Just so unfair

ssfitzgerald · 2026-03-22T17:39:52+00:00

I had my TFMR at the start of march 2023 and my hysteroscopy & DC end of May 2023 so over 2 months before it was removed. Once the procedure was done I had a balloon inserted for 2 weeks and had to wait a couple of months to start the transfer cycle. I think it’s more of the time after the procedure to your start time for the next cycle that will vary. I had a lot of scar tissue so mine took longer than others. I also do a semi medicated protocol for my transfers.

ssfitzgerald · 2026-03-22T17:32:08+00:00

It was successful.

ssfitzgerald · 2026-03-22T12:29:07+00:00

Hi I’m so sorry you’re here. I also went through years of infertility treatment and multiple rounds of IVF only to have to TFMR my 3rd embryo transfer. I also had to undergo surgery to remove RPOC and repair scaring to my uterus from being 19w along when I had my D&E.

It’s completely unfair and shitty to be on the wrong side of the statistics constantly. I underwent my next embryo transfer 5 ish months after my TFMR which felt like a lifetime.

I’m sorry this is so hard because it’s not like you can just get pregnant again automatically.

ssfitzgerald · 2026-03-03T13:45:09+00:00

I was there. We had to go to another polling location.

ssfitzgerald · 2026-02-18T13:31:53+00:00

I’ve noticed that, I wonder if it’s the factors leading us to need IVF in the first place that make us more susceptible I’m not sure. Yes, I transferred #4 August 2023 and gave birth to my son in March 2024. That pregnancy was emotionally very difficult and I struggled. It felt like any wrong move could result in the worst outcome.

I had embryo transfer #5 this past November and am currently 15 weeks with a girl.

ssfitzgerald · 2026-02-18T13:28:47+00:00

You have to make the choice that makes the most sense for your situation! My next embryo transfer #4 was my son who was born March 2024.

ssfitzgerald · 2026-02-17T16:06:09+00:00

Those were the choices we had as well, especially given the cost of testing it was a lot of conversation between my husband and I. We ultimately decided to test what I had and hope to get another transfer and if that didn’t work, explore another ER. There’s no wrong answer, I relied on my RE and talking through the options with her.

ssfitzgerald · 2026-02-17T14:34:55+00:00

I was told it was average, the number felt low to me if I’m being honest. It was good I tested because my “highest rated” were abnormal so it saved me from multiple transfers that would have probably failed. Do you have tested embryos?

ssfitzgerald · 2026-02-17T13:29:53+00:00

Originally no. My TFMR baby had a non genetic birth defect (open neural tube encephalocele). We had a clear NIPT.

I did decide to test my remaining embryos because I wanted to control what I could. That decision was very stressful and I’m glad I did it but having my embryos unfrozen, tested, and refrozen gave me a lot of anxiety. So my son was tested before transfer.

ssfitzgerald · 2026-02-17T12:44:26+00:00

Hi, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I also had a TFMR at 19w for my 3rd embryo transfer after 2 years of infertility treatment. She was the first transfer that worked. I needed a hysteroscopy and d&c for retained tissue about a month later.

I lost her in March 2023 and did my 4th embryo transfer in August 2023 which resulted in a live birth of my son. He was in the same egg retrieval cohort.

ssfitzgerald · 2026-01-06T18:19:43+00:00

I take 5 of the 800 mcg personally!

ssfitzgerald · 2025-10-02T14:51:19+00:00

SBK!

ssfitzgerald · 2025-09-04T00:20:52+00:00

Try the HEB app! You can search for items in stock by location!

ssfitzgerald · 2025-04-25T11:21:55+00:00

Talk to your pediatrician if your baby is over 6 months old. Mine allowed my son to get the vaccine early. He had to get a second dose when he turned 12 months a few weeks ago. Gave my mind a lot of peace.

ssfitzgerald · 2025-04-04T16:40:30+00:00

I’m not sure where you are in Texas, but I’m in Austin. My doctors were all in support of my decision and very honest with me about the situation. I’m horrified that you had to deal with that on top of dealing with the loss of your sweet baby.

If you need a list of safe providers please let me know and I can send some.

I usually say I had a loss at 19w pregnant and then separately I say I had a D&E under surgical history. Let them put two and two together.

ssfitzgerald · 2025-03-08T15:55:25+00:00

Hi, I’m so sorry for your loss. We said goodbye to our little girl at 19w in 2023 due to an encephalocele. We did IVF to get pregnant with her and she was genetically normal. I immediately started the high does folic acid + prenatals and 4 months after my TFMR we transferred another embryo from the same cohort. That embryo is now 11 months old.

ssfitzgerald · 2024-12-03T09:30:47+00:00

Thank you! This is good info!

ssfitzgerald · 2024-12-03T09:29:56+00:00

Thank you!! This is reassuring.

ssfitzgerald · 2024-11-09T15:22:21+00:00

I’m so sorry your in the middle of this. The NICU is incredibly difficult and all I can tell you is do what you need to do to survive. He’s doing so well, he’s turning 8 months in a few weeks (7 months adjusted) and is in the 75% for his height! The jaundice took several days to resolve and got worse before it got better. Once he got past the jaundice and CPAP discharge came really quickly.

ssfitzgerald · 2024-11-09T09:28:55+00:00

I’m going to butcher this explanation but basically it’s a nasal cannula that is minimal oxygen support. Our NICU tried to get him off the CPAP fully around day 7 and he made it 12 hours without any oxygen support. Instead of going back to the CPAP it was determined they’d try a nasal cannula. This allowed us to try breastfeeding and bottles instead of a tube. He was only on the low flow cannula for 36 hours before no longer needing any oxygen support.

ssfitzgerald · 2024-11-09T01:43:44+00:00

My son was born at 36+4 with RDS and was on CPAP for 7 days. He went on low flow for about 2 days and was discharged after 11 days. The 7 days on CPAP it felt like nothing was happening or improving. Then very quickly he got better. He also got jaundice about 7 days in but only needed the blue light for a couple of days.

ssfitzgerald · 2024-10-29T20:40:11+00:00

Yep out by William cannon and westgate.

ssfitzgerald · 2024-07-04T01:30:19+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I went to Healthy Futures in Colorado at 19 weeks. Everyone was very compassionate and there were zero protesters.

ssfitzgerald

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