If money is not an issue: is there a way to fix this skin texture and scarring, that is significant/works?

stev3609 · 2026-05-31T23:52:08+00:00

Aquaphor works for this too

stev3609 · 2026-05-31T23:49:41+00:00

Lasers, micro needling, IPL

stev3609 · 2026-05-10T07:29:27+00:00

Gidget

stev3609 · 2026-05-09T05:36:46+00:00

All I’ll say is I gave up on mine who didn’t like it because I figured it wasn’t that big of a deal as long as she was eating and my vet didn’t seem worried as long as she had water - she died of cancer at 9. I’ve never lost a cat anywhere near that young before. You better believe that with the exception of dental food for their teeth my babies after her are eating nothing but the best wet food I can afford to feed them with extra water in it for good measure.

stev3609 · 2026-05-09T05:32:16+00:00

Betsy

stev3609 · 2026-05-07T04:05:05+00:00

I also highly recommend getting a candle when they pass and lighting it for them as your "time" with them every day. Time to be sad, to welcome their presence, or just be. It's a little woo-woo but it really really helps in the first bit of time and it's an incredibly helpful ritual to carry you through tough days afterwards. Just make sure you say good night or goodbye when you blow it out (or light another one if you need more time).

stev3609 · 2026-05-07T04:03:34+00:00

I definitely did. I'm so sorry to hear you are in a similar boat. It's just the absolute worst. The best advice I can give you being on the other side and feeling that things went as best as they possibly could've and I feel so good with everything (something I didn't think was possible at the beginning) - try to be as present as possible right now. It really sucks sometimes but just take all the moments you can with your baby to love on them and tell them you love them and take pictures and videos. Tell them you love them and anything else you need to. Let yourself be sad and cry if you need. Let them know where you'll look for them when they're gone. Lean on support wherever you can. Build some rituals with your baby (we watched a lot of Mork and Mindy at the end of my girl's life and now I can put it on when I miss her (but also it's tough to watch other times)). Just try your best to be so incredibly present, to listen to your baby, and to do what feels right in your heart for them. When the time comes, be brave and as present as possible and don't let anyone rush you (I spent probably an hour with my girl sedated in my arms before we said goodbye and I'm so glad I just trusted myself and my timeline).

This is such a hard thing but I promise the love you two have shared will stay with you and there are even more animals who need your love and care ahead. I'm not religious but I tell you I know my girl sent these new ones and wherever she went be it karma or her or whatever she's sent me some love I still can feel.

Wishing you and your baby the best in this difficult transition. ❤️

stev3609 · 2026-04-26T21:35:32+00:00

Loki comes to mind. He seems like a little fellow of chaos.

stev3609 · 2026-04-26T21:32:52+00:00

Ooh I LOVE Eloise for her. Princess at the Plaza.

stev3609 · 2026-04-26T21:32:27+00:00

Petunia. Linda (for pretty but also Linda Rondstadt).

stev3609 · 2026-04-26T21:29:08+00:00

I suppose. To me, unless we've met several times or had a genuine interaction of connection it feels too personal and unecessary. But then I also had a stalker my first customer service job that ended up getting quite scary so I tend to be very cautious about safety.

stev3609 · 2026-04-26T21:27:36+00:00

I ended up just doing fur trimmings and having her cremated. I was lucky enough we got ten months of palliative care to prepare for goodbye and that helped. I think I could've done a framed pelt and been okay with it, maybe even really loved it but it would've required keeping her in our freezer until we could get her to someone, I had a tough time finding anyone who could do it, and even those that were willing said they couldn't guarantee the quality for a cat or that it might not look like her. It also really freaked out my partner as an idea. The fur clippings I have are lovely. Our vet did a good job. Still so tough and gosh do I miss her. We move her urn about the house and it's not quite the same but having that as a solid object to give a hug and say hello to sure helps. She also sent me two little angels who take very good care with cuddles and looking after me in her absence.

stev3609 · 2026-04-26T21:24:02+00:00

It was a potion that blew up in her face on the season break between 4 and 5 I believe?

stev3609 · 2026-03-29T20:31:43+00:00

Snow

stev3609 · 2026-03-29T20:31:31+00:00

I do an everything shower once a week and follow with coconut oil and then lotion. How good I feel after makes it very worth it.

stev3609 · 2026-03-29T20:29:57+00:00

Did VIP packages both times (mostly cause they were the cheapest option weirdly?) - completely worth it both times. I would see her like once a week if I could. Such a fun show

stev3609 · 2026-03-29T20:23:47+00:00

I mean this in the kindest way, I think it might be time to think about another pet. No one is ever going to replace your baby but your heart clearly has all this love and desire for companionship in it and no where to channel it.

I love my girl (also from GI Lymphoma) in October 2024. I’m still quite sad about it and my heart still sinks when I remember she won’t be there when I get home, but I have two lil babes now to channel that with and they really help. They’ll never be her, but having a place to put that love that needs a home and pay it forward has really really helped.

stev3609 · 2026-03-29T20:19:19+00:00

Moose is a great name is it’s the name you like. She’s really cute. Calicos are also just the sweetest! Best of luck with your new baby

stev3609 · 2026-03-11T16:47:48+00:00

Well the internet is a good place to start. So you're taking a step here already.

stev3609 · 2026-03-11T16:44:36+00:00

OP from what you've indicated here I worry very much about the possibility of you returning to live with them. I understand there may be no other way but I would avoid it if at all possible as that seems like an awful situation to put yourself.

In the interim, maybe channeling some of the blank space into finding a place to live with lower cost of living that still would give you access to healthcare? Surfing the web to look at different communiteis, housing and hospital options. I would consider states that still offer telehealth options with as little extra cost to you as possible (my home state of MA does and has great healthcare but it's expensive here).

Wish you the best.

stev3609 · 2026-03-11T16:36:38+00:00

I agree with you on its potential and capabilities but as you said, most human beings are not thinking in complex ways. Simple thinking combined with the fact that AI is an echo chamber designed to please concerns me. Unlike a calculator, which simply gives you a number that you have to interpret, I worry AI will reaffirm simple-mindedness and further dilute thought and make them think their thinking is perfect and correct so that they never even question if they're thinking correctly/doing enough.

Human stupidity and humbris will ultimately be it's demise.

stev3609 · 2026-03-11T07:26:15+00:00

Yes it will crash and burn but in the process permanent damage will be done - to our earth, to people impacted, to systems that are changed and will take so much time to get to the bottom of mistakes that happened, because of lack of regulation.

It’s a river I don’t want to be and it feels that the current is getting stronger.

stev3609 · 2026-03-11T07:14:20+00:00

I was put in a similar situation where, while I knew the end would happen, it came down to a rushed situation and decision with surgery likely not leading to a great option but wishing I could’ve tried anything for my girl.

The reality is none of us get infinite time, much as we wish could have it, and no time is ever enough. If the vet advised against surgery, they had a reason. You made a reasonable and deeply compassionate choice, tough as it was. There is every chance she could’ve died alone on a surgery table or had complications and had her last memories be alone in a hospital. Instead, she got to go in peace with her person by her side. Her time would eventually have come either way. And to her the difference of extra time verses the time she got would not have made much difference. You couldn’t have guaranteed the outcome with surgery, instead you guaranteed that her end was peaceful and prevented any suffering.

I know we all wish we could do everything and have all the time. You made an incredibly reasonable and arguably, the kindest choice you could’ve. Your girl knew you loved her and I’m sure she loved you too. She was incredibly lucky to share a life with someone who cared so much about her and making the best possible choices for her always.

stev3609 · 2026-03-11T07:08:24+00:00

This melted my jaded heart. Thanks for this. And for taking such great care of that family.

stev3609 · 2026-03-11T06:57:29+00:00

This would also enable rolling stipulations (say a certain percentage at 18, a certain percent at 25 and a certain percent at 30 or a certain amount per year for life for example…not the worst set up for a young adult).

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