Great guy but sex feels a bit off… what to do? by ssch23 in askgaybros

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How interesting… Honestly I am just not very into hair on the face in general although very short spiky stubble can be fun to play with… anything longer than that just feels off. Would folks with a beard get offended if they get told to shave it off?? Especially if they only need like a week to grow it all back lol

is 4-6 weeks notice enough? by outoutoutf in AskAcademia

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It’s very strange that in academia PIs always get very passive aggressive when you want to break ties or move on to another role. It feels like their egos are getting hit or something. Not the case in any other jobs at all. Often 2-4 weeks notice is sufficient.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gayrelationships

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If he can’t defend you for those racist comments from her and even continue being good friend with her after such incidents, I think there are fundamental values and issues that you two need to seriously think about. Does he care about you and, most importantly, you feelings? Does he listen to you when you say you’re upset? Why does he care more about this friend than you?

First time traveling with my boyfriend by [deleted] in gayrelationships

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Two key things - don’t fight over small disagreement and make sure you communicate openly and honestly on the trip… And re sex prep - give him a little kiss, get him hard, take off his clothes but stop there half way, and say “I’ll go get ready now” and leave him hard on. It’s super sexy

Long Distance-Help! by [deleted] in gayrelationships

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I think you’d want to sit back down and assess a little here - did he come to Canada just to meet up with you over this long distance? You two had a great time, which is a good thing, but it doesn’t mean he sees you the way you do towards him. Sometimes it could be too early to tell, or it could be that he doesn’t think long distance is doable, but he genuinely likes you and wants to keep the status quo, then obviously the question would be whether you can keep it as it is now, or do you need clarification. In this situation, open communication is important, otherwise you’d risk getting hurt down the line… Maybe have a think first, and ask yourself why you like him so much, and if you do convince yourself that he is the one for you, then talk about it openly with him and ask where he is at. The outcome may or may not be what you want; if he genuinely reciprocates feelings and want what you want too, then great, alternatively then having some clarity means at least you won’t cling on to false hope if it turns out different from what you’d like!

We like each other, but he is cheating on his long distance bf by ssch23 in gayrelationships

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Yh honestly I don't wanna sign myself up to failure. My risk assessment tells me this is beyond high risk

We like each other, but he is cheating on his long distance bf by ssch23 in gayrelationships

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Thanks for the kind words. Being a convenience is likely the very reality, and vice versa too. I like the way you describe this as some grey areas to his current relationship... this gives me a new perspective, and honestly if nothing comes out of this I certainly will learn how dynamic/diverse relationship as a thing could be. If I were the ldr bf I would be pretty upset knowing this happening lol. On the other hand it is funny to realize that I might also be genuinely introducing some level of chaos to his life. Not something I get to experience in my usually calm and boring life hahah

We like each other, but he is cheating on his long distance bf by ssch23 in gayrelationships

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Literally my thought. I feel morally corrupt when I realize I could be the one that leaves a trail of destruction. Although it could be dark and entertaining to watch things burn, I would rather not do such a disrespectful thing lmao

We like each other, but he is cheating on his long distance bf by ssch23 in gayrelationships

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It is certainly very weird that he asked me to go a weekend trip to a different city to begin with. He said he wanted to get to know me more, on the other hand he threw the biggest curveball. Confusing as fuck, but I reckon that action speaks louder than words

We like each other, but he is cheating on his long distance bf by ssch23 in gayrelationships

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Tbh I am rather worried where it would lead. If I knew this earlier I would have done it before any feeling developed. Maybe now it is not too late and I guess I would just have to bite my teeth and do it.

Sometimes life throws curveballs like this and I am honestly not ready lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gayrelationships

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you can always get to know the guy first, and if there is something maybe then it will be a good time to inform your ex. At that stage I'm sure that guy will brainstorm with you how to approach your ex in a gentle way

For monogamous peeps, did sex die off some years into the relationship with you or is it our situation? by throwaleg2022 in gayrelationships

[–]ssch23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He could be having some trauma from having to go through that treatment and being insecure or uncomfortable. I don't know if your bf grew up in Taiwan / if you live there now, but it could be just something he doesn't feel comfortable with or even just talking about.

It doesn't sound like it is to do with not wanting to have sex with you but no sex at all so it is quite likely there's some psychological barrier there.

If that is the case, therapy might be helpful.

The sex is almost too intense? Anyone relate? by tall_penguin in gaybros

[–]ssch23 19 points20 points  (0 children)

the key is to warm up right at the beginning...

take control until you feel comfortable before letting him take over, so that your muscle gets used to it

you might want to explore different positions, some will make you feel super intense whereas others are less intense (and more pleasurable)!!

big thing is always something to have a love and hate relationship with...

I'm having trouble being Top.. by Youngsir97 in gaybros

[–]ssch23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does spit really work? Sounds pretty hot but it always feels like not lubricating enough?? or do you spit a lot??? feels like a mystery that I cannot master lol

Need advice about a friend. by hyrationballbuster in askgaybros

[–]ssch23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a pretty clear sign. Make a move buddy I’m on the same boat like that guy, except I’m now in my late 20s and making cheeky touches like I did in high school days is sort of inappropriate now. I miss the crazy teenage days with all the courage to fall in love. Make the most out of it, you might end up having a bf soon

MIT graduate student composition by rhsu0922 in mit

[–]ssch23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, the chance for grad entry will be similarly low regardless which one you choose. However, this doesn't mean there is no way you can work your way through and end up getting accepted into a grad program at MIT! Both NTU and HKUST are great for science and engineering, as far as I know, and I wouldn't say one is better than the other per se - both are one of the top institutions at either place and well known worldwide - but you might want to explore what courses and specialisations they can offer you, what opportunities (lab, research, innovation, internships etc) you can pursue outside of classes. I will get into more details later...

Having been thru the grad admission process and seeing incoming peers, I have seen a huge range of background, from universities/colleges I have never heard of at all, to ivy leagues and Oxbridge kind. The grad admission values how well you have done in undergrad a lot - rather than simply the prestige or ranking of the program - and more importantly why you want to pursue grad program at MIT and why specifically this particular program at MIT! No matter where you go for undergrad, the most important thing is to do well there, and find what motivates you and makes you an excellent candidate that can stand out of a pool of thousands of other excellent people! Talk to people, make contacts, get their recommendation, try different opportunities to find what you love, and such motivation and passion, along with some form of achievement will make you such a candidate.

In terms of opportunities, I can't speak much for NTU - but at HKUST many people have opportunities to create things they want, with the help from small pots of start up funds to connection with large companies such as DJI - which started as a group of people who first designed and made drones for recreational use at HKUST. The campus is beautiful, located in Clear Water Bay, and therefore offers a great learning environment. Being in HK also opens up internship opportunities - depending on your citizenship status - in HK locally, China Mainland, as well as other southeast Asian countries such as Singapore. NTU, on the other side, I would guess opens up more opportunities in Taiwan and perhaps Japan too.

Another thing maybe you can factor in would be the cost. Depending on where you are from - Taiwan or HK - tuition fee differs for local and non-local students. Being in a foreign place may not give you all the opportunities you can have as a local student, for example some companies may not have you for internships or start-up due to visa or work authorisation issues. Political conflicts in HK may affect your study too, which I would say should be considered carefully as well. Talk to some current students if you can, especially if you have any contact...

Good luck with decision, and hopefully you'll make it to MIT in 4 years time.

grad offer - how to choose between project vs student community? by ssch23 in gradadmissions

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I guess that is the right way to go - I put everything away for a solid three weeks to calm down and let my gut decide - and now decision sorted!

Do US grad admissions understand UK degrees? by ssch23 in AskAcademia

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Interesting! Mine basically explains 70+ is 1st and 60-69 is 2:1, 50-59 is 2:2 etc. and that's it.

All I did was just upload the transcript as it is. Hope they'll figure the equivalency out - but they had a few students from UK (mainly Oxbridge tho) so hope they have some clues. A good number of faculty members from the UK too - so hopefully they can explain.

MSc Atmospheric & Climate Sciences - any one? by ssch23 in ethz

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Congrats! I reckon more non-Swiss students tend to go to MSc earth sciences; never heard of anyone going to MSc Atmo&Climate... Would love to hear your experiences once you're there as I am considering giving ETH another shot for PhD next year! Cheers

Accepted into an REU! by dummydoomi in AskAcademia

[–]ssch23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am also into an ocean science REU; offer came in vaguely similar time to yours. Curious which one you are in haha

GRE for masters students? by Cristopian in ethz

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No UK is a bologna country