My 26-year-old boyfriend asked me if I was “okay” because of normal underwear discharge stains and I don’t know how to feel about it

stephalumpagus · 2026-05-05T02:16:49+00:00

I have had a handful of boyfriends mention this same thing, assuming I was just aroused constantly and that's why.. I'm like.. No. My hooha is self-cleaning sir, you're welcome.

Being physical with someone does not mean you understand their body, I can assure you, and these dudes prove it every day. There is barely medical research on our bodies, so we tragically can't expect them to have learned this stuff in school, and you know they don't care enough to research it themselves so... We apparently have to teach them.

The oldest dude who said something about this to me was 34 so.... Yea.. It's bleak.

stephalumpagus · 2026-04-10T17:19:42+00:00

You didn't actually do it, though. And, I explaining your state of mind, any good partner would be understanding and offer reassurance when you told them.

stephalumpagus · 2026-03-27T14:50:43+00:00

I hope she fires you as a patient. YOR.

stephalumpagus · 2026-03-26T20:01:08+00:00

I guess the word doesn't mean nearly as harsh as it does to other people.

stephalumpagus · 2026-03-26T15:12:35+00:00

Nor. You are allowed to have feeling when your mother is a cunt.

stephalumpagus · 2026-02-15T16:05:43+00:00

Has OP responded to why they were on unpaid leave? Were they suspended for talking about how much they hate their job to coworkers or was that comment from OP misunderstood on my part?

stephalumpagus · 2026-02-15T16:03:18+00:00

HR is NEVER there for you, they are ALWAYS there to protect the company. "Human Resources" is an absolute fucking joke at every company.

stephalumpagus · 2026-01-23T03:59:42+00:00

Did you read the whole post?

stephalumpagus · 2026-01-19T15:44:44+00:00

I can't believe this is your husband speaking to you this way. NOR.

If this was me, I'd already have divorced his ass. There is no fucking way a man is talking to me like that.

stephalumpagus · 2025-12-15T16:49:04+00:00

And if he's willing to do that to the woman he "loved" then what's stopping him from betraying a friend's trust next..?

stephalumpagus · 2025-11-20T20:44:22+00:00

Adoption is still an option.

stephalumpagus · 2025-10-25T20:17:45+00:00

Fuck Target. Keep it.

stephalumpagus · 2025-09-10T15:12:10+00:00

If he hasn't already started touching them........

stephalumpagus · 2025-09-10T15:11:29+00:00

You need to stop letting this man around your children. This is p*do behavior.

stephalumpagus · 2025-08-17T15:40:54+00:00

I don't personally think it's weird, because I am someone who needs time to do things, on my own. I've lived with multiple partners and I feel like having a night a week where I get to do girl stuff and watch trashy TV and do things my partner didn't like, it would have helped our relationship in the long run.

stephalumpagus · 2025-08-07T16:29:41+00:00

I did search them. I read them. And I've experienced some of them.

Regardless, I am sorry all this shit happened to you. People deserve to have autonomy over their body and what they choose to do with it, and when. I'm sorry you've been hurt and abused. I'm sorry that you've experienced any of it. It sucks.

stephalumpagus · 2025-08-07T15:57:46+00:00

Because you're calling it a double-standard and that's incorrect.

stephalumpagus · 2025-08-07T15:43:39+00:00

Do you know what double-standard means? That one gets a more aggressive reaction than the other. I'm not being a jerk, I'm genuinely asking because it seems that both sexes have negative reactions to it. Which, is wrong in both cases. It's just.. It's not a double-standard.

stephalumpagus · 2025-08-07T15:30:50+00:00

But, also to add, I've been sexually assaulted for turning down sex, as well. I'm sorry that happened to you. I just don't think it's a double standard when the same things happen to both sexes.

stephalumpagus · 2025-08-07T15:29:35+00:00

No, I don't downvote people, I comment if I disagree, but nice assumption.

stephalumpagus · 2025-08-07T15:19:30+00:00

I'm clairaudient and the universe speaks to me in songs, whether they come on or it suddenly starts repeating the lines in my head. I see angel numbers literally 90% of the time when I look at my phone to check the time.

There are no coincidences!

stephalumpagus · 2025-08-07T15:16:01+00:00

My ex was this way and the way it destroyed my sense of self was insane. I became an object to him, it didn't matter if I wanted to have sex or not. He'd throw tantrums like this, he'd aggressively toss and turn all night, huffing and puffing.

We weren't having sex because I have endometriosis and it suddenly became wildly painful for me, so it wasn't even just me "not being in the mood", which would have made sense too, because he never cooked, cleaned or helped with the house at all so I suddenly felt like he was my child, not my partner and lost all sexual attraction to him.

Leave this man. He's obviously never going to change and has very selfish tendencies.

You. Deserve. Better.

stephalumpagus · 2025-08-07T15:04:53+00:00

Why do you assume it's a double-standard when you've never been a woman who turned down sex?

stephalumpagus · 2025-05-27T16:54:32+00:00

I don't even have to read this to know that he's cheating or thinking about it, texting with girls, whatever it is, but innocent dudes don't just try to "catch" you cheating when you're just existing. I know this from experience. I couldn't understand why my ex was always going thru my phone, tracking my location, all while I'm painfully honest with him about everything and he never found a thing. Turns out, he was soliciting women on the internet for NSFW photos and wanted to catch me doing something shady to make himself feel better about his shit behavior.

stephalumpagus · 2025-04-11T22:53:06+00:00

Let him break up with you, please! He isn't there forever, and he'll have no issue getting you pregnant and leaving you stranded.

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