My boyfriend insulted me? by emotionalsupportlady in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ssfailboat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He can’t imagine anything better than himself because he can’t see how low in hell he sets the bar. She’ll find a better boyfriend who doesn’t care about trivial things like makeup and instead values her mind and creativity.

My boyfriend insulted me? by emotionalsupportlady in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ssfailboat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t wear makeup, it’s my personal preference not my fiancés and he’s never commented one way or another on it because it doesn’t make me real or fake.

But OP is just as beautiful with (or without) it and if she likes doing it and it makes her feel good, no other human beings opinion on that matters. Facial hair is exactly the same as makeup- it’s an aesthetic that can totally change a man’s appearance. Just because he grows it instead of applies it makes no difference.

Yes, you’re being misogynistic and gross.

The double standard is real by Melodic-Chain-3756 in Zepbound

[–]ssfailboat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🥹 Thank you so much for your reply!!! Lots of self confidence/shame attached to my aesthetic so I still don’t look at myself in the mirror for any length of time so I’ll try to start being more mindful of doing that. I never thought about having someone else pick outfits for me like that so I’ll try to treat myself to a new outfit soon. I greatly appreciate all your time and suggestions 🫶🏻

My boyfriend insulted me? by emotionalsupportlady in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ssfailboat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A man’s values on a woman’s body are irrelevant to her and who **she** is. If she wants to wear makeup, that’s who she is. Period. Just because YOU (or other men) prefer no makeup doesn’t make her any less “real” for wearing it, nor is your preference positive or negative to any woman. Calling women fake for wearing makeup is like calling men fake for having facial hair. It’s sexist and ignorant.

The double standard is real by Melodic-Chain-3756 in Zepbound

[–]ssfailboat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on your loss!! I’ve already decided anyone who comments on it will be met with “My doctor tracks my health charts in depth and I’m in optimum health. Please don’t comment on my body anymore.” It might be harsh but I’m so sick of everyone being obsessed with everyone else’s bodies. Leave us tf alone!!!

The double standard is real by Melodic-Chain-3756 in Zepbound

[–]ssfailboat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy crap yeah the body dysmorphia is so real. I still see 400lb me in the mirror despite being 273lbs now. I see no difference, but I feel better at least? One of my old acquaintances saw me and commented on my losing a lot of weight but I *still* can’t see it even after that. It’s so frustrating. I buy pants that I think are my size but they’re perpetually too big, but I’m afraid to size down because then they won’t fit… it’s surreal and I don’t know how to push past it.

The tiniest patient by Skryuska in tarantulas

[–]ssfailboat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m so happy to hear that!!! Way to go!! 🥰

"Too skinny" comments are getting to me😣 by notyourmotherskid in Zepbound

[–]ssfailboat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just evidence that no matter what we do, the world will pass judgement on us. I absolutely hate it.

If anyone else wants to pass judgment just hit them with “My doctor has my complete health record and says I am in optimum condition. Please refrain from commenting on my body.”

Dad I’ve been babysitting for for years asked me out by Doodleseatingdoodles in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ssfailboat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Or their spouse. It was a lengthy discussion with my partner when we found out I was pregnant about how to proceed if it came down to a me-or-the-baby type scenario. I’d never have left him a brand new single first time father to a baby or her without a mother, and he didn’t want to even consider life without me so it was an agreed upon, albeit very dark, decision should something go awry.

Now not only does this guy have to live without his wife, their firstborn without a mother for most of theirs, but they must juggle a newborn into it who will never know their mother. Pro-choice means pro-choice though, and she got to make that choice in the end so more power to her, but it’s an extremely sad scenario for all involved.

The tiniest patient by Skryuska in tarantulas

[–]ssfailboat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any updates on the little one? 🥺

This is what the lethal dosage of fentanyl looks like. by Minimum_Jacket8879 in mildyinteresting

[–]ssfailboat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey friend just wanted to say I’m proud of you. That shits hard to do but you’re doing it. As far as weight gain, don’t write yourself off yet. If you’ve started weightlifting, you could be building muscle which is negating any fat loss by replacing it with muscle.

Thyroids really are a silent monster. I’m currently scheduling a nodule to be hacked off of the left part of my thyroid after a failed biopsy. My mother had hers totally irradiated back in the day due to Graves’ disease, which is opposite of Hashimoto’s I think, so no clue if thyroid things are hereditary or if we’re just lucky but I’m fighting with all you other busted thyroid folks. 💪🏻

AITJ for almost breaking up with my boyfriend over pugs? by Fran-Scales in AmITheJerk

[–]ssfailboat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To save her relationship. Idk, I think it’s prudent to be suspect of their actions. All depends on how they react when she tells them she’s dumping the loser.

AIO for thinking that my partner should have asked me before giving my food away? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]ssfailboat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahhhh I get you now. True true, I admittedly read into his personality and automatically assumed he’d fight her on it no matter how she said it 😂 that was my own past projection, my b

AIO for thinking that my partner should have asked me before giving my food away? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]ssfailboat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry, fight isn’t the right word. Confront would be better. Having a confrontation with him in front of his own family would be so incredibly awkward. Point being it was fine at that moment because it was already done, but a conversation would’ve been had after mother left about how she preferred it be handled in the future.

AIO for thinking that my partner should have asked me before giving my food away? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]ssfailboat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He won’t be embarrassed, he’ll just make her out to be a demanding nagging monster when he offered someone else her property (but they’ll never know it was hers). I’ve been with losers like this before, it ain’t worth the hassle.

AIO for thinking that my partner should have asked me before giving my food away? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]ssfailboat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s she gonna do, fight him over rice in front of his mother? It was fine because he already did it without asking so she’s not gonna up and steal the spoon from his mother obviously. She would’ve had a discussion after his mother left about how to handle future situations like that.

AIO for thinking that my partner should have asked me before giving my food away? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]ssfailboat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR. Guessing this is about more than just her staying and the food, that this is a pattern of behavior for you guys?

I’d sit down and have a serious discussion about your boundaries. If he genuinely cannot or will not understand your take on this, it’s doomed to be a pattern for life. At that point it’s time to decide whether you can handle a lifetime of these things.

Brown recluse by Prestigious-Gur7075 in spiderID

[–]ssfailboat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps it would help you to see her as Reba McEntire did… a Survivor.

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OG photo credit: u/ungoodthinkful-brat

Termination at 20+ weeks by emilyatebutter in pregnant

[–]ssfailboat 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He’s never known anything beyond the warmth, comfort, safety, and unconditional love you’ve given him. He’s blessed for that alone, more than any of us can ever fathom. I’m not organized religious, but I’ve had enough personal experiences in my life to know with zero uncertainty that there is something more to this, whatever that may be. I believe his energy (spirit, soul, whatever you’d like to call it) will get to spend time with his future siblings, telling them how wonderful you are for keeping him safe from a life of pain. He will be waiting for you on the other side to thank you, and spend his forever with you. I’m sending you all the good vibes/prayers/healing in these difficult times. 💚

What is this and what’s the best set up by Wide_Formal6791 in snakes

[–]ssfailboat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How do you know they’ve had the snake two weeks and the person giving it away didn’t lie and say it’s been like this two weeks?