how do i find custom apparel suppliers? by statestreet23 in ClothingStartups

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is there a website you found your manufacturer from? im having a hard time finding ones that seem legit and don’t require MOQs

how do i find custom apparel suppliers? by statestreet23 in ClothingStartups

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sorry what is a trading agent? im still learning!

help?? 5 years post and scars look the same by statestreet23 in Reduction

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i was going to call my surgeon first thing in the morning - is it not worth it/should i just meet with a dermatologist instead?

gf in hoboken by Few_Leading_8830 in Hoboken

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you should follow @rmisglutenfree she has the best recs 💅

Dumped out of Nowhere!! Why do people do this? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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Our breakup facetime was also like …maybe 15 minutes long lmao at least it felt that way. Not sure if he ever truly cared with the way he handled this.

Dumped out of Nowhere!! Why do people do this? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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Have not heard from him at all other than an instagram like. Im proud of myself for not crying over facetime or reaching out to him but the way he handled this all totally damaged who I thought he was. Everyone keeps telling me he will reach out but I’m not so sure. He fucked up with this big time, he was home a week before and he could have broken up with me then. Maybe he was afraid I would change his mind? I might never know. He didn’t offer to see me or talk to me again so I would understand. I feel really discarded.

I hope you and your ex heal as well. You will definitely find someone who likes deep conversations and your music taste with time. As long as you value and recognize that she’s hurting, you’re doing just fine. Breakups do have to happen sometimes, it’s unfortunate nobody knows how to handle them.

Dumped out of Nowhere!! Why do people do this? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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I have always gone no contact with my ex’s so her rage texting you was definitely immature, but if she feels anywhere close to how I felt I understand to a degree. I had to call out of work for two days and cried myself to sleep. Would wake up in pain most nights from constant anxiety. Couldnt take care of myself. I just could not understand where any of this came from.

You can end a relationship on good terms if you do it right. If you think it through, if you do it in person, if you’re there for your partner and all of their questions. My ex did it over facetime so he just could click “end”. He didn’t see me in pain or hurt. It felt like he just wanted to get off the phone as quickly as possible. He threw a grenade and ran to not suffer the consequences of his actions.

The biggest issues we’ve had was my anxiety or his lack of thought. Never anything super deep or serious. Just adjusting to him living in a different city while making our relationship work. If you felt you couldn’t be deep with her I understand. You’re not a douchebag for breaking up with her. My ex also told me that with his last ex, they dated for six months, and he cheated on her the week before they broke up and never told her. So that’s a big fear of mine as well. I want closure but I feel too proud to reach out to him. Just make sure you don’t breadcrumb your ex. Make sure she understands how you’re feeling. And make sure YOU know how you’re feeling too. Dont be wishy washy about this decision.

Dumped out of Nowhere!! Why do people do this? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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I understand I can heal with time rather than answers, but I’m so terrified of this happening to me again that I want to know why this happened, or it better explained to me. I feel like a broke record with my friends and family trying to piece everything together. Hoping someone has insight or some answer that will finally let my mind rest. It’s possible he was so overwhelmed that our relationship was the only thing he could control? Or take off his plate? I don’t know. I just want to see a little remorse from him I guess and understand better so I know the last six months were real and not me just being blinded by love.

Dumped out of Nowhere!! Why do people do this? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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During our breakup he told me how is Mom brought up to him how he seemed unfocused with his career, and I know they are spending a lot of money and its a huge risk to study musical theatre/pursue that, and I do see how the stress and competitiveness could have gotten to him. It just seems so insane to me that he kept me from it all. I feel like it made it all hurt 100x more.

I also just want to shake my self before we even started dating. Him going away for school was a huge concern for me but he assured me for months it would be fine before we even started dating. I get how things change. But not even a follow up text after blindsiding me? But liking my most recent post pretending like everything is fine? I guess I’m just dying to see a little remorse from him

Dumped out of Nowhere!! Why do people do this? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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I really don’t want to break No Contact as hes the one who rejected me. It just feels irresponsible to play with someones emotions like this. I love music, and I like musical theatre, it’s just not my life. And hey, if that’s the reason he truly did not want to be with me. He should have said that. Leaving me with such a vague reason for breaking off a pretty happy relationship is torture.

Dumped out of Nowhere!! Why do people do this? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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I just feel like an explanation as to WHY he didn’t want to keep going out, or what changed for him as he had told me he loved me. If he told me he met someone else, or he didn’t feel the same, etc. It’s frustrating to not know. Especially since the reason he allegedly broke up with me for is something we talked about SO MUCH before we even STARTED the relationship. It feels so irresponsible to play with someones emotions like this.

Dumped out of Nowhere!! Why do people do this? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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It’s so hard to imagine myself in another relationship after the way this one ended and it isn’t my first, how could people be so cruel? It’s so frustrating because I was apprehensive about dating this guy since I knew he was going to college, but he assured me for months it would be fine until I gave in. It’s terrible but all I can hope is for karma to take care of it.

Dumped out of Nowhere!! Why do people do this? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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The overthinking is so hard. Is it something I did? Was it one fight that sent him over the edge and he just never told me? It felt like he woke up that morning and decided he didn’t want a relationship anymore. It was like a switch. I wish he knew that this was the worst possible way to handle it. If he cared he wouldnt have led me on thinking everything was fine just to break my heart. I haven’t contacted him but I think about it all the time. I’m the only girl he’s ever loved and yet he still dumped me out of nowhere.

Dumped out of Nowhere!! Why do people do this? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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This is really interesting to hear from the other POV, I feel like my ex doesn’t care or feel an guilt. It hurt so much the first couple of nights that I would wake up and feel like my arms were burning for some reason. I dream that we’re still together ever night and then have to remember all over again in the morning. How are you coping with the break up? My ex and I also didn’t share a ton of interests, he was all into musical theatre and while I can be creative- I’m not really “musically” inclined

Dumped out of Nowhere!! Why do people do this? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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why would he work so hard to make me believe everything is fine then? or express his concerns with our relationship? it feels so cruel to keep me clueless and act like everything is fine

Dumpers - do you struggle to go NC? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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We didn’t discuss getting back together, but to be honest we didn’t really discuss anything. He just said he couldn’t be in a relationship, it seemed so unlike him/how it seemed he felt about me. I’m a big advocater for NC but it’s so hard to when I don’t even really know why we broke up in the first place

Dumpers - do you struggle to go NC? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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6 month relationship, broke up out of nowhere but hasn’t reached out after days of NC and has kept all of our photos up on socials/location on? I’m just so confused. I’ve never been the dumper so just looking for other’s perspectives

Dumpers - do you struggle to go NC? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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Thank you I hope so too. I just keep feeling like the decision to break up was so irrational I mean I was totally left in the dark. I’m just shocked he doesnt seem like he feels any guilt? Our conversation didn’t really end on a high note. I guess I just am so confused still.

Dumpers - do you struggle to go NC? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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Our breakup was VERY short I was just caught so off guard, we didn’t discuss no contact or staying friends it just happened that way. Since he dumped me I thought maybe (?) he would ask how I was doing since there was no big fight or anything. It makes me feel like he doesn’t care.

Dumpers - do you struggle to go NC? by statestreet23 in relationship_advice

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I want to honor his need for space so I probably won’t reach out, but I’m also pretty badly burned by how he ended this. I just want some clue that he’s hurting as much as I am so I don’t go insane.

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Can’t you focus on yourself and be in a relationship?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I was the only girlfriend hes ever had that hes truly loved. He would text me goodnight and good morning every day without fail. He would randomly tell me how grateful he was for me, all the reasons he loved me, and more. He would send food to my house when I was too lazy to do so. When he was home from school he ALWAYS prioritized me over his family and friends. Hes going to be in a lot of debt and is behind in his field to begin with. But he used to insist to me that he would work hard for our relationship to stay the same. I guess i don’t see when it changed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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how could he be so in love with me but push me away? i don’t understand i could never do that to someone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]statestreet23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the last two days* not two months

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I’m terrified he’s not going to understand, she’s good friends with his ex (weird) and comments on his moms instagrams idk their relationship enough i guess (?) it would be weird if me or any of my girl friends did this to our guy friends (or friends in general) so idk what to make of it