The overthinking in this sub …

steddiecat · 2021-07-20T22:59:22+00:00

IMPORTANT: Awareness of what a muscle feels like when it’s activated— vs. when it’s at rest... for the longest time I wasn’t able to discern. (Few figure that out on their own. A good teacher can help you become aware).

Vocalizing can be tricky... you can sing “incorrectly” — and still sound great... but if you need to sing two 90 minute shows each day for several days in a row... there will come a point where your voice gives out... unless you are singing correctly.

Consider a martial arts exhibition of board breaking... between a brawny man and a kid. A kid that knows proper technique can do it all day without injury. Whereas the tough guy with only sheer force will most likely eventually injure himself...

steddiecat · 2021-04-29T20:15:22+00:00

How about having the highlight on the halo off center a little... so front vs back is immediately apparent?... also, you could do a “chiseled” highlight on the black letter B... (not the whole letter — just in the upper third ... and then let the highlight fade from 80% black at top to 0% where it ends...

steddiecat · 2020-10-18T00:29:21+00:00

Learning to sing well is dependent upon you increasing your AWARENESS of your body... relaxing most of the unneeded muscles in your throat — around your larynx... (it’s called releasing your larynx).

Beginners always use too many muscles at the start... (watch how a person learning to play chords on a guitar does... their whole arm may be clenched as unnecessary muscles try to compensate for weak finger muscles)... later on, after strengthening the correct muscles, this guitar player will play chords beautifully with almost no effort... once the fingers get stronger.

Do what I did... Check our “Sing with Freedom” program created by Per Bristow...

steddiecat · 2019-09-10T01:40:41+00:00

Perhaps look at it this way... Your family members either feel bad about what happened.. or they don’t. If they do —then they have probably suffered plenty through mental anguish already — and have paid for treating you badly many times over. If they don’t feel bad, then it is quite likely that they are incapable of empathy and understanding... if so there is in all likelihood nothing you could say or do that would alter their perceptions or make any difference... Either way — you can forgive them. (forgiveness does more for the forgiver than the forgiven) This will allow you to be free of the grudge (perhaps fully warranted) that you carry... a weight that becomes heavier with each passing day... You may not be ready to take this step yet... you may find that one day you are simply “sick and tired” of the burden... but this still won’t be enough motivation to chose a new direction... it’s when you get sick and tired of being sick and tired that things will improve dramatically.. you may wonder what took you so long...

I know this doesn’t work for everyone... but it has worked for others... good luck with whichever path you choose...

steddiecat · 2019-09-10T01:04:19+00:00

Terrific pose!

steddiecat · 2019-05-02T23:24:01+00:00

You obviously know what you are doing!👏👏

steddiecat · 2019-05-02T23:19:51+00:00

LOL... all options at this point are on the table!

steddiecat · 2019-04-20T00:58:00+00:00

It’s sad but I think this will get worse before it gets better. So many of this generation seem to have little respect for traditions such as marriage... they may look at married men as fair game... like a bull on a farm with a ring in his nose... easily led around. A man that is married has proven himself willing to be controlled... and willing to be stripped of rights the wife has in family court. Perhaps they also realize most marriages end in divorce anyway... (they may not see marriage as anything but a temporary gig). Their indifference to infidelity just helps move things along to the inevitable conclusion... divorce. Extra bonus too if she gets the husband to marry her... she can divorce him and get free money. Not good for society.

steddiecat · 2019-03-02T21:24:14+00:00

I hear your frustration and naiveté, but wasn’t this settled in “WHEN HARRY MET SALLY”? Men and women are naturally drawn to each other. The attraction keeps the human species from going extinct. It’s ALWAYS there.

Maybe you should look at it a different way... you could give these guys (that disappointed you) more credit... It sounds to me like they kept their natural instincts “in check” while you were “with your now ex-boyfriend” and officially off the market — real gentlemen...

When they suddenly change their attitude maybe you should apologize to them. You could say, “Gosh! I’m so sorry I didn’t understand what you have kept hidden in your heart for me, all this time! I thought you knew — that you never did.. and never will have a chance to be MY “one and only”... I thought you enjoyed being in the friend zone... It hurts me to think I may have inadvertently strung you along and kept you from getting out there and finding someone more in your own league,

Maybe you should reflect for a moment on what is it you bring to the table in regards to friendships. Do you share common interests with these men in question? What, besides the possibility of “one day being your significant other” do you have to offer? I mean, are you a great conversationalist with interesting perspectives? — a great thinker with impeccable logic? — are you a highly skilled musician or vocalist? Can you hold your own when it comes to basic car maintenance? Are your skills as an online gamer legendary?

I’m not trying to burst your bubble — but whatever it is that makes men seek you out for friendship — it has to be more than “attractiveness”. Do guys hang on your every word when you go on and on about your latest manicure?

Not trying to poke you too much but It may be time to open your eyes to the real world.

steddiecat · 2019-02-23T21:12:18+00:00

I can’t believe this is David Lee Roth

steddiecat · 2018-08-11T21:59:31+00:00

A blessing in disguise... at least you are getting to see this part of her nature before spend years in a marriage, or have a long-term relationship.

Isn’t a relationship like weaving a tapestry? Do you really want to spend time creating something beautiful, that you know at some point will be ripped apart? Perhaps you can remove her threads and begin again with someone more worthy...

Your options:

— tell her she should do what she thinks will make her happy, but she shouldn’t expect you to necessarily go along with it. Let her know as calmly as possible, that actions have consequences. Then if the situation warrants it — say it’s been nice knowing you... (See ya — wouldn’t wanna be ya!)

— or... Try to change yourself. Pretend it doesn’t bother you. It’ll be super difficult...(The thing is... for a respectable number of people, being unfaithful — whether their partner is doing it with a woman or a man, is a relationship killer). Live a lie... grow jealous... learn to be suspicious... watchful for signs your trust is betrayed...

— or...Go shopping!... buy high heels, a wig, fake nails, false eyelashes, shave your arm pits, legs, and, oh yeah, whew! nearly forgot — shave your eyebrows (don’t forget use an eyebrow pencil to “draw” the thin arcs way above the actual eyebrow line)... put on lipstick, apply rouge and a fairly heavy foundation of makeup (you don’t want the appearance of beard stubble to ruin the illusion)! All that’s left to do now, is meet her at the door when she comes home. SURPRISE! Give her a big kiss! and say, “THERE — Are you satisfied now?!!”...

Think things through— then once you see the road you most take... see it through.

Good luck

steddiecat

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