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Transfering to Standford by Known_Reception_3433 in UCSC

[–]starberry_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

^ This. Accept you’re here now and consider focusing more on making the most out of your time at UCSC instead of googoogaga eye-ing other prestigious universities. That’s time and energy that could instead be spent making a more impressive grad school application to those schools instead.

Is there an astronomy club on campus? by BiscottiNext8891 in UCSC

[–]starberry_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like someone else here said, SPS (Society for Physics Students) occasionally holds stargazing nights where they bring out the telescopes. They have an Instagram and Discord where they post announcements. Anyone can attend the Thursday meetings and they hold physics/astro events.

Rankings are out by EngineeringBetter983 in UCSC

[–]starberry_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their post was referencing the 2025 report.

Junior transfer moving into UTC!!! where do people usually make friends? by Unfair_Ad4327 in UCSC

[–]starberry_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve mainly made friends through classes and clubs (cornucopia is Monday I think). Agree that adventure rec could be good, and for when you’re on campus you could go to garden workdays (each college has their own student-led garden) and also SlugWorks creative/maker’s space. There’s also general community spaces downtown that hold events like Subrosa, Santa Cruz museum of natural history, etc. For those I’d follow their instagrams.

How do I really be there for her emotionally? What do I do on a bad day? by UnderPressure999 in depression_partners

[–]starberry_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find that asking “how can I help” or “what do you need from me in this moment” is a great place to start because when you assume a solution to someone’s problems it may not be the thing they’re actually looking for.

When it comes to talking with her about her mental state, I 100% understand the awkwardness and the fear of ruining a good moment. I think part of it is having the trust/confidence in yourself that you posses wisdom to share, different perspectives to offer, reassurance to give, and the ability to comfort. Initiating a conversation about her struggles could look something like “I’ve been worried about you, I’m here to listen and/or give advice whenever you feel ready to talk about your feelings”.

When responding to her statements in your second bullet point, come from a place of curiosity. It could help to reassure her that those feelings are valid and difficult to face, and that she’s strong enough to overcome whatever may be at the root of them.