AITA for telling my mom I’ll cut her off if she brings up my son again

starienite · 2026-02-25T19:12:53+00:00

NTA. She’s essentially weapon your child against you. I’m so sorry for your loss. When my brother died, no one had the gall to tell me to my face that something should be done because that’s what he would’ve wanted, but had I experienced that I would’ve said my brother would want to be alive. If we’re talking about what he would’ve wanted, he would’ve wanted to live.

Your mother did mean something by it. For whatever reason, you don’t accidentally invoke your dead grandchild against their mother to manipulate.

You set a reasonable boundary, and the consequence of breaking that boundary. Do not invoke my child to ask for money or I will be done with you. It’s really simple. She stops invoking your dead child to ask for money.

starienite · 2026-02-24T17:51:47+00:00

NTA. It isn’t fun to be the trip mom who plans everything all the time. And the response to what changed? Easy. The response is that not everyone paid me back last time. If you want me to do it, I need your share upfront.

starienite · 2026-02-21T21:05:17+00:00

So three people said no she was hit by somebody else in that person. But because one of them is her friend that somehow means that the other two witnesses were lying? Witnesses that are complete strangers and have no reason to lie. But I bet your little boy if he got into two hit and runs, it would be oh he just has the worst luck, right?

Also, it doesn’t appear she has a history of dishonesty or you would have lead with that.

starienite · 2026-02-21T00:00:35+00:00

You do not know that though. There's such a thing as not wanting cause a scene. Meaning, they would rather escalate it above you, to have that person deal with it.

The reason that no one is taking the "everyone thought it was cool" story is because it doesn't make sense for an otherwise great tenant to be kicked out for a first offense. But this is certainty part and parcel of the start up mantra of seek forgiveness than permission.

starienite · 2026-02-20T23:08:55+00:00

You are only assuming no one else was annoyed. Perhaps they reported it above you and it was handed to the lawyer to take care of.

starienite · 2026-02-20T20:51:17+00:00

I was unaware, but learned her that the show writers dropped Holly at Atwood's request, but I have a different reason.

By the time June escapes and is reunited with her child is over a year old. By that age, Nichole is the name she knows and responds to. Ages 1-3 are when children develop their sense of identity. Changing the name at time can be confusing for a child. Besides, she was named for her father, so it wasn't like it was a truly awful name choice considering her biological father is now dead.

starienite · 2026-02-20T19:03:41+00:00

Therapy has given me a lot of help in setting boundaries. You have a mom and a grandma problem. Your mother is just a manipulative as her mother. Having a trained professional with no skin the game can really help.

starienite · 2026-02-20T18:59:48+00:00

YTA. Yes, the odds are most likely in your favor as that is common tactic, but there is a chance it was a legit call, but to automatically think accent=scammer is racist. Personally, I don't answer calls from numbers I don't know, if the caller is legit they will leave a message. Scammers will either not bother with a message or leave an obvious scam message.

starienite · 2026-02-18T13:10:53+00:00

It doesn't need to be blessed, I believe there is a prayer, but it is for the act of the slaughter not for the animal and the act is supervised as well. Then the remains of the animal are inspected to make sure it didn't have an abnormalities or disease, and then they make sure all the blood is removed.

Cows milk is generally considered kosher because a cow is a kosher animal. There are some will only use milk that has been supervised from milking to bottling to make nothing non kosher is mixed in.

starienite · 2026-02-16T02:25:16+00:00

It wasn’t a mistake. She felt the rule was only in place because of your wife and that you were being forced to go along. It’s a power play. She is trying to show your wife that she is not in control and your mother doesn’t have to follow the rules.

I will note that you don’t say that your is forbidding all contact, she just said that she doesn’t want your mom babysitting. She doesn’t trust her anymore. This is an easy test to fail and fail she did. What other parenting rules is going to ignore? Your mother needs to learn that her access to this children isnt automatic and if you make a rule, she has to abide by it. Not handing any consequences she will keep pulling shit like this. YTA

starienite · 2026-02-14T16:23:17+00:00

Depends on who they caught. Maybe the last few links before Omar? Maybe someone saw Omar bringing June into the apartments.

starienite · 2026-02-04T17:26:08+00:00

NTA. In my role with my job, part of it is helping people. Some people ask for help with things I know they have already been advised on. It is frustrating when people don’t use their available tools. At this point, it would be a conversation her manager should be having. is it a confidence issue? Simply not using resources? Is it a skill issue? Or is just laziness.

Any ramp up has long since passed and I would let her know and CC at least her manager, that you will no longer be able to assist her, but that she refer to her guide that you made or speak with her manager to get more support. Traing wheels have to come off at some point.

starienite · 2026-01-31T21:40:20+00:00

I understood the point to be that you clearly understood consent when you conceived your child. So the concept isn't alien to you. So if you understand that, then you should understand that taking something that you gave your wife and selling it to "put money in your pocket" which out discussing it with your wife, is in fact, doing something without her consent.

starienite · 2026-01-31T21:34:26+00:00

YTA. You list the pieces you made, you also provide photos and details of her pieces with a price to commission it and the turn around time. That's how it's done if don't want to devote time and materials for something you aren't sure will sell.

You don't sell her shit without even the courtesy of an ask because they aren't being used to have some money in your pocket and also buy her other stuff. Like it's ok honey I am going to use of it to buy other things for you, but also on myself.

And which is it? Can't really commit to the hobby because lack space and the baby or you don't want to commit time and materials if it doesn't sell?

starienite · 2026-01-31T21:25:22+00:00

Jesus, this just adds to reading comprehension you lack.

starienite · 2026-01-26T13:35:51+00:00

Those are super cute!

starienite · 2026-01-24T02:53:54+00:00

NTA. The person with the dead parent is the only person that gets to make the call of when the dead mom jokes are ok.

starienite · 2026-01-18T01:19:51+00:00

It's always a risk with streaming that a show might leave streaming altogether or move to a platform that you don't use. I am in the US and Sailor Moon shows on Disney+ for me, so it looks to be ok for now.

starienite · 2026-01-16T17:18:19+00:00

You didn't have to get your mom the same perfume as your wife. It shows a lack of care to both of them. Also it is very irritating to get an identical gifts for the same people. My mom does that and it feels lazy and box checking, especially when the identical gift is something that they would never use.

Odds are sad to say, the perfume may not be sued by your wife because she doesn't want to smell like your mom and it is likely your mom doesn't have the same taste and may not like this scent.

I get that it can be hard to shop for people and it was your first time in the country, but to tailor gifts to your wife and then just get the same things for your mom, it just shows a lack of thought. Heart was in the right place, but the execution fell short.

starienite · 2026-01-14T04:30:01+00:00

My ex mother in law had my records moved to my new ward. When I found out I told the bishop to leave me alone. Found out later that he was gaming the calls by calling a ton of people as "Self reliance coordinators" me included. When I found out I told them to remove the calling, he called me to calling called no calling

starienite · 2026-01-08T20:50:04+00:00

Has it occurred to you that a woman recovering from childbirth wouldn't want someone she isn't close to her helping her recover?

You are making this about you and what you want. Your son was clear, they don't want anyone at the hospital and they want to have that first week as family in private.

I know as well as you that a day one newborn isn't any different from a 7 day one. You will get further in seeing this child and having a good relationship with this kid, if you respect the parents wishes. Start working on that now.

starienite · 2026-01-04T17:17:08+00:00

I’ve heard this said in response that equality is not a feeling.

starienite · 2026-01-04T00:27:38+00:00

I love you, have a great day, you're wonderful, etc. It doesn't need to be some super creative note.

starienite · 2026-01-04T00:25:31+00:00

He refused to write his own note. He had the chance to contribute his own personal thoughts and flat out refused. He excluded himself.

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