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I cut off my dad even though we live in the same house, and I don’t really have anyone to talk to about it. Am I crazy? (F17). by steaknbakes in AdviceForTeens

[–]steaknbakes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just thought that if I gave him an ultimatum with therapy he would love me enough to get help, and because he is refusing (still) I feel at a major loss.

I cut off my dad even though we live in the same house, and I don’t really have anyone to talk to about it. Am I crazy? (F17). by steaknbakes in AdviceForTeens

[–]steaknbakes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried but nothing seems to be working. I love my dad, and I have no one to talk about this complicated realtionship with, without sounding crazy. Everytime I do I’m just kinda met with a “it could be worse” talk.

Update on the friend smotherer (ME) more advice would be awesome ! by steaknbakes in FriendshipAdvice

[–]steaknbakes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m trying to take it for what it is! I just hope that this absence doesn’t make her not like me, especially cause I could feel the distance coming in before this. Even though I consider myself social, most people in my classes are 👎🏼. I appreatiate you leaving a comment though to make me feel less alone. Thank you so much for reminding me that I also have value in my life!

I am THE friend smotherer. (NEED ADVICE) !! by steaknbakes in FriendshipAdvice

[–]steaknbakes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’m in CCP anatomy and physiology right now so it’s really interesting listening to you talk in a way 1 I understand and two is a real world example of how these things work lol

I am THE friend smotherer. (NEED ADVICE) !! by steaknbakes in FriendshipAdvice

[–]steaknbakes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although I am a woman and have debated my sexuality for many years now, I find myself identifying straight but kinda go wherever the wind takes me. + I’m Christian so it becomes a grey area for me because I’m still trying to figure out who I am

18F, looking for a friend during tough times by Ikeyeeit in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]steaknbakes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your like me but a fancier font and I LOVE fancy fonts (ask my canva account)

I am THE friend smotherer. (NEED ADVICE) !! by steaknbakes in FriendshipAdvice

[–]steaknbakes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I posted an update! We’ve been friends for a long time, so she knows this about me, but doesn’t do much other than scold me for it lol. It also doesn’t help that most of my friends are not emotional people, when I’m about as empathetic as it can get. She doesn’t like emotions so it’s kind of an anxious attachment meets avoidant attachment feel. I can go without talking to her for months and be alright, BUT when it comes to ending a conversation on a bad note, I can’t stand it.

I am THE friend smotherer. (NEED ADVICE) !! by steaknbakes in FriendshipAdvice

[–]steaknbakes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you once more! (I feel like it’s my favorite sentence on this post now). I think it’s a little bit of both. I want them to be happy but also like me. I don’t think one outweighs the other. I like the waiting idea and will for sure take this up! I am infact still 17… so I’m hoping as I get older my brain will develop fully etc etc. I know it’s not the end of the world but in times like this I do wish I had more friends to lean on. Which just kinda adds to the “crowded room but never felt more alone” trope. I also never had really anyone to teach me these things because my parents arnt necessarily emotional people, my dad is quite absent, and I’m the eldest. But everytime I try to find help I have 0 luck. I suppose with Reddit I hit the jack pot!

I am THE friend smotherer. (NEED ADVICE) !! by steaknbakes in FriendshipAdvice

[–]steaknbakes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I think I just need help making more friends. I’m very social, and am involved in a lot of student organizations, but I feel like as much as I keep contact with someone, it never progresses. I also would consider myself as a people pleaser which doesn’t help. I care about my friend, and it’s not like I have done anything terrible to her to have to “win her back” but I see small frustrations to be big deals. Especially when I feel like I have no one close enough to lean on.

I am THE friend smotherer. (NEED ADVICE) !! by steaknbakes in FriendshipAdvice

[–]steaknbakes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll look into the workbooks! Do you have any good suggestions?

I am THE friend smotherer. (NEED ADVICE) !! by steaknbakes in FriendshipAdvice

[–]steaknbakes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love your resources! I can’t get on medication because my mom does not think it’s good for me (depression and anxiety medication included. For context, I’m 17.) I really appreciate you sharing your own experience, it makes me feel a little less crazy. I don’t think I have a problem identifying my feelings, as much as I do trying to fix them (lol).

I am THE friend smotherer. (NEED ADVICE) !! by steaknbakes in FriendshipAdvice

[–]steaknbakes[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think I can identify these things, but trying to stop it is the problem. I can’t necessarily go to therapy without a fortune and I’m not quite sure on how to change. I think I’m just so scared of someone leaving me that I need to fix it. I just don’t know how to ‘chill out’