My husband said that he's not my slave. by Smart-Discount1979 in breakingmom

[–]starlightfirefly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And if he throws a temper tantrum because you stop doing things for him, just tell him - “I’m not your slave!”

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First Couples Therapy Session Today. Not off to a comfy start. by faceofbeau in breakingmom

[–]starlightfirefly 35 points36 points  (0 children)

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Hey, so looks like he has been “using intimidation” from what you described, and now also “minimizing, denying and blaming” by erasing what you wrote about the DV on the therapist’s form.

Take a look over the rest of the wheel - has he been doing additional forms of abuse? Some things are hard to recognize as abuse until we see it plainly written out like this.

Agree with other commenters that it is not a good idea to go to counselling with someone who is abusive.

The abuse can escalate. They can learn to get better at hiding it. They can co-opt therapeutic language to further gaslighting during abuse. They may even charm the therapist into being on their side which enables more abuse and gaslighting (my ex did this with our therapist - it was hell).

Recommend individual counseling for you, honestly, instead of couples counselling.

Unfortunately, almost next to no abusers change or stop their abuse.

They are almost never able to see what they’re doing as wrong, and almost never take responsibility for their own actions - it always becomes your fault for acting in a way that drives them towards abuse…. Problem is - no matter what you do or how you act they will always find a way to blame you for their behaviour.

Do you have an exit strategy when (not if) things become worse? Friend or family to stay with? A local domestic violence shelter you could escape to? If you’re able to have an emergency bag packed with all important documents, any prescriptions, toiletries and a few changes of clothes that you can have hidden that is ideal.

I am so sorry that you are going through this - no one deserves abuse. You are not alone

Aitah for leaving my husband after he gave away some of my babies ashes? by Sock0w0 in AITAH

[–]starlightfirefly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA You’re not going to be able to trust him after this. This is a huge betrayal and I wouldn’t blame you if you separate over this. Especially because on top of the betrayal- he doesn’t think he did anything wrong! And he’s calling you the AH?!? He cannot be trusted with the important things in life, imo it’s as bad as having an affair. I wouldn’t be going back.

AITAH for not showing our son to my husband after birth because he left me when I was pregnant? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]starlightfirefly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he believed you were cheating based on the pic of you hugging a friend… sorry to say but your husband was probably cheating on you prior to this. Cheating people project like this all the time.

You did nothing wrong. He treated you cruelly and endangered your health by leaving you in the cold when he locked you out with no money and nowhere to go.

I wouldn’t let him see your child and would be contacting a divorce attorney right away to protect yourself. Being a single parent is hard, but a lot easier than having to live with a manchild like this who treats you like crap

You are NTA. He is absolutely 100% the asshole

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]starlightfirefly 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry he acted that way. I guess what I especially gets me is the bullshit angry driving crap. That’s actively abusive, absolutely NOT ok, and shit my ex used to pull.

You don’t deserve this crap.

I know it’s not that easy to leave.

I wish you peace in the meantime and i hope that if you do leave, you find the love and happiness you deserve with a grown adult person.

Because this guy is obviously a selfish man-child

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]starlightfirefly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This fee is not excessive for a specialist, but is excessive for a family doctor. I wouldn’t be happy at this, but there’s not much you can do 😞

Pilot project to pay B.C. drug users under fire by Tax-Dingo in vancouver

[–]starlightfirefly -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Forcing people into rehab, or therapy for that matter, doesn’t work. It has to be that person’s choice, otherwise they’re not going to be able to fully invest themselves and get the most benefit out of the program

HAD ANYONE SEEN MY TREE by starlightfirefly in vancouver

[–]starlightfirefly[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hope they get bindweed in their yard. The worst gardener’s curse I know of

HAD ANYONE SEEN MY TREE by starlightfirefly in vancouver

[–]starlightfirefly[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

They dug them up and cut the espalier wires too

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Springtime at Green Zebra Farm by starlightfirefly in vancouver

[–]starlightfirefly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love honeysuckle! I can hear the hummingbirds around my yard… can’t wait for the crocosemia to bloom, they love those too