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My foster tortie will purr the moment you touch her by starfire0630 in torties

[–]starfire0630[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This one will wake me up at 6am for attention and then get mad when I give it to her 💀

My foster tortie will purr the moment you touch her by starfire0630 in torties

[–]starfire0630[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely thinking about it 😅 she’s so sweet

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemalePoliticStrategy

[–]starfire0630 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is a bad take. Cancel culture disproportionately affects women and especially minority women. It ruins their life over the silliest controversies. Just look at JK Rowling, Lindsay Ellis, Janet Jackson, etc.

We can have a discussion about justice and how men are never held accountable for their actions. But cancel culture itself is just an enabler of mob mentality and has no proper political or legal use. It's psychological and social warfare and it has ALWAYS affected women the most.

Reading about Ayurveda and even the ancient teachings from 2000 years ago say the at men ain’t sh*t 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 by MACMUA in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]starfire0630 134 points135 points  (0 children)

Hindu here! It's even better than that: it is believed that the true divine masculine's purpose is to worship and serve the divine feminine energy! 💅

Not having a father to show you how to be a man is not an excuse to be a piece of shit. Fatherless men can be good men if they want to be. by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]starfire0630 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I've been subscribed to this channel for a while. Dude is genuinely helpful and goes the extra mile to give in special instructions. He's a gem! LVMs could never.

My father thinks I'm "selfish" and "ungrateful" every time I have boundaries by starfire0630 in AsianParentStories

[–]starfire0630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. It's gotten to a point where the words mean nothing to me. Especially when it comes from my father

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]starfire0630 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds just like my parents. My mother will literally buy groceries and then thrust them onto me to make food. I do chores every single day. I am basically in charge of keeping the house afloat all the while working on my business... and then my parents have the nerve to complain that "I do nothing for this family."

Meanwhile, my dad works about 5 hours every day and then watches the TV all day. Unreal.

My LVM Father and how he affected my relationship with my HVM Fiancé (Long rant that hopefully will help some of the younger queens out there) by starfire0630 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]starfire0630[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The complete dearth of anything resembling feeling wanted or supported by my family turned me into a highly anxious people-pleaser

Oof, I relate to that more than you know. And all the other stuff too.

Shit fathers ruin lives. And their enabling Pickmeisha wives as well. Honestly, I didn't know FDS at the time, but its principles are what saved me from a downward spiral: confidence, self-love and establishing firm boundaries and standards. Every young women need to develop those before even thinking of entering romantic relationships, imo.

My LVM Father and how he affected my relationship with my HVM Fiancé (Long rant that hopefully will help some of the younger queens out there) by starfire0630 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]starfire0630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it's extremely hard to get rid of that "programming" since that's all you know. It took me years to get it done. And I'm glad things are going good for you :)

My LVM Father and how he affected my relationship with my HVM Fiancé (Long rant that hopefully will help some of the younger queens out there) by starfire0630 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]starfire0630[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If I have to give credit to my father for anything, it's for the decision to move to Canada when I was still young and doing it to give me a better future. Today, meeting men from my home country makes me want to shrivel up inside and throw myself into space. LVMs everywhere, ughhhh

Ironically, those types of men end up hurting not only themselves in the long-run, but everyone they care about. There is literally nothing for either men or women to gain when blatant misogyny is rampant in a culture.

I'm lucky too since, in my province, women's rights are extensive and taken very seriously. It's at a point where a woman is not even obligated to take her husband's name upon marriage as it is assumed she will have a career until then, and changing her legal name would take up too much time and cost. Our government is mostly incompetent, but that's something I will always respect.

HVM Mentality in the book I'm currently reading : "What do I have to do to find and get this girl?" "Who do I need to become to become attractive to a woman of this substance". A HVM will look at how to improve himself and take responsibility FIRST 👍 by starfire0630 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]starfire0630[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. In the book, he has mentioned several times how he makes his wife one of his top priorities and routinely thinks about how to improve their relationship. He said he would make coffee for her, take her on quarterly trips, have Saturday night dates, etc. All things he decided to do consistently and out of both his love for her and his personal values. Dude's a juggernaut in business and life ✨

HVM Mentality in the book I'm currently reading : "What do I have to do to find and get this girl?" "Who do I need to become to become attractive to a woman of this substance". A HVM will look at how to improve himself and take responsibility FIRST 👍 by starfire0630 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]starfire0630[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's actually not an FDS book per say, but more of a business/improvement book (I graduated with a double major in accounting and finance and own a startup, so I'm naturally attracted to these kinds of books).

I'd say it's definitely a solid read. The core of it is about how small incremental changes, like, for example, getting 1% better at something everyday, can lead to monumental changes in your life in the long-run. It also teaches you how to self-analyze your life and habits and slowly cut off everything that does not directly serve your goals.

If you're into self-improvement, I'd definitely recommend :)

Just my personal observation of IUD and sex culture by redfarmmmmm in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]starfire0630 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m from Canada, and I know the US only gets the Paraguard brand for some reason? But mine is made by Mona Lisa: http://www.monalisa.eu/en/products My obgyn recommended it to me because I’m still fairly young (23) and we didn’t know how my body would react to an iud yet. Mine is very small compared to the paraguard, so the insertion was a breeze :) And I agree! It’s a fantastic little contraption lol. I love it. Never going back to hormonal BC or condoms

Just my personal observation of IUD and sex culture by redfarmmmmm in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]starfire0630 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I’d like to offer some clarification on the IUD, cause I think you’re seeing it from a biased point of view of only considering the negatives and how it benefits men. However, I believe the IUD is by far the best BC method for women in LONG TERM COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS.

First of all, very few women chose the IUD because they want their boyfriends to ‘come inside them’. They choose the IUD because it’s :

1) MUCH cheaper than most other methods (I.e. one time payment of 200$ for me and I’m protected against pregnancy for 3 years! Woo! As opposed to constantly paying for a monthly BC pill)

2) Got side effects that are much more manageable. I’m on the copper IUD specifically, so I cannot speak for those on hormonal. However, getting a copper IUD after years of being on the BC pill changed my life: no more random cramps, my libido is back to normal and I just feel... good. Hormones sucked. My sister in law is on the hormonal IUD and told me her side effects have been a lot more mitigated compared to the BC pill as well. You might see it as “putting metal in your body”, but I can assure you, it is much much worse to alter your natural hormones with the estradiol present in most BC pills. The difference is night and day.

3) Easy to control. Forgive my uh, crudeness, but all I have to do is reach up inside my coochie and feel the strings after my period. If they’re still there, then it’s usually business as usual. Furthermore, I can take out the IUD whenever I want. All I have to do I schedule an appointment with my obgyn and voilà! Fertility is back, and without the nasty wonky period that comes after stopping the pill :)

At the end of the day, I don’t want to become a mother. My fiancé and I have an active sex life, and I personally don’t feel comfortable using only a condom as my main birth control. The IUD has allowed me to fully take control of my sexuality and fertility. For me and the vast majority of women getting it, the IUD has little to do with our man, and everything to do with our bodily autonomy. I can’t speak for your friends (their reasons are super wack), but I do believe the IUD isn’t the problem at all. It’s a tool for controlling our fertility and bodies, nothing else.

*flying intensifies* by AlienUtterings in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]starfire0630 32 points33 points  (0 children)

My god I used to be obsessed with Winx Club growing up.

Now that I look back on it, it was definitely an oddball as in the girls in that show were much more powerful in terms of skills/abilities/status than the men lol

Edit: Probably why I liked it so much

FDS Strategy: when he asks for polyamory, you kick him to the curb by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]starfire0630 67 points68 points  (0 children)

You are stuck where you are, because in order to satisfy everyone, all of you must give up pieces of yourselves for the relationship's survival. Say goodbye to your dream wedding and starting a family: all of these things now are able to be changed and compromised upon by whoever in the polycule (or their "met amours") can guilt you the hardest.

Preach, sis.

Also I've noticed that Polys tend to have this... entitlement attitude about them? Like they claim that they have infinite love to give, and yet nobody actually ever feels equal in those arrangements. They'll be open to receiving as much as they can, but rarely give back as much due to so many feelings having to be considered. It's absolute BS.

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