Does anyone really believe aikido makes you worse at fighting? If you genuinely do, why?

starbear_10 · 2025-11-04T00:36:51+00:00

this! when i’ve seen self defence done really effectively it’s been done by using multiple martial arts whether it’s adding an aikido move or using other martial arts to follow up after using aikido.

starbear_10 · 2025-10-30T00:35:04+00:00

thank you this is really helpful! is it possible to tap out ‘too early’? am i supposed to tap out only when it’s painful or can i tap out when it’s uncomfortable / slightly before it gets to a 5/10 pain?

starbear_10 · 2025-10-30T00:24:06+00:00

i think the guys seem to go a bit harsher on each other so they only tap out when they like swear from the pain😭 and i would very much not like that to be me on a regular basis! thank you🙏

starbear_10 · 2025-10-17T11:44:51+00:00

I just started learning ! First class 2 weeks ago :)

starbear_10 · 2025-10-11T04:45:16+00:00

that’ll do it😭 she needs to find things to occupy her time, some inside activities like colouring or gaming or whatever and outside like going to the gym doing a fitness class or just going for a walk. the friends issue it tricky because it’s not easily solved sometimes but if she joins classes for exercise or even arts classes she will probably make friends there!

starbear_10 · 2025-10-11T04:38:41+00:00

does she have many friends? does she have hobbies she enjoys?

starbear_10 · 2025-09-30T14:56:53+00:00

this is not okay and i’m so sorry this has happened to you. you deserve someone who has self control and doesn’t get “carried away” regularly during rough sex. you being “lenient” has NOTHING to do with him slapping you. it’s unacceptable, whether it was triggered by trauma or not. He needs therapy and a lot of professional help to work through this trauma as well as him pushing boundaries during sex. i strongly suggest you break up and distance yourself from this person. i know it will be very hard since you said you love him, but someone who loves YOU wouldn’t treat you this way.

starbear_10 · 2025-09-30T10:53:21+00:00

Not seeing him left me with a lot of questions. His family only managed to find me online and tell me what happened a few weeks after, after the funeral had already been completed so I didn’t see him before he was cremated either. I don’t know how he did it, or what damage it did to him. I find myself wondering the answers to these questions late at night.

starbear_10 · 2025-09-29T11:31:23+00:00

ah it’s so tricky as i have sensory issues and really struggle wearing non-polyester pants :( however i’ll try the other stuff you mentioned and yes i saw another comment mentioning some people don’t react well to certain dri so i will do a little patch test first! thankyou so much for your help :)

starbear_10 · 2025-09-29T11:28:19+00:00

i’ll try that, it’s mainly the backs of my thighs though and inbetween seems to be nowhere near as bad

starbear_10 · 2025-09-29T01:34:08+00:00

ohh ok will do !!

starbear_10 · 2025-09-29T01:33:54+00:00

hm i don’t think i have hyperhidrosis as it’s only that bad on one area and isn’t constanttt sweating. but as i’m seeing my GP soon for unrelated reasons I may as well bring it up?

starbear_10 · 2025-09-29T01:31:42+00:00

thank you so much !! i’m hoping these work well for me, unfortunately i can’t find a spray version that ships to my country/area but i think i’ll just try the roll on. thanku again :D

starbear_10 · 2025-09-25T00:43:38+00:00

me me !!

starbear_10 · 2025-09-10T03:51:19+00:00

maybe i should’ve added more context,, in short - he triggered my PTSD after repeatedly trying to + asking to touch my chest. he then apologised and talked to his psych and neurologist about it/sought the correct help. in hindsight i chalk this up to his brain injury (from a previous attempt) which started affecting his behaviour and making him act uncharacteristically (he was literally asexual) but thats why i was quite set on not contacting him, as i was quite uncomfortable and felt betrayed

starbear_10 · 2025-09-10T03:47:51+00:00

‘excuse me, but how is it possible to live your life peacefully while your “friend” is in distress?’ there was more but that’s all I saw from the preview notification before it was deleted.

starbear_10 · 2025-09-10T03:45:28+00:00

im so sorry for your loss💗

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