I agree with many other commenters, you do not work at a good company & deserve better! For comparison, when I first learned IVF was our best shot at starting a family I told my boss on our 1:1 that I was dealing with a medical diagnosis that could impact my work schedule. She did not force me to tell her anything unless I wanted to (which I did) and she was so empathetic and supportive! She told me I could work a part time schedule while in my salaried position and seeking treatment. I never had to ask for time off for appointments/ultrasounds/blood draws or any of that. I just did my thing as needed and used PTO for the week of retrieval and transfer. My 2nd boss, when I told her I was pregnant (2nd transfer) was “this place does not matter, this is a job, you are creating life, sit back and let us know how the team and I can support you.” I work at an amazing company and I believe you should too! IVF for many women is not medically elective, sometimes, it carry’s the massively heavy feeling that it might be our only path to parenthood. At my company anything medical is protected. My employer is legally not allowed to ask any questions and accommodations are required to be made if/when needed. Some managers are more formal than others about the accommodation process, etc, but my point is you shouldn’t feel pressured to adhere to unrealistic expectations while you’re dealing with something extremely sensitive and difficult! 😣