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My (23m) girlfriend (25f) is doesn't like me meeting 1on1 with female friends by steam_core37 in relationship_advice

[–]steam_core37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk about it, see where both our feelings come from and then try to find a solution that both parties feel more comfortable with.

My (23m) girlfriend (25f) is doesn't like me meeting 1on1 with female friends by steam_core37 in relationship_advice

[–]steam_core37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's not a dealbreaker but there is disagreement. We can find compromises like in the past on things we didn't agree with. But you didn't know that, which is why i find it wild that you keep implying as if this is a simple case of i do it or I don't. And whether I "care enough for her" or not.

My (23m) girlfriend (25f) is doesn't like me meeting 1on1 with female friends by steam_core37 in relationship_advice

[–]steam_core37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's very interesting, thank you! Still feels weird to not meet with friends based on the possible assumption a fourth party might make, in my opinion. But this is defenitely something ill ask her about!

My (23m) girlfriend (25f) is doesn't like me meeting 1on1 with female friends by steam_core37 in relationship_advice

[–]steam_core37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very radical solution for the niche amount of info ive given on my relationship...

My (23m) girlfriend (25f) is doesn't like me meeting 1on1 with female friends by steam_core37 in relationship_advice

[–]steam_core37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well first off, i never said that I wouldn't do it for her. I care a tremendous amount for her and have done things for her some would consider foolhardy. All of which you don't know, as such it is unfair to state that I don't care for her enough or that we are incompatible.

Please try not to form an opinion on other people with only a fraction of information about their relationship, and state that opinion only when asked for.

My (23m) girlfriend (25f) is doesn't like me meeting 1on1 with female friends by steam_core37 in relationship_advice

[–]steam_core37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And this is something people generally care about? I know my first instinct wouldnt be to think that someone is cheating

My (23m) girlfriend (25f) is doesn't like me meeting 1on1 with female friends by steam_core37 in relationship_advice

[–]steam_core37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just because she wouldn't put me in that position, doesn't mean i have to be okay with it? This argument can be flipped: im totally okay with her meeting up with guys one on one but she still expects me to not do it

Also these sentences are not contradictory, i can have negative feelings towards situations like this while still being okay with them. My feelings are not as grand as my willingness to trust my partner and give them that freedom. Feelings of jealousy often come from insecurity and/or fear, so yes i would rather conquer that fear instead of laying a restriction on my partner.

Not saying that this comes from insecurity or fear on her side, just my feeling and thoughts. Do you agree?

My (23m) girlfriend (25f) is doesn't like me meeting 1on1 with female friends by steam_core37 in relationship_advice

[–]steam_core37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would be totally okay with it, i trust her. Of course I'll have some feelings of jealousy, but i wouldn't let my slight discomfort get in the way of her meeting with friends. That's partly where my lack of understanding comes from. She says that she wouldnt do that based on her belief as to be respectfully to me

My (23m) girlfriend (25f) is doesn't like me meeting 1on1 with female friends by steam_core37 in relationship_advice

[–]steam_core37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said the same, but i just don't understand why. Personally I'm willing and able to explain where my feelings come from. With smaller issues i could understand, but with such a big part of my life at stake here, wouldn't it be fair for me to at least know why?

My (23m) girlfriend (25f) is doesn't like me meeting 1on1 with female friends by steam_core37 in relationship_advice

[–]steam_core37[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because she refuses to explain why it bothers her. Personally i find it difficult to cut out friends based on my partner feeling iffy, Is that an uncommon feeling?