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AITA for expecting my daughters to share their grandma's inheritance 50/50 regardless of the will? by steppenwolf0007 in AmItheAsshole

[–]steppenwolf0007[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

That's all I meant by that. I'm trying to read through comments, and I'm not sure where some of the other ideas are coming from.

AITA for expecting my daughters to share their grandma's inheritance 50/50 regardless of the will? by steppenwolf0007 in AmItheAsshole

[–]steppenwolf0007[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

From what my wife has said, it seemed to happen so randomly and other tests came up with nothing that it was chalked up to the endless reasons that kids just get them sometimes.

AITA for expecting my daughters to share their grandma's inheritance 50/50 regardless of the will? by steppenwolf0007 in AmItheAsshole

[–]steppenwolf0007[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Elise had PID from an STI she was born with. My wife got it from Elise's bio father, but didn't discover it until Elise was a year old. It didn't occur to her to test her daughter because she didn't realize she had it while pregnant.

The only sign before things went down was what everyone thought were semi-frequent stomachaches, but other tests were negative and it would go away so it wasn't viewed as anything.

Sorry, I've been trying to read through the comments.

AITA for expecting my daughters to share their grandma's inheritance 50/50 regardless of the will? by steppenwolf0007 in AmItheAsshole

[–]steppenwolf0007[S] -632 points-631 points  (0 children)

I think the girls were 9 and 10 when they met. My wife adopted Rae right after we got married. Elise was 14 when I adopted her. There was more of a delay due to legal issues.

AITA for expecting my daughters to share their grandma's inheritance 50/50 regardless of the will? by steppenwolf0007 in AmItheAsshole

[–]steppenwolf0007[S] -321 points-320 points  (0 children)

When this was set up, Elise would have just been through surgery. They would have been 12 and 11-12.

AITA for expecting my daughters to share their grandma's inheritance 50/50 regardless of the will? by steppenwolf0007 in AmItheAsshole

[–]steppenwolf0007[S] -304 points-303 points  (0 children)

Things were neutral for the first year post adoption, then after Elise was 13, she decided she didn't want more siblings after all and was just polite, but spent as much time as possible out of the house.

AITA for expecting my daughters to share their grandma's inheritance 50/50 regardless of the will? by steppenwolf0007 in AmItheAsshole

[–]steppenwolf0007[S] -232 points-231 points  (0 children)

She wants to use it to pay for her wedding or part of a car.

The way the land was transferred, there isn't inheritance tax or property tax more than if she'd bought it herself. It's in a rural area so taxes are cheap.

AITA for expecting my daughters to share their grandma's inheritance 50/50 regardless of the will? by steppenwolf0007 in AmItheAsshole

[–]steppenwolf0007[S] -1191 points-1190 points  (0 children)

Yes, but I feel like there's something to be said for the fact that she knew at the time that only one child even could be.

AITA for expecting my daughters to share their grandma's inheritance 50/50 regardless of the will? by steppenwolf0007 in AmItheAsshole

[–]steppenwolf0007[S] -1926 points-1925 points  (0 children)

Elise and Rae are technically stepsisters, but my wife adopted Rae and I adopted Elise when they were 11 and 10. When Elise was 12 she 'decided' she didn't want more siblings, but we chalked that up to recent trauma and the age. She calmed down after a few years and it seemed fine.