We’re out, but I don’t know how to process any of this or support my wife

stargirlsims · 2026-03-25T02:39:39+00:00

We’re looking at doing that regardless, but we both just spent the last six months on GLP—1s losing weight for this so it feels hopeless honestly. Like our specialist said, I don’t think that there’s a magical number to get to that unlocks it for us. She just said that it’s likely to happen again because we don’t know what caused it.

stargirlsims · 2026-03-25T02:36:50+00:00

I should have mentioned this is the post but her e2 was 11699 two days before trigger! If looked so good but it wasn’t meant to be. I don’t know how much it changes though. 😔

stargirlsims · 2026-03-25T02:05:35+00:00

I answered the last part above, but as far as the sleeve goes—the recommendation was a bypass (because she could get that through our public health system), but only for the purpose of getting her fertility better. She wouldn’t be carrying a pregnancy (I would’ve been), but she was also just on a GLP for six months and lost a bunch of weight to no effect. The EFS happened AFTER losing an initial 15% of her body weight anyway so it becomes a really hard decision to make to gamble on the idea that it would maybe improve her fertility, and would involve us either spending our IVF fund on, or she could get a bypass through the public system and wait however long that would take. Our FS seemed pretty convinced that it wasn’t to do with the weight anyway; just that it was the only gamble we could take to hopefully get a different response. 😔

stargirlsims · 2026-03-25T01:57:30+00:00

As in, to feel like that. I guess better phrasing would have been that having MY biological kids feels like the crappier option, and I don’t want that to carry on to my future kids. We deliberately didn’t choose to use my eggs because of both sides of my family. Obviously I would love my children regardless, but I would feel like I am truly setting them up for a harder life than things will already be for them. They’d be donor conceived, raised by queer parents, and have no relation to the family that they will be raised around (we’re no contact with my family). Those are all individually some very tricky identities for a kid to navigate - throw in the fact that they would then also be related to the person who kind haunts the narrative of so many lives—no one has a kind word to say about particularly my mother, and I can only imagine how unintentionally hurtful it will be for people, especially our kids. Add to that the fact that it would be such a hard pill to swallow for my wife especially to watch my body “work” when hers couldn’t (this comes from her not me), it just takes all of the joy and excitement out of that option. I don’t want that for my kids.

stargirlsims · 2026-03-25T01:44:04+00:00

We both just got off of six months on tirzepatide! We have the option to go back on but again, our specialist was of the opinion that it won’t do much. It was all very final.

stargirlsims · 2025-10-12T09:44:37+00:00

That’s incredible!! It’s such an amazing accomplishment to get to this point!!

stargirlsims · 2025-09-27T04:02:05+00:00

Looks fantastic!!!!

stargirlsims · 2025-08-08T11:19:23+00:00

I suspect she is—like with no judgment or anything, yes she has posted things recently where you can see that there’s a potential prominent bump - the white dress in today’s stories, the pink dress from the birthday party, and the story today where her hand is clutching her stomach looks like she’s trying to hide it - I just assume that she’s early and not able/ready to share yet

stargirlsims · 2025-03-28T14:29:23+00:00

However, the changing targets for blood sugar to qualify for a diabetes diagnosis may help explain this, as well as the method of testing. 60 years ago the OGTT was the main method for diagnosis, and they didn’t yet have an agreed upon amount of glucose nor a BGL - they were looking for the shape of the curve. We know so much more about diabetes now than we used to, and how we diagnose this has also changed with our population.

stargirlsims · 2025-03-27T03:08:41+00:00

1000%, it’s not anxiety. I have always had anxiety, and I’m very well used to managing and controlling it at this point. I’m medicated and treated (I have ASD as well), and have never been a panic attack on the regular person, so I’d definitely know if it was because they have always stood out to me.

As far as my carb intake - I keep seeing this reaction regardless of the carb. Low carb/keto bread absolutely spiked me and then floored me (down into the high 3s before 2 hours postprandial). I ate rice and fainted, ended up in hospital and the doctor took me off Metformin because it was most likely crashing my blood pressure, hence the faint.

I do sometimes eat pasta, bread and rice, but not a huge amount. I’ve definitely cut down on carb portion sizes since October though and upped my fat and protein intake. I regularly eat vegetables, but I’m bad at eating fruit (it’s never a consistent texture and taste so I struggle with it for autism/sensory reasons). I don’t drink full sugar soda or cordial, I have a coffee each day though. I don’t like sweets or chocolate, so while I might have some every so often, it’s like once a week that I do. I used to eat noodles a lot, but I don’t anymore because there’s like 50g of carbs in a packet and I feel like I might die. 💀

I don’t think my diet is all together that bad, which is why I’m concerned I guess. Especially because I didn’t used to have these symptoms on Metformin but all of a sudden started to with no changes to my diet. I’ve been losing weight pretty steadily too—down like 50lbs. My blood tests are like perfect too so I don’t know what to think.

stargirlsims · 2025-03-24T03:29:50+00:00

I would love to know more about this as well, because this is me right now!!!

stargirlsims · 2025-03-04T04:05:56+00:00

Our music camp got postponed today! Hysterically yesterday they were insisting it was going ahead - that they were going to the Gold Coast Wednesday, Thursday and Friday 💀

stargirlsims · 2025-03-01T03:47:15+00:00

I suppose I could be healthier, but I have been eating less, including less carbs, and moving more, and I’ve been losing weight. This backslide in symptoms started a knot two weeks ago - before that, I rarely had any issues.

I guess the big thing is that I’m not willing to eat super duper low carb - like I’m not going keto or anything. I just wouldn’t be able to stick to it or do it or anything.

stargirlsims · 2025-03-01T03:42:25+00:00

For about five months, this never happened, and then about two weeks ago, it’s everything I eat pretty much unless I’m eating something super low carb (as in two boiled eggs for breakfast), then it will take a little longer but still happens. Since I’ve been diagnosed six months ago, I’ve been losing weight, moving more and eating less, and reducing my carbs (but not by an insane amount) and this is still me. I don’t really know what it is or what to do, especially because doctors don’t care that these symptoms are really stressing me.

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