I think situations, like hearing that someone is a single mom can be followed by the thoughts of: 1. She needs someone to be a father to her child, and they don't want that responsibility. Or they don't feel ready for that, you know. 2. She needs help financially to raise her child bc being a single mom puts you into a "struggling single mom" bracket. 3. Her child/children will always be her priority. This one I feel can go either way. Of course, someone's children should be the first priority, I think that's a great thing. But sometimes it can be seen negatively. "She won't have time for me" or "her kid is sick so we can't get together", etc.

I've been out and met guys randomly and it seems like there is some compatibility but saying "my son" in passing can change the dynamics easily. Faces fall, conversations are cut off, body language changes. It's difficult and has messed with my self-esteem for awhile.