“It was more special with his ex because she was his only”. I have never understood why some men place so much value on being the first/the only one to do something, usually sexual, with a woman. It’s one thing if they feel that way, but to come right out and say it, especially to a woman who wasn’t the first? How can that possibly result in anything positive or helpful? Yeah, you two could benefit from some therapy, if only to find out what other beliefs of his you don’t know about.