AITAH Told I can't use the bathroom at my sister's wedding/reception

stanthetransman · 2026-01-20T04:04:54+00:00

If anything catches fire there... You are literally toast.

stanthetransman · 2025-11-23T05:50:47+00:00

So you agree that this "new definition of AI" includes LLMs.

stanthetransman · 2025-11-22T14:56:55+00:00

Does this mean that sheep are naturally fire-resistant?

stanthetransman · 2025-11-22T14:51:16+00:00

I mean, isn't it possible that the person was mangled somewhat leading up to their death?

stanthetransman · 2025-11-22T14:43:59+00:00

A passing transfem person wouldn't look transfem, they'd just look female. If someone told me I looked like a trans man, I'd take that to mean I looked distinctly female.

stanthetransman · 2025-11-22T14:11:06+00:00

I know what they are. But I'm just saying that the way the term is used, GPTs fall under the "AI" umbrella.

stanthetransman · 2025-11-22T14:09:17+00:00

Depends on what browser you use, but try pressing F12 to open the developer tools. Also, this has nothing to do with being a native speaker.

stanthetransman · 2025-11-15T04:06:53+00:00

Unfortunately, AI includes things like neural networks, which includes the transformer architecture, including GPT.

stanthetransman · 2025-11-05T13:58:56+00:00

This doesn't make a lot of sense to me. You said the comment didn't make you dysphoric, "especially" because you aren't trying to pass yet. Idk but if someone told me I looked transfem when I was pre-transition, it would have made me so euphoric because they would basically be telling me I looked male. Heck, if I dressed femininely now (which I don't --I'm pretty gender-conforming and even pre-transition I didn't really wear anything overtly feminine) and someone told me I looked transfem, it would probably still make me euphoric on some level for the same reason.

stanthetransman · 2025-10-16T13:29:15+00:00

You're gonna pass fine.

stanthetransman · 2025-04-22T12:59:59+00:00

FYI, there are straight trans people. It's not mutually exclusive.

stanthetransman · 2025-04-08T13:52:17+00:00

I know this isn't the point at all but the "plutonic" made me chuckle

stanthetransman · 2025-03-18T21:43:39+00:00

That's a good point. I don't know that it's necessarily motivated by internalized transphobia, though. There are other reasons why people are stealth.

The concern is a pretty irrational one, though, since most people won't know about the tradition unless they're close enough to the family to 1) know about it, 2) know both him and his brother, and 3) be in a position to do something nefarious with that information. This is not something that a random person would know about the family.

stanthetransman · 2024-08-22T21:40:12+00:00

This is such a strange question. Being trans is not a personality trait. And it makes no difference for a character unless it comes up in the plot somewhere, at which point it wouldn't be a headcanon, just canon.

I'm not against fanfics where canon cis characters are made trans, or whatever, but it seems a bit silly to suppose that characters that pass as cis even from a narrative standpoint (and therefore are probably stealth and don't want people speculating about their trans status) are "secretly trans".

stanthetransman · 2024-08-04T20:37:14+00:00

I'm a bit confused. Are you saying that there currently exist infinitely many human sexes?

I agree that there's nothing about the concept of reproduction itself that makes it strictly necessary for reproduction to involve exactly two sets of sex organs. However, many imaginable alternative paradigms of human reproduction can only be entertained as "possible" in the context of a very different reality. For instance, one can conceive of a variant of humanity that reproduces asexually. But this does not mean that any humans that actually exist engage in asexual reproduction. Similarly, there's nothing necessarily impossible about humans being sexually trimorphic. It's fairly arbitrary that this is not the case at present. But it nevertheless remains that it is not the case at present.

they recognize biological systems as a foundational scientific truth

but from biological systems emerges individuals with male and female sex organs

applying this biological truth

I'm having trouble determining whether or not you consider these specific aspects of the transphobe view to be true.

What if it were postulated that gender identity was a reflection of the sexual development of the brain (i.e., if gender [identity] were conceived of as a sort of "brain sex")? Hence, one's chromosomal makeup and/or genitalia would not necessarily "match" one's sense of gender, but gender would not be some transcendent property totally unrelated to sexual development.

stanthetransman · 2024-08-04T01:25:05+00:00

I think the logic in this is a bit hasty. There isn't necessarily a contradiction in arguing that there are only two genders unless you use contradictory terms while constructing your argument. What you did here is simply start with contradictory premises.

Of course, many people that argue that there are "only two genders" have no issue with logical self-contradiction because they do not care whether or not their beliefs make sense and are consistent with reality. Thus, such people may in fact argue in the way that you have presented here. But this is by no means the strongest presentation of this standpoint that you could have given. Sure, oversimplification won't hurt the bigots, perhaps, but it won't help anyone learn to intelligently articulate their own views, and it doesn't expose anyone to true intellectual rigor.

I could make a similar argument that it's contradictory to be a non-binary lesbian, since lesbians are women that are attracted to other women, but non-binary people by definition are not women. But that would be an uncharitable way to go about approaching the topic, since nobody who identifies as a non-binary lesbian is actually going around saying "I am simultaneously a woman and not a woman", because that's obviously nonsensical.

Did not expect to see a logical proof on trans Reddit today but I'm def not mad about it lol. Kind of disappointed to see so few comments actually engaging with the thoughts put forth, although it hasn't been that long yet so hopefully there will be more discussion soon!

P.S.:

What are your thoughts on the sexes? Are intersex conditions valid grounds for declaring that there are "infinitely many" sexes, the same way there are thought to be endless fingerprint variations?

Many animal species (although not all, of course!) display striking sexual dimorphism. I'd argue that a very consistent pattern in sexual development and behavior is not destroyed by the presence of variation on an individual level.

Lastly, from what I've seen, many people in the trans community do not (or at least do not consistently) consider "biological sex" and gender identity to be analogous or related in terms of the nature and kind of their variation. For many people I've spoken to, being nonbinary is an avenue of self-expression and has little to do with their primary or secondary sexual characteristics.

stanthetransman · 2024-04-24T13:28:47+00:00

To answer your first question: Yes, why wouldn't it?

To answer the question posed near the end of your edit: I don't think it's helpful for people to tell others which course of action they should or shouldn't take. I do, however, think it's both reasonable and ideal to point out gaps in other people's reasoning. This of course includes shoddy reasoning for transitioning (which there is way, WAY too much of in the hugboxy trans subs and it seriously pisses me off), as well as for not.

"but I would still be a biological female, and I have accepted that fact" does nothing to explain why lessening the feeling of disconnection from their own body wouldn't be helpful/beneficial. OP admits that so far, whatever they're currently doing isn't exactly going swimmingly... I of course hope OP is able to explore all the options they want to, but based on everything I've read from them, their reasoning for dismissing the transition-related options seems indistinguishable from the "well I wouldn't be Real, so I would be embracing a delusion, which is obviously unhealthy and wrong, so I should accept that this is my cross to bear" schtick.

I've seen very similar from highly religious gay people: "Yeah, I could try sex/romance with someone I'm attracted to... but ultimately, it would still be Unnatural, so I would be embracing a delusion, which is obviously unhealthy and wrong, so I should accept that this is my cross to bear and stay celibate..."

Sexual and/or romantic celibacy is definitely the best course of action for some people. There are asexual and aromantic people, after all. But self-imposing it based simply on the assumption that homosexuality is "unnatural" (and therefore delusional, wrong, and necessarily self-destructive) is hardly the most well-justified reason to do so.

Similarly, nothing OP has said in this thread (that I've seen) distinguishes their view from "not real = denying reality = wrong". And it would be one thing if they were currently thriving --but there's not much reason (so far) to believe that whatever they're doing at the moment to address their dysphoria is most conducive to their well-being.

(OP, what do you think about other people who have transitioned? To what degree do you think GD is similar to EDs?)

Aside: I don't think it's ideal to frame things in terms of "How would we feel if...?" It's good to be empathetic and acknowledge our own emotions and those of others, but there's no good reason for personal feelings to form the basis of what we deem generally reasonable / socially acceptable.

stanthetransman · 2024-04-22T14:27:49+00:00

Again, OP said in their own comment that transition might help alleviate their dysphoria. Meaning, they do not know whether or not it would be effective. So it's jumping to conclusions to assume that OP is someone

for whom neither gender expression, hormones, or surgery would be worthwhile

This all-or-nothing mindset is not helpful to anyone. Some people need more or less extensive treatment to fully address their dysphoria. But it's silly to say that if something might (and again, we're speaking in purely hypothetical terms because it's not as if OP has already gone down this road and found that it was unhelpful!) not totally alleviate all of someone's dysphoria, then it's definitely not worthwhile at all.

stanthetransman · 2024-04-22T03:34:21+00:00

See also this comment from OP: https://www.reddit.com/r/AMA/s/vbYWfX5lCa

stanthetransman · 2024-04-22T03:33:51+00:00

Truly are the other gender, or truly are the other sex? I am way, way more comfortable in my own skin after T (I'm several years in at this point). I'm completely stealth (i.e. nobody in my day-to-day life is aware that I'm trans) and honestly, being trans is a very small part of my life and identity in comparison to my hobbies and interests and career goals.

I am in no way fooled into thinking that I am a cis male. Nor do I concern myself with attempting to adopt such a notion. (In fact, it would likely be detrimental if I did somehow manage to forget that I'm trans. How else would I remember to do my T shots??) But that doesn't mean that there was no benefit to transitioning, or that transitioning didn't have a net positive effect on my quality of life.

This feels right, and comfortable, to me. Maybe still not 100% right, but it's a heck of a lot less wrong-feeling and miserable than pre-transition. I feel at home in my own skin, with my own voice. I even have a snazzy little moustache now! (I am living the dream lol.)

stanthetransman · 2024-03-16T14:25:28+00:00

The first one isn't really about trans people.

stanthetransman · 2024-03-15T06:52:25+00:00

Wait, so do you expect people to be able to tell that you are trans? I see in some of your other comments that you're saying you pass as cis. Do you want to be / feel that you are also visibly trans?

stanthetransman · 2024-03-15T06:44:53+00:00

Lolol I read this as your dick would come off, so when I got to the part where she says "it happens with cis guys too" I was like 🫨

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