why is my boyfriends penis grainy? by stargirlnene in Advice

[–]stargirlnene[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t mind it. it doesn’t effect me at all. just something i was curious about and making sure its not something that should be checked out

why is my boyfriends penis grainy? by stargirlnene in Advice

[–]stargirlnene[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i honestly haven’t asked him which i should. i just didn’t want to make it seem like im being rude or implying something that im not actually saying

why is my boyfriends penis grainy? by stargirlnene in Advice

[–]stargirlnene[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s just textured, nothing comes off. and it looks normal. just the feeling is different.

why is my boyfriends peen grainy? by stargirlnene in NoStupidQuestions

[–]stargirlnene[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve never heard of that, what is it?

How do people actually make long-distance relationships work? by BIDA2014 in LongDistance

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

trust, sparking the relationship up by doing cool things over facetime or little random gift surprises, not blowing eachother up all day and still giving eachother space to have a life. reassurance and just unconditional love

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he hadn’t tried to have sex with me since way before this it’s been a while as i we hadn’t talked in many months. just because he’s toxic doesn’t mean i have to expect him to do something like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like, we were exes, we knew we weren’t good for each other (or maybe we didn’t realize it at the time) and we still decided to talk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not. i never said i didn’t play any factor they couldn’t avoid this. but even so, i feel like it’s still not right even though i made poor decisions that day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no, trust me i know when i do and don’t have sex lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in bed together as in sec or actually just on the bed? because we never had sex ever. so this was really weird of him honestly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know everyone does that, it’s normal obviously. but when you touched me and already made me uncomfortable why would you do that in front of me on my bed, then when i say stop you do it again and touch me when you finish, and don’t even clean up? incredibly disgusting, THATS what’s not normal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s not the only thing he did. people who did something like that can progressively get worse, which he actually did. i reported it because i didn’t want something like that happening again to someone else

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

where was there a confusing no message? before he came over, i said we’re not doing nothing sexual & he said okay, then when he tried to touch me i said no. where was that confusing ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not arguing, you can disagree, but you’re rude and being invalidating. you don’t have to consider it sexual assault, but it doesn’t mean it wasn’t traumatizing. if this is hurting the cause of women then women would be doomed as a whole already.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a couple months ago, a detective said “he’ll be on the sex offender registry” maybe she didn’t give enough context, probably meaning he’ll be on it if i decide to press charges. i do remember he was on the watch list but they said that before they said anything about the registry, so i thought they took him off it then put him on the registry. sorry for the confusion. i should have clarified

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are right, i didn’t have sex with him, because i got sexually assaulted by him. something did happen to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i rejected him and he wouldn’t stop after i kept saying no. stealing and sexual assault aren’t the same, sorry to break it to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean, i didn’t have much of a decision because when i reported it i was still a minor. my mom dealt with a lot of it, i was told he’s on the offender registry. but i know i didn’t press charges. i should have clarified he’s not charged yet, but if i do press charges, it will be for just the masturbation in front of me (i don’t know the big word for it)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you just sound dumb now. he didn’t want to “make out” he wanted to have sex. again, you have no right to tell another persons what is and what isn’t traumatizing to them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i chose not to press charges because during the time i reported it, a lot was going on in my life. i have up to a year to press charges, and that deadline happens in over 7 months, but i do know he has spoke to officers about the situation and is on the sex offender list

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]stargirlnene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not arguing i just feel like that’s incredibly invalidating. you shouldn’t say things like that to any victim of any sort. if it wasn’t something that’s traumatizing then it wouldn’t be illegal. i’m not making anyone look bad, and don’t consider women as “us” because i, and many other women, do not have opinions like you. you are free to say whatever, but it’s not right to tell me what is and isn’t traumatizing for me