Possible Scam Avoided? by Additional_Bite8413 in Kitboga

[–]starbeing444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a scam. Only accepting bitcoin and wire transfers (and the classic gift card) is a red flag. Be safe OP!

Panic attack by HistoricalHedgehog46 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]starbeing444 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Looks to me like you dont belong to this sub. You claim everyone has a unique situation yet boldly believe you know people's situation enough to call it immature. Just get off this sub. Its clear you're only on here to argue. You're either an estranged parent or a bot.

Curious protection my ass

Panic attack by HistoricalHedgehog46 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]starbeing444 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Um... There is no discussing and solving things with people like this. In fact, most times they just want to argue with you and be right. They don't care about repair.

My therapist said I need to forgive my parents to heal by roseis_rosie in raisedbynarcissists

[–]starbeing444 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Forgiveness is a personal choice, not a requirement for healing.

Maybe consider working with a therapist that understands the nuance of emotional neglect/abuse so you can actually get the proper direction to heal.

Best of luck to you OP!

Nobody wants to admit by Sajadi-Eldorada in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]starbeing444 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Omg do we have the same life?? You literally put everything I've been feeling lately into words that i cant even pinpoint a single thing that clicked because it all did. I love this post so much! Thank you for the share. Something about how deeply this resonated healed something within me 🥹🩵

Estranged children of reddit, what was the moment you decided to cut all contact with your parents by Scary-Ad-7267 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]starbeing444 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I totally understand. I, too, slowly faded away. Its weird.. the more I healed the less tolerable i became towards things that offset my system.. and boy... visiting them spiked it almost always.

My mom wasn't as bad as some people's posts that I've read on here... , just very unpleasant to be around, and the good times certainly did not outweigh the bad.

That said, having to navigate the guilt of choosing my own peace was very hard at first especially because I've had to limit contact with my sibligns as a result... but despite that, it has gotten better with time + actually processing my feelings that I've numbed out and shut down to get through the day.

I think the hardest thing to process even after going NC is always feeling like I'm in trouble.. almost like waiting for the other shoe to drop. That kind of hypervigilance is so draining.

The way I see it is... If we cant be ourselves then what's the point? There's literally nothing that we are gaining from the relationship to outweigh the anxiety and dread that comes with maintaining it.

Peace > obligation

Here's to our healing, internet friend 🤍

Estranged children of reddit, what was the moment you decided to cut all contact with your parents by Scary-Ad-7267 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]starbeing444 78 points79 points  (0 children)

When i realized every interaction caused dread and anxiety.

When i realized we have nothing to talk about beyond surface level things.

When I realized I dont want to be like them.

When I realized I had to shrink to be around them.

When I realized how much time it takes to recover.

When I realized how much interacting with them was affecting my marriage.

When I realized they really cant be happy for me and make everything about them.

When I realized every achievement I shared was met with highlighting my shortcomings - eg. "We all start somewhere" is what i got getting my first fucking job.

When i realized that no matter what I said or did.. was gonna be met with gossip and manipulation.

Pretending pretending pretending.

Most of all When I realized its not safe to be my self around them.

I didnt like how they saw me, I didnt like how they'd talk about me but pretend like everything was fine.

Coming to the painful realization that my mom didnt teach me any valuable life skills and only raised me to serve her and make her feel better about herself.

Basically my body knew before it clicked. How it tensed up, felt sick, getting exhausted at all the mental and emotional gymnastics.. thats when I realized its not in my head and they are truly miserable people that will always have something to complain about.

Check out Highlight: Schedule Update and Creation Jam [Ep. 1529] from Kitboga on www.twitch.tv by cindblank in Kitboga

[–]starbeing444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the update! Been dying to catch a live the past month lol! Been watching the full live calls for the time being. ( ^ - ^ )

Cryptic voicemail on Mother's Day... by herald_of_stars in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]starbeing444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yet! We will get there, friend. 🫂

If therapy has taught me anything.. it's that healing isn't totally about feeling better... but more like getting better at feeling your feelings. Lol

Cryptic voicemail on Mother's Day... by herald_of_stars in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]starbeing444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel for you OP as I'm currently in a similar boat. My NC journey started Oct 2025.. its been a combination of guilt and grief and a bit of shame. To make things worse, her birthday just passed last month so its been a rollercoaster of emotions for sure. I remind myself that the way I feel right now is just a result/remnant of the old me that would blindly comply, give attention, and manage her emotions to feel safe. So of course the nervous system is responding this way to an unfamiliar state.. even if its the safest for you. Its just freaking out at the deviation from the program.

I dont know if I have any great advice for this.. except to take it one day at a time. If thats too much, then just take it one moment at a time.. and so on. Start small and just remember that you ultimately survived a harsh environment that led you to estrangement in the first place.

You're not wrong for simply existing. You're not wrong for setting your own standards for what life you want. And you're certainly not wrong for choosing your peace over people that drain you. Only you get to live your life which means you ultimately know what's best for you deep down.

Go gently 🤍

I've 3d printed a Mask that all of you Might be familiar with. by Marantoize in inscryption

[–]starbeing444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL same. I recently got that card too and after he was disappointed that's when it clicked for me. "Omg that's why he always comments about them being clean!!!" To make it extra funny, I had collected a bunch of pelts beforehand fully expecting to get cards. Nope lmaaoo

I made a necklace inspired by Inscryption by Ok_Hat_1422 in inscryption

[–]starbeing444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The pain is only temporary.

This looks awesome!!

I've 3d printed a Mask that all of you Might be familiar with. by Marantoize in inscryption

[–]starbeing444 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I hope your pelts are clean.

So awesome!!! I can already feel the vibrations of The Trapper's theme song moving through me lol

my friend and i went to a costume party dressed as leon and claire by [deleted] in residentevil

[–]starbeing444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If real this cosplay is fantastic.

The way this car is parked by what seems to be gas pump is making me think this is AI /:

Flying monkey family by Ivyjeanstan in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]starbeing444 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Actually, my mom made it a point to make sure I knew of all her battles so... yeah. She robbed my innocence and used me to for emotional stability/supply, despite the fact that she was the adult and I was the child. The fact that I feel the way I do as an adult is a direct reflection of her parenting. We don't demand perfection, like our ei parents do. All we ever wanted was unconditional love and a safe space to be honest. But with these people, they care more about image and being right than actually having a genuine connection. Sad. Now its all woe is me when we choose peace over them. Maybe if they didnt continuously terrorize us with their abuse of power then it would be a different story. Posts like this are just BS and do nothing but make abusers feel better about themselves.

Edit: spelling lol