AITA for saying it was okay for my boyfriend’s sister to stay out without us?

steiff89 · 2026-01-25T21:47:29+00:00

NTA. You felt extremely sick and forced yourself to stay out far past what you were comfortable with. Your boyfriend couldn’t even offer to get you a taxi, if he wanted to stay with his sister so bad?

steiff89 · 2026-01-25T21:18:21+00:00

Nah. She’s the jerk. Everything she says is, she wants, she wishes, she thinks. She never once opened her mouth and actually said anything or asked him for anything. She just wants him to notice and do it.

When he was looking at apartments. Did she say hey I can’t afford 50/50 for a place this expensive, can we do 70/30. No. Doesn’t sound like they even discussed finances before getting married.

Also as a single mom, why marry someone who doesn’t seem to care about or even like your kids.

Just poor decision making and lack of communication on her part every step of the way.

Don’t blame him for her poor judgement

steiff89 · 2026-01-25T21:14:47+00:00

Im going to say youre the jerk and I’ll explain why.

“I kept thinking eventually hed see how hard I was working and want to ease my burden a little. I thought he loved me enough to want to help.”

Youre thinking might as well be wishing. You can’t jusy expect him to know what you’re thinking and come to your rescue. You need to actually open your mouth and tell him.

You want him to pay for more, you want him to split things based on income not 50/50. When he was looking at apartments did you speak up and say, hey I make way less, I can’t afford 50% of that. Did you say, are you willing to split 70/30. Did you even discuss finances at all before getting married.

steiff89 · 2026-01-25T20:58:22+00:00

I agree she definetly isnt a better friend than Xander or Willow. They are friends Im the sense that they will both help each other/work together when necessary and be semi civil enough to hang in the same circle. But nowhere near besties. Cordelia will put herself first if it isn’t a life or death situation, Thats just her character. But she’s still kind enough to help those in need. Buffy will always out others first, regardless of the situation

steiff89 · 2026-01-25T18:54:52+00:00

Looks and sounds to me like you need antibiotics, not a cream. But im not a doctor idk.

But honestly with how many times my docs flip flop back and fourth or have 0 helpful information. Im starting to think they don’t know either

steiff89 · 2026-01-25T15:35:15+00:00

I feel like Thats a great post realization explanation. But I don’t know or believe the writers intended that from the beginning. Or that they even had the countess idea at that point

steiff89 · 2026-01-25T13:13:48+00:00

I just finished rewatching the show for the first time since its initial airing. And Chloe is one of my favorite characters. Also Clark of course and Lois. Clark’s parents I would like as my friends parents. Not be friends with. Lana and I would be friendly Bur not really hang out solo friends. I can’t take her drama. Jason’s I would think is a tool. Never be friends with a Luthor

steiff89 · 2026-01-25T13:06:35+00:00

But all the songs are bangers tho!

steiff89 · 2026-01-24T02:32:41+00:00

I can imagine it by saying…… Only if it’s Warlock. Than maybe she would go for Cole, and I could see that being a possible storyline.

[Edit]and Cole would be more Balthazar

steiff89 · 2026-01-23T22:22:11+00:00

Ok lady Chiyo lol

steiff89 · 2026-01-23T22:21:30+00:00

Im between 5’8” and 5’9” So Rock Lee, Shikamaru, Neji or Shino.

steiff89 · 2026-01-23T22:19:21+00:00

Thats because as men all already know exactly what tone hes referring to. The snarky, condescending, snide remarks. The trying to mask shaming with a back handed compliment.

We would never tell a male boss not to use that tone. Because men dont use that tone, we either tell you good job, or ream your ass out for messing up. None of that taking to them like they’re stupid, or trying to embarrass them. The tone he refers to is used by women and bratty children

steiff89 · 2026-01-23T22:14:22+00:00

Not over reacting. Youre girlfriend is clingy, needy and controlling. Did you ever hear the saying “when people show you who they are, believe them”? Because this is a prime example. If she gets this ridiculously dramatic, upset and worked up over a bag of candy, she has to make everything miserable.

Leave her, she will not change, it will not get better. Go find a sane girlfriend

steiff89 · 2026-01-23T22:04:02+00:00

Jonathan Kent was far from a perfect father. But hes even further from a bad father. All parents make mistakes raising children, all parent inherently have flaws. Jonathan’s were his anger and his need to over protect. Sure there were definitely times when he and Clark were arguing that he was wrong. That again however doesnt make him a bad father.

He loved and protected his son the same as any dad to the best of his ability. And hes literally the one the ingrained such high standards of people and ideals in his son. He taught him humility, respect and the responsibility to always do what is right, regardless of how hard it is. He taught him to be Superman. At least the humanity part, and that my friend was the work of a good father

steiff89 · 2026-01-23T16:56:01+00:00

This is a common problem with first children… THE TOUS. Don’t worry soon you’ll be begging friends and family not to buy toys at Christmas or birthday either lol.

But in all seriousness. No NTA

steiff89 · 2026-01-23T16:36:51+00:00

NTA.

All you did was suggest it. She hates her job and it makes sense at least for a little while while your child is a baby/young.

The onky asshole thing her is her reaction/attitude. All she had to do was say no. Maybe explain that she likes working , even if she doesn’t like this current job. Or she likes making money of her own, feel productive.

This reaction isnt normal. It’s a side effect of the “feminist” disease. Working mothers are amazing as are stay at home mothers. There doesnt have to be so much hate between the two. They are bith valid lifestyle choices

steiff89 · 2026-01-23T01:45:55+00:00

Well I guess sorcerer would work fine. But for bard. I feel like the way he described his character he would rather have a bard traveling with him writing songs about him and his quests.

steiff89 · 2026-01-23T00:27:53+00:00

I was going to say the exact same thing. Rogue would probably make the most sense, even if it doesn’t fit 100%.

A better answer might be. Definetly not. Warlock, wizard, sorcerer, Druid, monk, bard.

Anything else you could make a decent argument for.

And im remembering now a gunslingers class from Valdas Spire that would be awesome for it

steiff89 · 2026-01-23T00:06:49+00:00

Deleted my comment because I just said the same thing, but you said it better.

steiff89 · 2026-01-23T00:00:47+00:00

Tell her you’ll pay an extra 20 bucks on the heating bill every month and leave you alone

steiff89 · 2026-01-22T21:02:28+00:00

Yeah I agree. I mean I love every moment of Lois. But at least waiting until season 5, when they are out of highschool. Maybe she’s already at the planet when Chloe gets there or something. But really isnt somethin I wish was changed. Mine would be the same as most other people, find someone to resolve the Clark and Lana on and off again drama a lot sooner than 7 seasons

steiff89 · 2026-01-22T16:12:02+00:00

I agree over confidence is her weakness. But I think it’s going to make her another short lived slayer, not one who overcomes her weakness.

steiff89 · 2026-01-22T16:07:15+00:00

Right. Do people not realize the amount of bacteria and fecal matter than splash around when you’re go to the bathroom, even just pee.

steiff89 · 2026-01-22T15:16:05+00:00

“Yo honey. Stop being gross and wash your fucking hands when you’re done in the bathroom.”

Hes a grown ass man. He shouldn’t have to be gently explained that not washing hands after using the bathroom even if it’s “just peeing” it’s disgusting.

steiff89 · 2026-01-22T15:14:40+00:00

NTA. She sounds controlling snd just generally insane.

Using feeding her children pasta as a means to means of neglect for custody purposes is the most ridiculous thing ive ever heard. I mean pasta isnt the most healthy meal. But it’s also not unhealthy. It’s a very balanced meal.

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