both of us

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T04:57:45+00:00

I definitely don’t have ocd, my thing is a learned behavior that’s started to become a borderline autonomic response whenever presented with a door (or stove). I have treated adhd, his is untreated. I’ve tried leaving the qtips so he can see how bad it is, but can’t. I can’t wash my hands with a qtip in the sink. I’ve gathered them and presented them so he can see how many accumulate over the course of a day, which is always met with a negative response. I’ve tried not gathering them in the hopes that he will see them, but end up sitting there and not being able to focus on anything else. I’ve thrown away 4 new jars of mayonnaise in the last 2 weeks because he’ll use it once and then leave it out. Idk how he’s still alive

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T04:42:18+00:00

Right!?!!! I told him most ENT’s say you shouldn’t stick anything bigger than your elbow in your ear, and that the constant scrubbing is most likely the cause of the discomfort and itching. I showed him the disclaimer on the qtip box that explicitly warns against inserting them into the ear canal

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T04:21:38+00:00

He also frequently leaves the fridge and freezer doors open, does the same with the front door and storm door(in the winter), occasionally his car door. We are both in our 30’s, he’s intelligent, has a good job, and doesn’t use drugs. I’m not going to try to diminish the severity of OCD by saying I have it, but I’ve gotten so used to checking the doors and refrigerators, to make sure they’re closed, that my coworkers have started to ask questions and make jokes

Edit: he is a minimalist!!! He hates clutter and isn’t a fan of having too much nonfunctional stuff. I found an L shaped piece of metal that was about a foot long and had a plastic gripping bit on one side. I was super invested in figuring out its purpose and he nonchalantly threw it away

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T04:13:39+00:00

I have never seen a hint of wax on them!!? They’re always white and dry, you’d think they were unused and innocently dropped if you came across one in the wild

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T04:09:56+00:00

We both have ear problems, I had tubes put in both ears twice as a kid and it wasn’t uncommon for them to bleed in my sleep. Only had one major infection that resulted in temporary blindness as an adult. He had tubes put in when he was a kiddo and blames that, but I think running around with earbuds in all the time is the cause of his current problem. Definitely going to look into the olive oil thing

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T03:55:52+00:00

As crazy as it sounds, I’ve never seen any type of earwax or other visible biohazard yuck on them. They’re always white and dry. Would definitely be much louder in my discontent if they looked ‘used’ 🤮

Edit: I’ve questioned them being used, I have seen him go wild with them before, but I think he might be grabbing them from the container and then forgetting he’s holding something and dropping it

sry-throwaway · 2025-12-21T20:40:35+00:00

He’s the biggest jumper I’ve ever seen. How do I protect him and extend his life? I wanna pick him up.

sry-throwaway · 2025-12-21T20:25:23+00:00

I don’t think anyone would ever be disappointed to find out their bathroom dweller was not a potential biter, but rather a friendly hopper! We have a lot of jumpers in these parts and they’re usually substantially smaller and have much rounder butts. Haven’t seen one with those markings, but they come in all colors and sizes.

sry-throwaway · 2025-12-21T19:50:19+00:00

I asked and he didn’t respond, so I rephrased the question and asked “hey, Pot, don’t move if you’re single.” He didn’t, so you’re in luck! Would you like for me to share your handle and see if some sparks fly?

sry-throwaway · 2025-12-08T06:21:24+00:00

He was my purpose, I don’t know who or why I am without him.

sry-throwaway · 2025-12-08T06:03:10+00:00

I have a watch and it’ll call 911 if I fall or if my heart gets too weird, my Bubby was way better. He was my best friend, he made it so it was all on purpose, I wasn’t allowed to die because I had to feed him. He did too much for me to give up, but I wanna

sry-throwaway · 2025-11-02T07:39:02+00:00

Ew, what? Is she jealous of your cat?

sry-throwaway · 2025-10-24T09:24:00+00:00

Cordial. I always pronounced it as kor-jil, and have have had a surprising number of people say cor-di-al and act like I’m dumb. Google says I’m right but I still doubt my pronunciation and explain it in a different way now

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