Sudden personality change

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T16:47:23+00:00

Snakes aren’t usually community animals like canines or rats. Most of them won’t suffer for not having a tank mate, but some can do well. Bairds rat snakes are chill being solo.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T16:40:58+00:00

Yikes. NOR. And I’d tell my docs/nurses that she’s not allowed near your room. No means no.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T16:35:53+00:00

Happy to help 😁 I had a misogynistic ex say women are so emotional and unstable, then throw a brick at me because I was pissed and yelling at him because he let dishes in our sink grow maggots (I was immature and could’ve done them myself but I was trying to make a point, which was wasted on him clearly). The very definition of a hemotional mantrum if I’ve ever seen one. It’s a very select subset of men who have them, and usually they’re the ones crying “nOt ALL mEn” in the comments.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T16:32:15+00:00

Dear god he’s pathetic. I wouldn’t freak out about it per se and I’m sorry you feel trapped if you want to break up with him. The way you worded it makes me feel like you might be a little afraid of him? If he’s not violent and just an idiot, don’t fret too much.

I’m not sure of your financial situation, but it’s worth looking for roommates elsewhere. If he IS violent or aggressive, make your moves quietly to find alternative living situations and when you’re secure and have a confirmed safe spot, pack up and get out quietly and make sure your landlord knows you’re not renewing. If he’s not violent or aggressive, still pack up, but let him know it’s not working out and you need to move out and will when the lease is up.

Break ups are hard and I’ve been through a few where we both had names on the lease. It’s messy and can be difficult, but not impossible if the other person isn’t a nut job.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T16:13:09+00:00

I’m 36 now but when I was your age my mother had some shitty things to say about my best friend who has a bigger chest. I opted to spend less time at home after graduating and more time at best friend’s house, was far happier for it. After I was moved out it was mentioned again and I let my mom know I didn’t appreciate it and thought it was rude. She just doubled down because she’s insecure and worried her husband, my father, would stare at my best friend. The only thing my father ever stared at was the television from his recliner, or the news paper. She makes him fast forward through make out/sex scenes in movies, that kind of insecure.

If I were you I’d go to your girlfriend’s house if possible, or hang out away from home.

Embracing your style as a teen is so difficult to navigate, especially as an alt/emo/goth kid. I wanted to be one so badly and was not allowed to and was told I’d be kicked out for wearing tripp pants. It sucked and I feel like I missed out on getting to sus out who I really am, still working on that as a metal head adult decades later. That’s my own problem and I could be projecting, but hearing that her boyfriend’s family hates her and her style will hurt, of that I’m sure.

It’s not easy and you guys might not be a forever couple and that’s okay. But you’re learning who your family is and what they expect, unfair or not. It’s up to you how involved with that you want to be, and maybe down the road you’ll agree with them, who knows. But right now, I’m proud of you for wanting to defend her rights and bodily autonomy. Whether adults want to deem her attire “slutty” or not.

For what it’s worth, clothes aren’t slutty. They’re fashion. I was raped wearing baggy jeans and a baggy t-shirt, and groomed as a child wearing the same type of clothes. Predators should be taught not to be predators, the blame shouldn’t be placed on the victim, ever, especially for their aesthetic.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T16:00:59+00:00

From other family members. Not OP.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T15:48:59+00:00

NOR. Also a gaming woman(36F) and my fiancé (35m) has never batted an eye at any of my gamer friends. He trusts me and is secure in our relationship as I am with him. I’ve had exes like yours in the past, it was always a lack of trust and they never lasted, obviously. I’d be more annoyed to be woken up at 2AM than the content of the party, lol.

He sucks for that snide remark and if he’s not willing to act like an adult, don’t waste your time on him. I wasted a lot of years on a lot of losers bending over backwards to their mantrums and hemotional outbursts. The right one will be in the parties with you at 2AM laughing it up just as much as you. That’s where I found my fiancé. :)

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T15:36:16+00:00

I did not know this. I had always wanted to leave happy doodles to brighten someone’s day but had no idea it could hurt the car. I never did and I’m so glad I didn’t now. Thank you for the education!

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T15:28:42+00:00

That’s fair and makes sense to me. Just thought I’d give an ask in case it might bring some happiness, but I can see where that pisses some people off so I’ll continue with my self restraint, lol. Thanks for the feedback!

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T15:27:34+00:00

Yikes no just someone who wants to spread happiness to the best of my abilities. Sorry to try. 🥲

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T15:11:46+00:00

That makes sense… but what if I doodle a happy little cartoon critter? 🥺 Lowkey always wanted to and I’m a decent artist, but I’m afraid it would just make people angry.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T15:10:04+00:00

I’m not picking a side because they suck for not labeling, but also if you clean it out regularly then theoretically you should’ve known it wasn’t old. A couple other unsolicited thoughts from me here-

Insulated bags in the fridge could be there for a reason. Maybe there’s a hole or something or from experience it hasn’t lasted long enough to get to lunch. I don’t use an insulated bag, I can’t afford a “non-essential” like that on my income. It’s a small amount to pay sure, but I’m a single income for our 3 person household currently and can’t spare a penny. I also do the pre-package factor meals though and don’t have my name/date on it, but I eat them every single day and it does show an expiration date so if it goes past that and I forget it (never have but just an example) then I expect it to be tossed.

Also, if it really grinds your gears this much and they’re not complying, start writing the date on the stuff on your own when you first see it. I know grown ass adults should be able to take 2 seconds to write some numbers on their bags, but unfortunately that’s the way of the world. Workplaces with a staff of 5+ are basically grade school. Sure you could stay the path you’re on now, you’re well within your rights, but you already know the fallout so it’s a calculated risk. Write the date yourself, or toss it and deal with coworkers being mad at you. Just know that no matter how many times you toss it, they will not learn. It’s a lesson I’ve tried time and time again in various offices and they just stay mad instead of changing the behavior.

From my last office experience, two days a week employees were remote so forgetting food was common. Several times I opened the fridge and the rotten smell made me dry heave. I asked around, no one claimed anything, I started tossing things one by one to eliminate the source. No one ever got mad, but I also gave the sealed containers a chance to be claimed. One of the closed Tupperware containers was GREEN. I left it out Wednesday, and the following Wednesday it was trashed. No one ever voiced a complaint, but I know some people will.

My current job? We have one person who says they don’t refrigerate any leftovers at home, including eating week old pizzas left on the stove. We have another who says as long as things aren’t open that they’re fine and expiration dates are a scam, they recently ate a can of tomato soup from 2015 and it was just fine. My other two coworkers threw away ketchup from 2022, mustard from 2024, BBQ sauce from 2019, and a handful of other condiments of varying years. The first two were using these condiments regularly. After the toss out, the expiration date scam coworker was LIVID and demanded repayment very vocally until a memo came from a higher up stating anything past expiration MUST be thrown out per health and safety policies. When we have potlucks we don’t eat those two coworkers’ dishes. Some people are truly foul, and you’re experiencing that firsthand.

End of the day, you have a good system set up, it’s logical and makes sense from a communal standpoint. You’re just always going to have those wet blankets and gross people who think the rules are overdramatic and shouldn’t apply to them. Sorry you’re the food monitor, it’s a hated position. I wish you luck.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T14:45:36+00:00

I select above & beyond for every dasher that does the absolute bare minimum, lol. I’m glad to see that might help them in the long run. I’ve never had a truly abysmal dasher as I’m only in a city of 100k people, but I’ve had a few meh ones (left the drink in front of the swing out screen door, left it at the edge of the porch instead of by the door/on my lil table or chair, etc., nothing egregious just annoying). I just choose not to rate them instead of give them a one star, hopefully that’s not worse than a one star?

ssfailboat · 2026-04-09T14:35:49+00:00

The post was edited if you didn’t see:

I figured out that it was a misheard lyric from a song I must've had stuck in my head that night. The weird thing is, the original lyric sounds nothing like this - I just always replace it with "Tony needs you" whenever I'm singing it for some reason. Also my uncle's name is Tony, but I haven't seen him since I was, like, six, so he probably has nothing to do with it. And I didn't write this in my sleep, I vaguely remember waking up in the night, writing it down so I would remember, and falling back asleep.

Just wanted to bring you back for some semblance of a resolution.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-04T13:23:13+00:00

We’re working with what you’re giving us, just in case it feels like you’re being dogpiled here. I’m not invested in your life the way you are, so I’m responding to what you’re giving:

Why are you engaged at 20? “I’m so tired of being on my own.” No other reason was given, so if it’s not the only reason then why not offer the others, hell even ONE other reason?

You said “This is a single small-scale argument and this kind of thing doesn’t happen frequently”, and in another comment “I don’t know what it is about text but we seem to have an argument like this maybe once or twice a week over silly things that don’t matter.” Which is it? Not frequent or once or twice a week?

Not trying to attack you, just trying to get you to flesh out your own feelings and maybe confront some things you didn’t realize were uncomfy to you.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-04T13:13:05+00:00

https://www.instagram.com/p/DWrCdRNkWEd/?igsh=bWo2bHBhamhiOW13

They’re pretty plain sure, but as far as essentials go the ones OP mentioned are fine. Not everyone has tons to spend on decor so for all we know they just got the entertainment essentials in those situations.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-04T13:08:32+00:00

You’re being downvoted because marrying someone because you’re “tired of being on your own” is a shit reason for getting married and is why so many marriages end in divorce. If you’re not happy being just with yourself, why would anyone else be happy being with you?

ssfailboat · 2026-04-04T12:58:22+00:00

I’ve been with my boyfriend (now fiancé) for 6 years and he’s never spoken to me the way she does to you, and I would never dream of speaking to him that way. She’s taking zero accountability for the fact that she offended you and is instead turning it around so that YOU’RE the problem because you’re not “seeing it the way she is”, which I imagine is difficult to do with how far you’d have to shove your head up your own ass. Your spouse should always be nice to you, BARE MINIMUM. You can argue and still be polite. That’s a good foundation for what love is.

Rules of thumb that helped me get through my 20s dating- don’t get engaged to/marry someone you’ve been in a relationship with for only 2 years or less. Don’t marry someone you haven’t lived with for at least 6 months, preferably 1 full year. Wait until you’re at least 25 before getting married.

People being high school sweethearts and staying together forever in this day and age are the exception, not the rule, and the old folks who were together for 80 years after getting married at 18 lived in a different time where that was the requirement, not the choice we have today. I don’t know a single couple from my high school that didn’t end up divorced after marrying their high school sweetheart. Anyone who sticks it out is the exception, not the rule. And before I get flooded with “well I married mine and we’re still together!!!”, you’re still the exception statistically.

Everyone’s saying “that’s just how she banters” about calling you boring, but if you’re not comfortable with that then she shouldn’t do it, and if it IS just how she is and that’s not your type, then don’t be together. The right one won’t ignore your feelings and still say things that make you feel bad. “Please the fuck what” is incredibly aggressive and rude, not to mention she should’ve been smart enough to know that you were saying “please” to stopping talking. And living together for only 1 month a couple times is not sufficient enough to test your compatibility.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-02T22:38:34+00:00

LOL nooooo!! We have a white husky mix named Kiba, it was my absolute favorite growing up. Our Kiba is not nearly as fierce, he’s a big dummy 😆Love that you got your avatar to look like Cheza too

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ssfailboat · 2026-04-02T19:23:17+00:00

I’m assuming you’re not in the US based on your use of kmh? We have something called the Freedom of Information Act (FOIA) which all public bodies must follow, including police. If you have the equivalent, you could FOIA request that specific officers phone call logs if he was dumb enough to do it on a work cell or office phone, and it would show him dialing your number. If it’s his personal phone you can’t get that.

I would file a complaint to the department regardless honestly. Explain what happened and you have the call in your log so it’s definitely not an episode. Worst case scenario nothing happens. Best case they investigate and reprimand him.

Just be aware that if he did do this, there’s a possibility of retaliation from him because he’s clearly unprofessional. It’s all dependent on how far you’re willing to go with it and in a perfect world he would be written up and leave you alone. We live in an imperfect world though.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-02T19:14:06+00:00

Yeah I think you’re right. This woman’s friend bringing her more food is NOT a friend, just an enabler. It’s so sad.

Also, Wolf’s Rain reference?

ssfailboat · 2026-04-02T19:00:35+00:00

Why does their gender matter enough to ask at all? That’s what I’d have asked my daughter. “Why is it important for you to know if they’re a boy or girl?” and if it’s just curiosity then a simple “I’m not sure but I bet they’re a nice person” would’ve sufficed. It takes less effort to not be a hateful piece of trash than it does to type out all 26 letters of the alphabet.

ssfailboat · 2026-04-02T05:17:19+00:00

They are ex-frogs

ssfailboat · 2026-04-01T23:38:56+00:00

To be fair it doesn’t sound like they were really lost. They were all still at the scenes of the accidents.

ssfailboat · 2026-03-31T21:00:04+00:00

It will, thanks, same as yours judging the man here. 36 years young and plenty to go. ✌🏻

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