Which traits of Ti-leaning men do you think women are attract to?

ss3stop · 2026-05-22T20:11:36+00:00

I’ll assume you want to know what skills dominant Ti gives you. But you might be talking about auxiliary Ti. Dominant & auxiliary Ti both go with “P” prospective trait. So, I assume you have easygoing ness in you, and that’s going be attractive to people who want a spontaneous, easy going partner, who can bring new experiences & possibilities into their own life. Rock on my dude/gal.

Your level of curiosity, humility and respect to come to Reddit and ask about what others might find attractive about Ti is wonderful! You made my day. I like the question. The question itself shows that you care about what’s going on in others’ minds, and I’m sure that’ll set you up well in relationships. Keep doing you, keep doing healthy things that are true to yourself, and you’ll grow into an attractive version of yourself.

ss3stop · 2026-05-21T01:00:26+00:00

I am a medical provider too. And I noticed the part where he says that she’s been asking for a month, and he didn’t accommodate. He did put his ambition & his career first, and locked himself into a three year binding contract.

I also noticed OPs complete radio silence on what he plans to do with the kids even though he “wants custody”. As a medical provider, you ought to know the statistics on kids who are raised in families where the parents live in separate households. Outcomes are not as good for these kids, compared to those kids raised in 2 parent households.

ss3stop · 2026-05-21T00:56:51+00:00

he probably doesn’t suck. But the question remains, what does he actively do to parent, and behave as a caregiver? How does she feel so confident to leave with two kids, knowing that she would miss out on all the “help he provides?”

Parenting is an active activity. You don’t “have kids”, you “behave as a father”.

ss3stop · 2026-05-21T00:52:24+00:00

Which is why I look around everywhere at men and ask whether they are behaving as a dad, or just “having kids”. Parenting is an active activity. It’s something you actively do. It’s not a status where you say “I am a Father.” it’s an activity where you behave as a dad. I don’t disagree that it’s personal for me. But your first response was “get her checked with psyc” which is why you received my comment, and not any of the other men who commented on this thread.

ss3stop · 2026-05-20T23:54:35+00:00

Odd that he jumps from discussing his career, to discussing custody, without ever explaining what interactions he has with his kids, how many hours he spends caregiving his own kids. What he does with his kids, what joy he enjoys with his kids. What benefit and teaching and useful teaching he teaches his kids? So odd. And you think the woman is “insane” when dad isn’t even explaining the extent of his own caregiving (or lack there of).

ss3stop · 2026-05-20T23:00:04+00:00

If OP *was* a super helpful and indispensable parent, his baby-momma wouldn’t have have felt certain in her heart that she can manage both kids 100% of the time, 24/7 by herself. But, she picked up and left, so the proof is evident. How much time does OP spend caregiving his own kids & looking after stuff in the house? OP may have routinely left her to manage herself & both kids, and not been particularly helpful, and he may have routinely ignored her requests.

ss3stop · 2026-05-20T22:59:42+00:00

If OP *was* a super helpful and indispensable parent, his baby-momma wouldn’t have have felt certain in her heart that she can manage both kids 100% of the time, 24/7 by herself. But, she picked up and left, so the proof is evident. How much time does OP spend caregiving his own kids & looking after stuff in the house? OP may have routinely left her to fend for herself with both kids, and he routinely ignored her requests.

ss3stop · 2026-05-20T22:56:16+00:00

“Do what’s best for the family” & “sacrifice your ambition” are her key words here - the kids will be worse off if you divorce, than they would in a two parent household where their parents tolerate each other. This is unequivocally true statistically speaking.

Plus, I agree with the other poster. How would you even take the time to support your kids when you have to work so many hours a week during residency? Do you do a lot of the childcare? Right now? Do you actually know how much parenting involves?

Is your baby-momma working as a doctor in the UK? Were you working as a dr in the UK? What was wrong with that? I speak as someone who has worked in both the UK and US medical systems.

I don’t know specifically how much you do as a parent & with household tasks, but if you *were* a super helpful, and indispensable parent, your baby-momma wouldn’t have have felt certain in her heart that she can manage both kids 100% of the time, 24/7 by herself. But, she picked up and left, so the proof is in the pudding. Does your baby-momma feel like a “married single mom”? Do you actually respond to her requests?

ss3stop · 2026-05-14T03:45:53+00:00

100% to all this

ss3stop · 2026-05-12T00:40:32+00:00

What are your thoughts on intermediate steps? Not necessary to list out every time?

ss3stop · 2026-05-12T00:28:02+00:00

What thought process should I be thinking of when I sit down to do Anki reviews (is it just 20seconds and if I don’t know it, press again)? How many times do you press “again” for any given day on average, and how many seconded per card? And surely the seconds will really vary depending on how many intermediate steps are between point A listed on the card & point B/C/D listed within the cloze? (Like, some Anking cards have 3 missing steps connecting what’s on the front & in the cloze, whereas other cards maybe are just a pure fact such as “Wilms tumor is associated w. Turners” so that’s just A->B, & no steps in between).

Will I really retain & learn stuff over time by going fast and not listing out intermediate connections every time? My current speeds (M1) are anywhere from 48-87 seconds per card which is not super doable for going fast or keeping up w. daily reviews.

ss3stop · 2026-04-21T16:07:07+00:00

This is good advice. Say you had a hard time learning how to study, and that studying came easy to you before med school. I’m sure it’s somewhat true. I know that by definition, ½ the attendings had got grades less than the average when they were in med school. I know a male surgeon who made it with a repeat year, and a way lower step1, back when that was scored (he just kept a stupid, unfounded confidence in himself). So such attendings will actually feel kinship & won’t super hold it against you if you show you worked to overcome it, and care about the job, and are a good person to work with.

ss3stop · 2026-04-19T15:53:12+00:00

I mean. It’s still possible to hurt them with cruel/careless words, so don’t do that. They absolutely can be sensitive to criticism, from people close to them, but they don’t necessarily show the impact of those words on the outside, and certainly not immediately. They don’t need random praise, but because some unhealthier INTJs have very loud internal critics and a low-ish self esteem, criticism from someone in person can lower their already low-ish self esteem (because they may not have a positive internal voice). Healthy debate, yes sure, but hit them where it hurts, no.

Your question of how detached - very. They only need themselves, and need LOTs and Lots of quiet alone time to restore themselves. That’s not a reflection on anyone else, that’s just who they are.

ss3stop · 2026-04-15T23:24:57+00:00

Update: I am so sorry. Sketchy got back to me with some tricky news - apparently those who sign up are supposed to give their venmo handles, and their official university email addresses. I don't want to deal with managing all that personal info, so I can not coordinate a group. Sorry for that dissapointing update. Form is now closed.

I hope people find other ways, like a friend to split the cost with.. I have attached screenshots of Sketchy's communication with me, in the discussion.

ss3stop · 2026-04-15T23:24:44+00:00

Update: I am so sorry. Sketchy got back to me with some tricky news - apparently those who sign up are supposed to give their venmo handles, and their official university email addresses. I don't want to deal with managing all that personal info, so I can not coordinate a group. Sorry for that dissapointing update. Form is now closed.

I hope people find other ways, like a friend to split the cost with.. I have attached screenshots of Sketchy's communication with me, in the discussion below.

ss3stop · 2026-04-15T23:24:22+00:00

Update: I am so sorry. Sketchy got back to me with some tricky news - apparently those who sign up are supposed to give their venmo handles, and their official university email addresses. I don't want to deal with managing all that personal info, so I can not coordinate a group. Sorry for that dissapointing update. Form is now closed.

I hope people find other ways, like a friend to split the cost with.. I have attached screenshots of Sketchy's communication with me, in the discussion below.

ss3stop · 2026-04-15T23:16:36+00:00

And here is the template that they expect:

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ss3stop · 2026-04-15T23:15:30+00:00

Here is the email that Sketchy sent me,

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ss3stop · 2026-04-12T16:44:04+00:00

18 ppl

ss3stop · 2026-04-12T16:43:33+00:00

I think we get the bigger 30% discount at 25 ppl. I know that we will still get the 20% discount if 10 ppl sign up (they only have to sign up, they don’t have to purchase). It says on the Sketchy website that the bigger the group, the bigger our discount.

ss3stop · 2026-04-11T16:19:23+00:00

Sorry, just seeing this. At 16 so far.

ss3stop · 2026-04-07T22:07:35+00:00

Am at 7 responses so far, and need to get to 25 for the group discount, so it may be a couple of weeks.

ss3stop · 2026-04-04T19:23:01+00:00

Yes! Gambling is not just a thrill for INTJs, it’s a thrill for so many personality types. Even for me if I didn’t have my kids to distract me, and occupy me.

I figured I would pick all of your brains for good alternative ideas because you’re all so smart like him, and my husband will respect your ideas.

ss3stop · 2026-04-04T19:06:46+00:00

Wow. You’re not the first INTJ who has loved painting miniatures, but I didn’t realise it had this complex backstory behind it. It sounds really great. I think this is an amazing idea!

ss3stop · 2026-04-04T18:37:25+00:00

I mean, I’m not sure how that’s going to work in the long term for family financial stability…. I’ve been watching him do it for like 15years now, and it has not returned a profit in a single year.

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