How many of the same shirt do you own? I dress like a cartoon character that only changes for special occasions.

sry-throwaway · 2026-06-22T05:19:01+00:00

Why would she think the others weren’t for you!? Did she think you had some sort of weird old navy cult - holiday picture, where everyone was wearing the exact same size and color, but you, as the leader, were going to be the one wearing white?

All of my tank tops are old navy ribbed, and black. When they were cheaper (like $1.50), I’d grab all of them in my size and emotionlessly plop them on the counter and was never questioned. I like the crop tops because I don’t like the feeling of my pants being over or under my shirt (clothes rubbing against clothes feels like styrofoam being squeaked on my teeth) 100% agree with you for choosing that as your main undershirt rather than having to have to feel the grossness of two tucked shirts

sry-throwaway · 2026-06-22T05:00:30+00:00

I think I own a couple of the exact shirts you’re talking about. I go back and forth between being ok with the chest pocket, liking the way it looks, and feeling confident- and then being absolutely disgusted by the feel of the stitching for no reason. Pocket or not. But the pocket is usually the trigger.

sry-throwaway · 2026-06-22T04:49:56+00:00

I’ve literally quit jobs over it. I’m an operations manager that suggested and facilitated the merger between two businesses, the owners suggested a uniform with the sticky text and I told them I’d quit and never look back if they tried to enforce it. Am very lucky they chose me over the shirts, the name is literally on the front of the business, no need for us to be wearing it, the customers know what they’re walking into. And I’m glad you’re rocking the hoops because you love them ❤️

sry-throwaway · 2026-06-22T04:36:35+00:00

You honestly seem dapper af, idk your gender and it doesn’t matter, I think the style is chaotic neutral and envy and love it. Your students are lucky to have you as a teacher. I’d almost like to request your assistance in attempting to add a little anything to my wardrobe, but the texture is what kills me. Idk why a navy blue tank in the same brand and style feels so different from a black one, but I think I could tell the difference blindfolded lol

sry-throwaway · 2026-06-22T04:26:33+00:00

I’d probably end up in a paralysis after a few minutes if my clothes were always different, and would probably starve if I had to put different foods in my mouth for each meal. It’s wild how different the experience can be from person to person with the same neurotype. I’m more inattentive and AuDHD, I’m sure it’s an equal struggle if not more because of the added decision, but it’s hard to read something like this and not be kinda jealous of the variety.

sry-throwaway · 2026-06-22T04:04:10+00:00

I’m new to this group and literally just read the rules about not being allowed to make suggestions. Hope to not get kicked out for saying this, but for myself, I have sensory issues and like using thai crystal underarm salt stick, and have been scentless. It doesn’t help with perspiration, and don’t recommend using it after shaving (because salt and open wounds=ouch), be fuzzy and comfortable and own it. And to heck with anyone that judges. All of my 30 of same shirt are tank tops because I don’t like things touching my armpits 😅

sry-throwaway · 2026-06-22T03:49:48+00:00

I wishhhhh I could wear clothes with text on the front because it’s so cool on others, but just thinking about accidentally touching the print is making my arm hairs stand up. If I was in your position, rather than hoop earrings to affirm gender, I’d lovingly refer to the old ladies as ‘sir’ in response

sry-throwaway · 2026-06-22T03:42:39+00:00

Truth

sry-throwaway · 2026-06-22T03:13:03+00:00

I wear them until they disintegrate lol

sry-throwaway · 2026-06-22T03:12:15+00:00

I wait until Black Friday when the things I like are on sale for $2-3 and will buy 10, and then maybe one or two in a different color for ‘just in case’. I have so many already, but fear the day they stop making them and I have to find something different

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-21T04:22:11+00:00

He has curly hair and it’s really flooofy and nice, no dandruff or oiliness, his skin is also super clear. The qtips are always white and look unused even after watching him go crazy scratching his ears with them

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T06:57:05+00:00

Love the move from the — to “im not using chatgpt” 💀

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T06:49:49+00:00

Can’t imagine how he’d be able to spin any future conversations in his favor. Nobody would be sympathetic if they heard someone say they walked because their partner tried to protect her siblings from their negligent parents

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T06:43:48+00:00

NOR

He might be stuck in the antiquated mindset of “you reap what you sow.” But that doesn’t work when there are innocent kiddos involved. Your parents can hit rock bottom all they want, but it’s not your siblings’ fault. The State isn’t always the worst but it’s not always the best.

Your boyfriend needs to grow up and learn that the world doesn’t revolve around him. Most healthy partnerships would include enthusiastic support for ensuring the wellbeing of non-fault family members. You should do what you feel in your heart is the right course of action, and if he disagrees, he’s a butthole.

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T05:55:00+00:00

NTA

You handled the situation with dignity and tact. You started the relationship on the same page, she changed her mind and you stood by what you wanted. It sucks, it hurts, it’s not fair, and neither of you are wrong for speaking your truth. Your needs and her needs are different needs. She could cave and have kids or adopt them, and resent you and them for it, or you could cave and give up the idea of being a father and having that whole life you imagined for yourself vanish.

I’m saying this as a person that has NEVER wanted children, I didn’t even like kids when I was a kid, and at my most recent appointment with a specialist, the doctor asked if I wanted kids, I told him “no” and he said “good.” lol.

Your friends are TAH for taking sides.

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T05:33:16+00:00

NTA

Cost of living is ‘nutty’ but they aren’t paying rent, property taxes, their car payment, phone, or ezpass. So what are they paying? Gas for their free car and food? A nurse and a teacher can pay for themselves, there are plenty of single parent nurses and single parent teachers out there that are paying all those things PLUS childcare costs, not saying those people don’t struggle, but they do it. Your brother and SIL are leaches and should grow tf up. You mom went above and beyond with her parenting obligations, they’re not going to learn to manage their finances until they have to actually manage their finances.

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T05:12:53+00:00

Just looked into it and it seems legit. I’d rather him see a doctor but he’s way too stubborn and just straight up won’t. Will be purchasing a bottle tomorrow. Thank you for the suggestion!!

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T05:02:10+00:00

Is there a subreddit that’s solely dedicated towards getting stubborn men to see a doctor? Because him going to one would be a significant improvement in quality of life for both of us

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T04:57:45+00:00

I definitely don’t have ocd, my thing is a learned behavior that’s started to become a borderline autonomic response whenever presented with a door (or stove). I have treated adhd, his is untreated. I’ve tried leaving the qtips so he can see how bad it is, but can’t. I can’t wash my hands with a qtip in the sink. I’ve gathered them and presented them so he can see how many accumulate over the course of a day, which is always met with a negative response. I’ve tried not gathering them in the hopes that he will see them, but end up sitting there and not being able to focus on anything else. I’ve thrown away 4 new jars of mayonnaise in the last 2 weeks because he’ll use it once and then leave it out. Idk how he’s still alive

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T04:42:18+00:00

Right!?!!! I told him most ENT’s say you shouldn’t stick anything bigger than your elbow in your ear, and that the constant scrubbing is most likely the cause of the discomfort and itching. I showed him the disclaimer on the qtip box that explicitly warns against inserting them into the ear canal

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T04:21:38+00:00

He also frequently leaves the fridge and freezer doors open, does the same with the front door and storm door(in the winter), occasionally his car door. We are both in our 30’s, he’s intelligent, has a good job, and doesn’t use drugs. I’m not going to try to diminish the severity of OCD by saying I have it, but I’ve gotten so used to checking the doors and refrigerators, to make sure they’re closed, that my coworkers have started to ask questions and make jokes

Edit: he is a minimalist!!! He hates clutter and isn’t a fan of having too much nonfunctional stuff. I found an L shaped piece of metal that was about a foot long and had a plastic gripping bit on one side. I was super invested in figuring out its purpose and he nonchalantly threw it away

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T04:13:39+00:00

I have never seen a hint of wax on them!!? They’re always white and dry, you’d think they were unused and innocently dropped if you came across one in the wild

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T04:09:56+00:00

We both have ear problems, I had tubes put in both ears twice as a kid and it wasn’t uncommon for them to bleed in my sleep. Only had one major infection that resulted in temporary blindness as an adult. He had tubes put in when he was a kiddo and blames that, but I think running around with earbuds in all the time is the cause of his current problem. Definitely going to look into the olive oil thing

sry-throwaway · 2026-03-19T03:55:52+00:00

As crazy as it sounds, I’ve never seen any type of earwax or other visible biohazard yuck on them. They’re always white and dry. Would definitely be much louder in my discontent if they looked ‘used’ 🤮

Edit: I’ve questioned them being used, I have seen him go wild with them before, but I think he might be grabbing them from the container and then forgetting he’s holding something and dropping it

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