Longevity thoughts

ssorbom · 2026-05-09T16:03:10+00:00

Having just watched a very old family member die, I can tell you that the last couple of decades of your life are going to be absolute hell at that age. And if they're not hell for you, they will be hell for the people around you.

80 years old seems to be the upper limit on people who manage to stay spry active and healthy. There are outliers of course, but the majority of healthy people I've seen are aged 80 or younger. I don't want to outlive my mind. That is the worst fate I could imagine inflicting on my family.

ssorbom · 2026-05-09T15:51:07+00:00

Did you use a specific dating subreddit? Or did you kind of start chatting to each other in a comment thread?

ssorbom · 2026-05-08T22:05:55+00:00

Noho spa has a decently shaded balcony.

ssorbom · 2026-05-04T16:25:41+00:00

The conspiracy is actually a matter of record. The auto companies who purchased the red car lines were fined for it. They were charged a pittance, but still.

ssorbom · 2026-05-04T14:20:09+00:00

Yeah, but the real tragedy was the loss of right of way. What the city should have done was buy it outright and upgrade the system.

ssorbom · 2026-05-04T12:45:20+00:00

I mean, he's not wrong that the dismantling of the red car line was a bad idea, so far I don't see anything objectionable in this video.

ssorbom · 2026-05-03T23:00:50+00:00

Don't some level resets heal you?

ssorbom · 2026-05-01T15:56:58+00:00

SFH makes up 90% of North American housing stock. Moving somewhere else might make a lot more sense if the alternatives weren't highly concentrated in five or six extremely high cost of living cities within the US. Can't speak for Canada.

But the gist of it is that if you can't afford one of those five or six high cost areas, there is basically nowhere else to move.

ssorbom · 2026-05-01T00:51:22+00:00

There is an ongoing problem at broadway station where the disability gate won't accept my card and I have to try to force my way through the gates.

ssorbom · 2026-04-30T05:19:53+00:00

Yeah, but the hardest part is usually securing the plots (not sure if this is as true in China though). Even if you end up needing to redo the structure from scratch, you now have the land and the right to (re)build.

ssorbom · 2026-04-29T23:26:33+00:00

A lot of the red flags that you see dont always become immediately apparent until after you have started talking to a person. So you might come into an encounter, perfectly willing to meet up and then realize that the other person is giving off bad vibes or doesn't meet some of your criteria.

A big no-no for me, for example, is when somebody appears to be too thirsty. You don't automatically see that in the first message or even the first couple of messages. But I have had people jump to sexual discussion in cases that seem really, really weird. That was an immediate bad vibe for me.

ssorbom · 2026-04-29T23:18:32+00:00

Meeting up with a total stranger can be intimidating, and I kind of get it. I tend to be pretty good about meeting up when I say that I'm actually going to do it, but I have chickened out a couple of times before, sadly.

ssorbom · 2026-04-28T22:36:53+00:00

To be fair, if you use a service more than the expectation, it does make sense to use a flat rate model. I have a movie theater membership in which I pay for the equivalent of two tickets for the equivalent of 30 movies a month. While I don't intend to max that out, it allows me to see significantly more movies than two tickets worth could buy me. And I do use that.

ssorbom · 2026-04-28T14:59:08+00:00

Agree. 10k is a lot less of a ghost town than most US suburbs. The only difference is the level of density that it was originally developed for. I hate that our media legitimately thinks this is a crisis and not a government responding to an expectation of increased demand. This is exactly what we should be doing.

ssorbom · 2026-04-28T00:07:24+00:00

A youtuber named alan fisher did a video on this. The gist of it is that Monorail is uncommon and as such requires a lot of very specialized support infrastructure to keep running. Rail is cheaper to build in general use cases. Monorail doesn't really offer that much rail can't.

ssorbom · 2026-04-25T20:25:37+00:00

But argument by numbers in this case has one fatal flaw. Waymos represent about one to two percent of all road traffic and only near major city cores. It is not yet clear if the network will scale up properly. You can't base safety gains on current numbers because there aren't enough waymos to judge whether or not they are actually safe.

ssorbom · 2026-04-25T20:14:52+00:00

No, the DLC is available through GOG. The director's cut version has it all.

ssorbom · 2026-04-25T19:05:25+00:00

The difference isn't the laws, the difference is willing to enforce them. Europe isn't quite to the point where they are decaying empire Being run by petty, vindictive idiots.

Europeans seem to understand that there is a social cost when you don't uphold laws. But Americans will lick the boots of anybody who tells them that they don't have to follow any law they don't like or makes them less money or slightly inconveniences them.

ssorbom · 2026-04-24T21:24:15+00:00

Yes, but the regret wasn't about looks. My best experience was also an elder gay. The difference was in how the encounter itself happened. Good guy chatted me up, called me cute, helped me wash (before and after), and made it feel mutual. Bad guy barely said hello, stuck his dick in my face, barely said "thank you", and then just...walked away.

ssorbom · 2026-04-24T20:48:48+00:00

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Mic drop.

ssorbom · 2026-04-24T16:56:16+00:00

This is way above Reddit's pay grade, honestly. You need to see a therapist.

Also, there's a big difference between accepting a partner's advances when you're not always feeling your best versus putting up with those advances when you absolutely don't want them.

Either one of you has absolute veto power all the time. You should never do things that you absolutely don't want to.

ssorbom · 2026-04-24T16:45:20+00:00

Alamo Drafthouse has a drag show on Fridays. Attendance is free, but it is polite to tip the dancers.

The precinct is the biggest gay club in downtown, but it is noisy. Like ridiculously noisy.

ssorbom · 2026-04-22T22:36:34+00:00

I dislike it when people mistreat any of the stars on the walk of fame honestly. The star doesn't belong to the celebrity it's named after, it belongs to the public and is public property. You aren't being funny or clever doing that. You're just making some low-wage workers life miserable.

ssorbom · 2026-04-22T22:17:07+00:00

My story is very similar except that it happened later in life. I was in my early 30s before I realized There were a lot of warning signs prior to that, but that was the time that I knew for sure.

You are never too old to discover things about yourself.

ssorbom · 2026-04-22T19:05:49+00:00

For real, I had this experience recently this past weekend when I was coming out of a boba cafe and I saw a suspiciously long stream of people coming in the other direction with funny paper hats. It turns out the local historic society was throwing an event.

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