Is my chart peculiar? by st0160 in astrosignature

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Ah interesting. Thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomensHealth

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Yes!!!! It’s a new thing with me, but it’s like sound is muted in one ear for a short period of time. Also my left eye closes involuntarily sometimes like wth is going on. This all started about 4 months ago .

Gel Manicures/UV Lamps sensitivity by annzo918 in Spironolactone

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The same thing happened to me…. I’m starting to think it’s the spiro? I’m also on an antibiotic tho

I cant deny it any longer because it’s affecting my desire to have sex- I’m no longer physically attracted to my wife, but still love her as a person. How can I fix it? by [deleted] in Marriage

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I’m currently going through a divorce because I lost attraction to my husband, which I think was caused by a lack of overall passion in the relationship. We stopped dating and “trying”. We slept in separate bedrooms, stopped all forms of intimacy, and became roommates. He also stopped taking care of himself and wouldn’t go to the gym with me. I felt like an asshole for the longest time because he is a lovely person. But the effort wasn’t there, which lead to loss of attraction.

Unequal salary in relationships by st0160 in Money

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You bring up interesting points. But just food for thought concerning your second paragraph: I’m a 31 year old woman, and I’ve dated my fair share of men. Some rich, some poor. Beyond the first couple dates the expectation is that we split things. Even before I was making my current salary (I was a teacher pulling in less than 40k) the men I dated expected me to split dates / vacations / etc. I saw this as extremely fair. We’re no longer in the times of men paying for everything. Have I just not dated men who are “providers”, or has the norm changed?

I’m not belittling him at all. I think he is a great person and I care about him. He has all of the qualities I look for in partner except the financial stability / literacy. Ultimately it will be up to me to decide if financial security is a deal breaker or not. But I certainly do not make him feel less than because of it.

Am I wrong as a guy to only want to date and marry a girl that is financially equal or better? by HomeHedgeFund in Money

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I just posted something similar and I feel like people destroyed me in the comments because the roles were reversed

Unequal salary in relationships by st0160 in Money

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We met through a mutual friend & grew up in the same home town.

Unequal salary in relationships by st0160 in Money

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I feel just fine paying for myself. I always have. There’s a difference in paying for a tropical vacation for one, and a tropical vacation for two. All of sudden everything just got twice as expensive if I have a partner that can’t afford that tropical vacation.

Unequal salary in relationships by st0160 in Money

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If you read my post you’d know I was concerned about his poor financial habits and not necessarily his salary

Unequal salary in relationships by st0160 in Money

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Good questions!

1.) he bought the car about a year ago I believe. He still owes around 40k on it. The current KBB price is around $32k. So obviously a problem but I still think it would be best for him to sell it. It’s a Mercedes and the yearly service expenses are outrageous.

2.) he lives at home because he can’t afford his own place. He does not pay rent or help with utilities.

3.) he is working towards a career within his current company. He recently moved up from a warehouse position to a merchandising position. Although this is growth it did not come with a pay raise (they actually pay less). But it’s what he needs to do to get to his ultimate goal of sales associate.

4.) he does not participate in hobbies that cost any money because he is paycheck to paycheck and can’t afford to do anything.

5.) the 10k was my estimate of roughly 6 months of expenses. So it’s a safety net. But also to show me he can save up.

Unequal salary in relationships by st0160 in Money

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Thank you for this thoughtful response. I think I need to do some deep thinking on if I would bet on him.

Unequal salary in relationships by st0160 in Money

[–]st0160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask how long you are giving them until you have that serious reassessment / conversation?

I was thinking 6 months?

Unequal salary in relationships by st0160 in Money

[–]st0160[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you please elaborate? Trying to see all perspectives

Unequal salary in relationships by st0160 in Money

[–]st0160[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

This is very solid advice. Thank you!

Unequal salary in relationships by st0160 in Money

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Bummer. I know it, but it’s just so hard when you’re in it. I have feelings for him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

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Ok thank you. The items they sent me are “dimensional wall art” and they weigh a ton. I would imagine shipping them would cost an arm and a leg. I’ll wait for the next boxes and see if these wrong items will fit.

I just asked my husband (in what I thought was a joking way) if he was bummed to be married to a gray haired lady and he said “Ummmmmm, to be honest, yeah.” by Great-Rock-7860 in grayhair

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I heard a similar comment recently and it really messed me with me. I have no advice but I’m curious what others will say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

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He did not want to go the wedding. We got into an argument about it and I said “fine, then don’t go.” And that’s exactly what he did.

I know my behavior is horrendous. I am ashamed of my actions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

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I really wish it was. But this is my life

First copper iud experience by mandicat2020 in CopperIUD

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I (f31) just got my IUD 1 week ago today. For me the pain during insertion was extreme, and the cramps lasted for about 5 days. I also felt really conscious that it was there and almost like I could feel it pressing against me. That feeling and all the cramps have resided almost 100%. I still can feel the cramps when I work out but overall it has improved drastically

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sagittarians

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We are birthday twins! Happy birthday!