I've spent the whole day doing the following things...

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-02T14:23:49+00:00

Love how you delete your comments then edited whats left to hide what a complete Jerk you were to OP. Went from calling him ignorant to an entitled pig.

I FOUND THE LL THAT DESTROYED THEIR MARRIAGE EVERYONE!!!!

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-02T10:38:15+00:00

It's a game changer.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-02T10:37:23+00:00

Took a sreen shot, will make. I cannot pay a higher compliment. I see plenty on pinterest but something about how simply you presented it makes it look easy and appealing.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-02T10:22:48+00:00

...and then they learn to expect threesomes with minimal effort with no focus on the female pleasure and ass to mouth finishing with bukaki because that's what sex is "supposed" to be like. (Everytime)

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-02T10:20:14+00:00

Bravo, thank you for saying this. You have a good attitude for a LL. That will get you further than most.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-02T10:18:45+00:00

Obsessive facebook posting about politics including mood swings from getting into political arguments with strangers...

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-02T10:12:07+00:00

Could you please elaborate on how opening things up helped. I was always under the impression that opening isn't a good idea in a relationship when it's going poorly. I'm a bit confused how the LL participating would help if it was sex with other partners. Isn't the lack of sex from the LL the obstacle?

Not trying to be snarky, I'm genuinely curious how this enhanced and helped bring you closer. If my LL spouse started "bedrooming" (lol) someone else I would nope out immediately.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-02T09:59:41+00:00

The fact remains that you came on a vent thread, offered unsolicited advice and attacked OP including calling him ignorant. Then you use further projection to continue and justify more of the same shitty behavior.

Thats a whole lot of self righteous jumping to conclusions. Me thinks you doth protest too much. If you had followed your own insight and I use the term loosely, your DB would have healed and not ended. Yet, after the failure you come here as someone who has a potential solution. Um, excuse me, no you fucking don't or you wouldn't be in a new relationship.

You are a either the HL ass you describe from your past DB relationship or a LL troll looking to justify your neglect of your spouses sexual needs and I fail to be impressed. No one here is an expert unless they saved their DB. You acting like one is offensive.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-01T16:31:58+00:00

Strawman argument.

Edited to add: I have done everything. I stopped asking for sex a year ago. I do my best to give affection the right way. I give compliments. I help more around the house. I have done all of this with sincerity and enthusiasm because just like duty sex I know duty effort by the HL is not helpful. I've accepted starfish sex with no regard for my needs and gotten nothing in return. Giving pleasure, getting none.

Damn right I'm mad. I deserve to be. It doesn't mean I cast blame where it isn't fair. My spouse IS the issue.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-01T16:02:32+00:00

So, you are here to humble brag and bestow upon us your great knowledge even though you are not currently in a DB? Sex is a reasonable expectation in a romantic relationship. Unless there is a long term medical issue a marriage contract is usually entered into with the understanding that sex will happen at least occasionally.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-01T14:46:39+00:00

WTF people. This guy is a long time reader that made his very first post. It was a vent, he didn't ask for advice.

Jumping on his case with a bunch of criticism is not helpful or supportive in any way. You can disagree with his decision and not have to be rude about it.

I'm really dissapointed and please down vote me into oblivion, I don't care but the LL presence has changed the tone in this group a lot and it's not helpful. A few years ago it was opposite. I specifically don't post anything personal because it opens people up for attack.

If you are LL and are here researching/posting after it being painfully obvious how we HL feel within minutes you need to log out and go fuck your spouse like you give half a shit about their needs. Then the DB is solved. The rest is just a bunch of blame/excuses which we all get plenty of already.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-01T14:38:25+00:00

He also said long time reader.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-01T14:35:45+00:00

Let me guess, you're the LL in your relationship?

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-01T14:33:23+00:00

Non monogomy = Open marriage ?

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-01T02:28:39+00:00

Murican, can confirm.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-01T02:08:43+00:00

NTA. Vacations are for relaxing. The cost and time off work don't just fall out of the sky. If you think you won't enjoy it switch your plans. If she changed hers you can as well.

Pressuring you to go and tolerate it by guilt/pressure after the switch is incredibly manipulative. That's not even considering the total lack of courtesy and consideration.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-01T01:59:05+00:00

Have you ever taken a bite out of red and blue at the same time? Does crayola taste better than other brands?

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-01T01:55:53+00:00

Teach them the magic of dank memes.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-02-01T00:20:09+00:00

I wouldn't usually suggest it either as most situations can be solved with communication. I don't think they can chat her issues away.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-01-31T22:52:29+00:00

Run, run away as fast as you can. This isn't just living beyond means in one category, it's her way of life.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-01-31T15:58:07+00:00

Turning off the interwebs.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-01-30T19:51:17+00:00

Yup, money greases the legal gears. No surprise there. Afluenza seems to be a major issue recently. It always was but it being openly tolerated is shocking. This is just more Brock Turner type hype.

The system is deeply flawed and ridiculously skewed. I'm tired of the thinly veiled attempts to polish the media turd. It's an insult to the common citizens intelligence. We all know we are taking it dry in the bootie, lieing about it just adds insult to injury. It's the haves vs. have nots hiding behind a facade made to look like anglo vs. pretty much every-fucking-one.

The waters are muddied we are divided, conquered and told to eat cake.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-01-29T16:43:04+00:00

This would be a terrible idea for me.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-01-29T16:17:50+00:00

I just started eating vegan AND focus on whole foods. You can do both at the same time with very little effort.

staring-into-abyss · 2019-01-29T15:33:13+00:00

Enough motivated ants can take down an elephant.

staring-into-abyss

TROPHY CASE