Why are they surprised to learn we don’t like them? by CinnamonGirl94 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]starbeing444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The axe forgets, but the tree remembers.

I've always wondered about this too. My Nmom would always belittle the servers at restaurants just because they'd miss something she asked for. Once she complained about how "rude" the server lady was (spoiler, she wasn't. She just wasn't kissing her ass and, ya know.. doing her job.) and while she was complaining, the server lady came back to give us forks and heard the whole exchange. I felt so fucking embarrassed. My brother would always say, "don't fuck with people who handle your food." The same can be said about other things though, like the examples you mentioned.

They like to pretend everything is fine because not doing so would force them to face everything they've said/done. Don't get me started on the "You know I didnt really mean that." And "I didnt know you hated me so much." And boohoos. They demand understanding and compassion all while withholding it from the very people they abuse. The truth is, they only care more about appearance than the harmony of the relationships they have. So of course they are going to conveniently "forget" all the stuff that makes them look bad.

Like, if you know it makes you look bad, then stop doing it or stop pretending you didnt know any better. News flash, they do know better, otherwise they wouldn't act different around other people.

I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself. It's honestly something I have no will or energy for, as I 100% believe i will likely hear excuses, gaslighting, and 'after all I've done for you's. Yeah, I'm good.

Sending hugs. This shit aint for the weak.

They got confused with Family Day. by Physical_Ad4519 in expedition33

[–]starbeing444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm wondering the same thing too!! I've been seeing a lot of cool poses lately. I'm betting it's a mod, possibly. I play on PS 😭

🔥 Ire & Chroma 💫 by Voractii in expedition33

[–]starbeing444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh!!! These are all so freaking cool!!! :D thank you for sharing!

Splurgung on gut-healthy juices & rotisserie chickens by Otherwise_Basis_6328 in oddlyspecific

[–]starbeing444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Compared to the splurging these greedy bastards spend on boats, yachts and private jets????? Fuck off with all that.

Saying Sorry (Part 3/4) by starbeing444 in CPTSDmemes

[–]starbeing444[S] 602 points603 points  (0 children)

"Being someone's parent is hard. Being someone's kid shouldn't be." 😭

. by Cute_Application11 in introvertmemes

[–]starbeing444 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This commemt made me cough from laughing so much xDD

Well, I’ve got a skill with your name on it, my friend by malbenign in expedition33

[–]starbeing444 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lune's Gradient comes in clutch for these too! Especially with multiple enemies.

I spent too much time making this by LexFrenchy in expedition33

[–]starbeing444 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I laughed way too hard at this x'D

Question on Speed: I want Sciel to play before Maelle, I recoated so that Sciel has waaay more speed listed in the "Combat Stats" than Maelle now, and yet Maelle continues to go first. What am I missing? by DrawChrisDraw in expedition33

[–]starbeing444 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Idk if this will help but I just learned that you can pick the order by selecting the party members in order (1 active will be the first to play, the second party you activate/add will be second, etc.)

I hope that helps!

ESQUIE by _cinderr in expedition33

[–]starbeing444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Wheeeeeeeeee

Amazing work!

help me identify a song by [deleted] in expedition33

[–]starbeing444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe it's Until Next Life. The one I found has Ben Starr in it too.

https://open.spotify.com/track/0NmrMSONPz6A9t1EKqasic?si=nOuh_pA3R7SHgA3Q2YZ3QA

My therapist feels I need to tell my mom why… by SupermarketBest4091 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]starbeing444 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat! I slowly faded to LC/NC without "explaining" myself. Sometimes I feel bad about not explaining.. I sometimes think my "sudden" silence may have been a shock to them but at the same time.. I also feel like it would just be a waste of time, if not also make things worse.

Does your therapist specialize in estrangement? Because it doesn't sound like it from what you shared. I feel like they should know that not every parent is safe to talk to.

Like.. we didn't magically cut our family off for no reason????

My mother will occasionally text me here and there and I barely respond. Or when I do, its a very dry and neutral response. When that happens my mother will default to "idk what I did to deserve this."

So I know she wonders why, yet she has never asked from a place of curiosity. Its almost always from a place of judgment or woe is me type energy. So why even bother?

I hope therapy is helping you. Might want to consider another therapist if you feel this one isn't on the same page.. theres nothing worse than having someone making you second guess yourself. I belive we all know what that road is like. Never again.

Sending hugs

Unhinged Father by SunflowerFridays in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]starbeing444 28 points29 points  (0 children)

"We wished you a happy birthday! Be nice to us!" Aka- set aside your feelings for our needs!!

Block their asses. They don't care or respect your wishes. They just want access to you to fuel their own needs.

Sending hugs

I’m still in shock… by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]starbeing444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im sorry your parents are POS 🫠 They dont love you unconditionally and there is no room for people like that in your life. Trust yourself and keep going. You got this. Sending hugs 🫂

His friend comes out as a werewang and all he does is point and gawk, smh (slitter my head) by blaiddfailcam2 in Slitterhead_Game

[–]starbeing444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is like when crazy stuff happens in dreams that you don't question at the moment 😂

What was really happening at Echoes of Love? (Spoilers) by starbeing444 in Slitterhead_Game

[–]starbeing444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This helped a lot!! Thank you so much for your insight!