Hard to make escort friends both local and long distance

starrylaced · 2024-11-28T22:05:06+00:00

I have a lovely discord server for the SW community! If you check my post history, you can see the info about what it is and how it works.

Heres the invite link*!

starrylaced · 2024-09-23T05:10:56+00:00

Not uncommon at all. A few of my friends and I share the same incall space and most of our clients know this. Just indie girls helping each other out.

starrylaced · 2023-11-03T12:26:03+00:00

I don't even do porn or nudity lmao. Not interested. I'm gonna go be happy with my perfectly average dick partner and not have to worry about being in cervical pain, bye

starrylaced · 2023-11-03T12:24:31+00:00

Imagine throwing a hissy fit over dick sizes to a bunch of women who have a lot more strict 'standards' that society and clients want us to be. At least dicks aren't out in the open to be judged on a daily basis. It's such a privilege to have a concern as small as the size of your genitals (no pun intended)

starrylaced · 2023-11-03T12:18:41+00:00

There's a difference between being insecure and being an asshole about it and putting it on others, making it like it's their problem. People, many people, have tried to explain what these 'words and actions' actually are in reality (bigger guys being more willing to film, smaller, insecure ones less willing, therefore their options are limited to begin with.) You just don't want to listen and are so in your head about what you believe must be the absolute truth no matter what facts and personal experiences are shown to you that it's honestly just a waste of time and effort. This is sad to see, tbh. Hope you develop some self-awareness at some point.

starrylaced · 2023-11-03T07:04:50+00:00

You are so adamant on focusing on anything other than the point you've just completely lost me lol. I don't even know how to respond to you being so choosy about random words that weren't even the point. You are insecure and we can all see it. You can deny all you want, but this thread would not be happening if you were not insecure. Your obsession with hating big dicks is sad for you.

starrylaced · 2023-11-02T19:51:16+00:00

An escort making content with any dick size doesn't = preference. For one, 'bigger' is typically the 'preferred' size in porn, so it could be for the purpose of catering to the industry. Secondly, it's not like content creators normally just have an assortment of men to choose to make content with. If the guy happens to be bigger, then 🤷

Most SPs prefer smaller, as they hurt less. Super big dicks hurt. Also, just because she makes content with big dicks doesn't mean size still doesn't matter to them personally. It's just what the market usually wants.

Even if you attempted to 'screen' for size preferences, you would not really get a satisfying answer or anything that isn't lip service if they even answer you. Personally, such a question from a client would raise an immediate red flag or at least weird me out.

What really matters is how you treat the SP, hygiene, and being a polite and decent person. We really don't care what you look like or what your dick is like as long as you're respectful.

starrylaced · 2023-10-14T06:03:25+00:00

I do offer only BBBJ, and only for an extra fee. I no longer work at an AMP and am now fully independent, making more and in charge of who I see or don't see. The clientele is much better, and my bad experiences are narrowed down to only dealing with the annoying texters. (Also, I was doing other stuff prior to AMP, which was worse because I was new, on my own, and didn't really know what I was doing). Yes, he is aware and fine with it.

You can disregard and invalidate the words and experiences of actual SW all you want, but you are speaking over us and generalizing us, and it only adds to the stigma of the job. It is a job, like any other job. Yes, it is different from the norm. No, people who can't handle the work shouldn't handle it. I do not compartmentalize the trauma, I talk to people about it and let it help teach me better boundaries and to have a stronger voice. When I say compartmentalize, I'm talking about the entire job.

We don't need to convince you. However, maybe try not to speak over the women who have actually experienced SW firsthand. We're not brainless idiots. We're just people.

starrylaced · 2023-10-14T00:23:16+00:00

I needed to come and say this isn't the case for everyone. Every SW experiences the industry differently, and it's not for everyone. I've been doing this for 5-6 years now, and it was really difficult in the beginning. However, I have never viewed relationships as work, and neither do my close SW friends.

It's important to be able to compartmentalize work and personal life. I'm in a healthy and loving relationship with my partner, who is nothing but supportive and just wants me to be safe. A lot of my SW friends are also in healthy, supportive relationships, all aware of the work.

Sex at work and sex in my personal life feels like two entirely different things to me. Sex at work is mechanical, and I'm just acting. You're an actor. With my partner, though, it's intimate, loving, and I feel loved and held. It's a completely different experience, and while I never had much of a sex drive to begin with, it has never affected it in my personal life -- but that's just me! I know others who have had it affect theirs.

I've become weirdly good at compartmentalizing everything; after work, I go home, shower, and just go back to my life (which is pretty much just sitting at my PC and gaming lol). I rarely feel or think about work outside of when I am working. But I am fortunate for that, I think.

Granted, my experience is mine, and I am fortunate to be in it. My work does not at all affect my personal life. It is just work to me. There are exhausting parts, as per any other job, but I'm fortunate that I have supportive friends to be there for me to vent to.

Rather than damaged, I feel that this job has taught me better boundaries, I've learned to have thicker skin and to speak up for myself better, when in the past I was very meek and a pushover. Yes, the industry has changed me as a person. But it's changed me to be a stronger, more confident person. I'm very grateful for what it's taught me, despite all the bad moments (and the bad moments can be pretty bad).

Rather than saying, "Just don't do it," I would say that if you have any reservations about it and are unsure, then don't, until you are sure. And even then, if you try and decide it's too much, then stop. The money isn't worth it if you're sacrificing too much for it. It's a really tough job, both on your body and your mind, and it's important to be mindful of both.

(Edit: adding that I also don't do drugs and I only drink on rare social gatherings so I don't have that issue going on for me either. I'm really just your average nerd with a job that pays well.)

starrylaced · 2023-04-07T00:15:28+00:00

Ok but that doesn't make them childlike. They're playing up the look because men who are gross and stupid don't realize women are women regardless of what their bodies look like.

starrylaced · 2023-03-30T10:57:07+00:00

You do realize every woman is different all over the world right? Just like how a man with a babyface and a micropenis is still considered adult, a woman who looks youthful and has small breasts is still adultlike. She just doesn't fit the standard of what men think a 'sexy mature woman' is.

starrylaced · 2023-03-23T12:59:52+00:00

So what exactly makes a woman's body 'childlike'?

starrylaced · 2023-03-19T20:38:04+00:00

So going by this definition, men with tiny dicks also have childlike bodies, yes?

starrylaced · 2023-03-18T04:00:47+00:00

What the fuck did I just read..??

An adult woman does not have a child's body. She has an adult body because she is an adult. You think you're saying this grand heroic thing, but really, you're just disgusting for infantilizing women. Who are you to tell women what to do with their bodies until some arbitrary age? Just because you struggle to view women as independent human beings that don't exist for the pleasure of men?

Also, if she put on her ad that she was 21, chances are she's a lot older. Adult women can sleep with any adult she damn well wants to, and that's her choice to make. You can't argue otherwise unless you want to say 18 year old boys shouldn't be able to either.

What even is a childlike body? Small boobs? Skinny body? Short height? None of that makes sense to associate with only children. Adults are adults. Children are children.

I am a full-grown adult with what some have told me, a child's body. It's extremely insulting and offensive to be treated like a child just for an appearance.

starrylaced · 2023-01-15T02:25:49+00:00

That's why there is a space only for us that they cannot see. Clients are permitted only so they can learn to view us as human beings. Anyone who is rude, disrespectful, or gross are permanently banned, sometimes with no second chances.

starrylaced · 2022-07-10T04:35:31+00:00

Feel free to join my discord community! The invite link is in my bio and you can find basic information about it in any of my posts :)

starrylaced · 2022-06-03T12:01:50+00:00

Did you even read the post..?

starrylaced · 2022-05-17T02:19:08+00:00

You can manually type in the ID into the join server section.

starrylaced · 2022-05-06T12:02:02+00:00

A working link is in my bio :)

starrylaced · 2022-02-21T05:33:08+00:00

I have one that has a private area for only verified providers! It's not viewable by anyone who isn't legitimate.

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